Pregnancy after miscarriage, advice please!

Hi,

I am new to this and am unsure of how it all works but reading some of the other forums i do notice everyone is so supportive with each other and that is so nice and comforting.

I had a miscarriage in July, i was 5 weeks although didn't find out till i was 7 weeks when i went to hospital and they did scans. I suppose i was "lucky" as i had bleeding for 3 days and no pain, The strange thing is after the miscarriage i got a normal period 3 weeks later, lasted the usual 5 days then i got nothing for 6 weeks. I've just finished that period and we are going to try again for a baby but i am unsure of when i will be ovualting as my last few cycles have been out of sync. Usually my cycles are beetween 24-28 days.

Has this happened to anyone else and have they gotten pregnant again.

SJx

Xxxxx

Hi there. I just wanted to reply and share my story with you so that maybe it helps in some way and to let you know that your never alone.

I already have a 5 year old boy. But my husband and I decided that we wanted another baby last march (2008)so we started trying.

I got pregnant in the Aug of last year, we were thrilled. Though sadly it wasnt untill my 12 weeks scan in the Nov they discovered that i had had a missed-misscarriage. It was devastating for us all, but we decided that after coming to terms with it, we would try again. I got caught pregnant again in May and again we very very excited. though unfortunatly i started to bleed at 6 weeks and when i went to have a scan at 8 weeks, i was told the same had happened again. this realy affected both myself and my husband realy badly, to the extent where we were both blaming ourselves for these things to be happening to us. (even though its nothing that any one can do to prevent it). We decided that we could not go through it again and chose agonisingly to stop trying and use precautions.

However imagine our amazement in Oct i started to have some weird feelings i.e sickness and feeling tired, so i did a test and it was positive! i was so surprise that my body was dealing with a third pregnanceys in just 1 year i never knew it would be possible. My husband and i had our doubts though, due to what has happened before, and i was so sure that history was going to repeat itself. However, yesterday after what seemed like a lifetime of waiting, i had my 12 weeks scan and everything is ok!! we were overjoyed with the news and are now planning our new addition which will be due 1st june 2010.

I just want to say, please do not give up hope, i know at times we all feel that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but hopefully my experience will show that good things can happen eventually, even if it took us over a year to get here!!

All the best for the future, and i hope ive helped in some way.

Janine xxxx

Thanks for reply,

Hi ,

Thank you for replying to my message. Yeah i'll just keep trying and hope for the best. Sorry you went through miscarriages also.Never thought i would go through it at all, my mum had 5 of us with no problems and one of my sisters had 4 and the other 2 without any problems so It never occured to me that it could happen to me! Just goes to show u eh!! As I was told before "Positive things happen to Positive People" so I will just have to stay Positive!!!

Take care of yourself

xxxxx

Hi hon

Firstly, so sorry for your experience I know how painful it is. I miscarried at 5.5 weeks back in Feb, it was my first pregnancy.

I bled on and off for about six weeks, had a two day gap and then had what I think was my period. I read up on cycles etc because I wasn't sure what would happen to me. My periods have changed definately. What I decided to do was to use ovulation predictor kits because some of the advice I read online mentioned that although you can get your period after you miscarry you don't necessarily ovulate. We were ttc straight the way so I didn't want the added stress of thinking I might be pregnant when I hadn't even ovulated. The kits really helped me feel like I was taking some control in a situation I couldn't control at all.

I'm exactly like you from a very fertile family, I'm one of eight kids, all of my brothers and sisters have about four kids each - it's typical it's us who has problems, its been soul destroying for a while.

We've really tried to stay positive. It took us six months to get pregnant after the miscarriage which felt like a long time because we'd been trying for a baby since Jan 09 so it took nine long months! I think I had unrealistic expectations perhaps of my excessively fertile clan.

Anyway, I've just found out this week that I'm expecting again just over four weeks gone, I praying this one sticks I really am. If I was giving out advice I'd say consistently bd on the right time each month and take a long term view of getting pregnant i.e. up to a year. Fingers crossed you'll be much quicker than that.

I hope sharing my experience has been helpful at least a small amount. If you need any help pls pm me. Have you thought about going over to the ttc site? They're a great bunch of girls, really supportive and they know loads about ttc. They should help you to get pregnant quicker. Also have a look at the Sperm Meets Egg Plan on line, we followed it for the past two months and were successful last month. When you're ready come on over.

Best wishes, Sam

Thanks for reply sam

Hi Sam,

Thank you for replying, and congratulations on your pregnancy, so happy for you.

I have been looking at the ttc site and reading alot and it has really helped me. I'm kinda hoping that this month is the month for me but have to wait another week before i can do a test so fingers crossed its a BFP!! If not then I will be doing the SME plan as i copied it and pasted it onto my desktop!!! lol

Definatley know what you mean when you say you had unrealistic expectations as I kept thinking my mum and sisters have never had a miscarriage or any problems so it wont happen to me!! So it was such a shock when i woke up that morning and saw blood!! But the midwifes I saw were so helpful and nice and told me to contact them again when I get pregnant and they will get me in for a 7 week scan just to ease my mind. Coming on here has really helped me alot as yous are all so nice and help each other so I will definatley be staying on and talking to everyone.

Thanks for the update on your cycles after your M/C, Because Im usually between 24-28 dyas prior to my M/C, I worked out my ovulation for those dates so I've been a busy wee Bunny!! lol

Anyway thank you so much again and take good care of yourself and have a great Weekend

S.Jx

Miscarriage =(

hi.. im 17 & my boyfriend is 19, we have only been together for about 3 and a half months....i fell pregnant quite quickly after we got together buh didnt find out till i was about 5 weeks gone...i was ment to come on my period the 24th sept 09, but i didnt, took a test on the 29th said i was poss, took after test few hours later (clear blue digital) it aslso said i was preg (1-2 which ment 3-4 weeks gone) i told my boyfriend, he day day told our parents, we was soooooooo excited coundlt wait, but then sadly early jus after my b'day on the 1st oct i started spottin phoned the NHS direct line (on the sunday), and a horrible jamacian lady came on the phone and was horrible with me and said i was havin a thretend miscarriage and to say in bed and not to move for anything, it went okay, then i started bleedin abit of blood "nothing major" went to the docs and he said it was normal to have slightly pink watery fluids pass from down below due to the baby & stuff(on the monday)...it came to the friday and i started havin slight period cramps(not as bad as normal period cramps..quite mild) once again rang the NHS helpline, was really good this time around, my mom rang my local docs and got me in for the friday... i saw my gp and she felt my tummy and sent me for a scan on the following monday... (i thought i had miscarried the baby on saturday), went to sandwell hos on the monday mornin had my scan, and was told the baby had gone and my body was going back to normal, i was totaly heart broken, luckily my mom went to the scan with me, my gp told me i was 6 weeks and 5days preg when i saw her... was gutted, broke down in tears, my mom had to ring my boyfriend and tell him as i was so messed up! i had to go and see another woman and she wasnt helpful at all just said well things happen which wasnt helpful as id only found out id only lost it half hour before i saw her!!!! my boyfriend was destraught by what had happened and hes been a rock, i havnt allowed myself to get upset about it as i want to be strong for my boyfriend and family, (stupid i know)... broke down in tears to my mom tonight.... but although our baby wasnt planned me and mitch really want to try again, i came on yesterday (16th nov 09- my 1st period after m/c) and we really want to try again any advise would be really appreciated???? xxxxx