Do we truly grieve alone

6 weeks ago i had my 3rd m/c. i thought i had dealt with it so well, until tonight when i have blown up at my boyf over some thing so silly and feel like he really hates me now.

but the deep down reason is this week i started my period, my best friend gave birth and i was due my 12 week scan. and no one even seems to think oh that must be really hard for claire no wonder she is not her usual happy self.

even my boyf still now thinks ive just gone crazy over a silly thing, he has no idea the hell im going thru i actually feel phycotic! may be im depressed, i dont know but right now im really not coping that great at all!!! i feel like i really need some support and love but dont want to ask for it im cross because no one seems to see how im feeling...

thanks for listening to my rant

xxx

Thank you

thanks honey i have spoke to him but we have a 3yr old too so its really hard to as i have tp put on brave face for him, i find it hard as i always seem to have these feelings but put on brave face but every now and then it comes to head although i can talk about it to him and rest of family i just get upset and find it hard to just come out with it too!! things are better this morn seeing consultant monday so hopefully will start to get answers xxx

Hi honey

Hope you remember me, i am sooo sorry your going through this again, i remember how upset you were all those months ago when we spoke.
Im so sorry for your loss its a terrible.
Thinking of you.

Big Hugs and chin up. xxx

Hi claire

Firstly sorry for your loss.

I had my first m/c in Feb this year at eight weeks. It's been eight months now and this week I came on and went to a family party where a relative was one month behind my pregnancy if all had gone well. I felt devestated but like you didn't want to share. I felt so down for a couple of days and really trapped by my own silence. In the end I spoke to my hubby about it - I just felt that I needed to say it out loud. You've got enough going on without keeping you feelings all bottled up inside. I can only imagine how painful this is for you being your third m/c. We all feel as though we have to put a brave face on it but Sherri is right. I think you should ask for help - you're too important to feel this crap and go through all of this in silence.

I'm thinking of you - you aren't alone. Speak with your boyfriend, have a good cry, show him and tell him how you really feel, you might be surprised. Good luck.

Your welcome

Maybe wot could help is if the rest of the family can take care of your 3yr old for a day or couple days a week to give both of you a break which might help, just a thought.

Good luck and hugs hun. you'll get back on track soon enough.
tc
xxxx

Aww hun

I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you need support and love you will have to tell your boyfriend what you're going through. Have you actually talked him about the m/c when it happened or even after the event? because one of the ways to help you grieve is to talk about it with your boyfriend or any family member you can talk to. He won't know what's wrong with you if you don't tell him, then you'll be able to cope better. Don't want to be harsh but honestly nobody would know how you are feeling if you don't tell them.
So in other words talk to people besides the ladies on here, you can get support on here but you also need the physical support too of your loved ones.

if you feel really bad you can go to the doctors and they might help you with either medication or counselling.

Sorry again for your loss but please talk to your loved ones, you might be surprised how much help they can be.
take care hun.
xx