Early mc and returning to work

Hi All

I am have issues with hormone levels which means that although I can get pregnant the chances of my miscarrying are greater than most this has all been explained and I was told that it wasnt a reason to stop trying if I felt I could handle the most likely outcome so we decided to try.

on Wednesday evening I suffered an early mc at 8 weeks it will be my 5th , the mc was complete I know this sounds silly but I had mentally prepared for it to happen from day one because of the other 4 and knowing about my health problems. It didnt stop the feeling of heartbreak or dread when I realised what was going on but did help after I was told it had happened,

My question is I have been phsyically ok'd by the doctor to go back to work and I want to. but people (MIL & FIL )keep telling me I should take more time off,

I took Thursday and Friday off (lied and said I had a migraine) but want to go back to work on Monday. People at work didnt know i was pg and tbh wont be very sympathetic as I know my boss literally worked through one. Thing is if i take more time off im going to have to explain why and I really cant be bothered going through all the formalities they have in place . mentally right now I am in a place where I can get through the day, function and talk about it at home with the people who care about me

Im not bottling it up and do talk about it with my mum, siblings and OH I just really dont want to go into details at work. I just want to look to the future get on with things and wait till i can try again

Im upset and i would be a heartless cow to not be, im tearful but mentally I know I can get through a day at work, I have managed it 4 times in the past . I work for in a hosp and am surrounded by doctors & nurses so I know im ok if anything goes wrong I dont have a strenuous job so I can take things easy , potter around and no one will notice if I dissapear off for a few mins if things get a bit emotional

Should I go back to work or listen to MIL & FIL?


To all of your that are grieving remember hope costs nothing xx

Early mc and returning to work

hi
so sorry to read your post.
you sound like a logical kinda girl - i'm the same. work creates a great distraction. i went back after 3 days and managed to focus enough to hit my target for the month (sales - great distraction) but found it hard as i work in retail and a colleague is pregnant so felt like i was surrounded by baby bumps and babies all day.
i'm sure you know your own mind and that counts for more than all the loving advice in the world but you also know that the sense of loss comes in waves and hits like a ... so be kind to yourself.
why not just book some annual leave around the time you will expect your first period (this i also struggled with BIG time).
take some time out - be nice to yourself - if you can afford it book a massage of some description - just take some time out for you or you and your partner.
i don't know if anyone has suggested this but a friend of mine lost 2 babies and found that having something to nurture or a keepsake helped. we've decided to buy rings nothing extravigant but something to acknowledge the significance of the loss.
mc has such a profound effect on us, after 5 i admire your courage and strength.
take good care of you.
x