Miscarriage

Hi everyone, just thought i would say how valuable this site has been and thought i would share my story, We found i was expecting on the 13th Sept and im ashamed to say now, less than impressed, 3 children already,4 including step daughter, youngest now at high school,things not too great financially just not planned, anyway after coming round to the idea, we told my eldest (17) and a couple of friends and started planning for our latest addition, however on the 1st October had some brown spotting, bit concerned but kept reminding myself that i had bleeding with previous pregnancies so things would be ok, i had an appointment at hospital the next day at the hospital and had 2 scans internally and normal and was told that it was a possible missed miscarriage and to come back in a week to confirm. Well totally devastated, guilt that i had jinxed the little one for not wanting him, and also slight hope that things would show different in a week. The spotting had turned to red but still not loads so took the rest of the week off work praying for a miracle which sadly was not to be, as we were told there was no change and 'Junior' which we named him had died 3 weeks earlier.I was given the 3 options D and C, tablets or let nature take its course as i already was bleeding, I decided to go home and hope that i miscarried at home,if not would go in wednesday for the tablets, really do not like hospitals they mean nothing but bad news to me, anyway the weekend was spent in pain with mind and body and 'junior' made his appearance sunday evening, with me on the loo and my partner just holding me tight, quite surreal looking back, we said our goodbyes and assumed the worst was over. Hubby went to work and it was wen i got up to a empty house that the grief hit me, then a gas engineer turned up, poor man faced with an hysterical woman, he was in and out like a shot and said there would be no charge!!! Hubby came straight home, i felt there was no way i could carry on looking at this with sadness, as yesterday was also my stepdaughters birthday, so all i could see ahead was constant reminders each year. We went for a drive up the coast found a quiet pub and raised a glass to junior and agreed he would never be forgotton and we could look back and remember this day with some nice memories, we also bought a statue of a mother and father holding a baby which sits with all the photos of the kids.There had not been much bleeding throughout the day, but then the pains started again and then the blood loss just as much as the night before, was concerned so went to A and E, and was told by some joke of a doctor that gynacology was not his field but i was certainly having a miscarriage . . .No ... sherlock, how many years in medical school did he spend to tell me that!!!!! He said this amount of blood loss was totally normal and could go on for a couple of weeks and sent me packing with some strong painkillers and i was to ring the early pregnancy unit today, I just hope he was right spent the night padded up the hill with my legs raised convnced that my insides are going to fall out. Im gonna ring the clinic wen they open, sorry if i have sounded a bit flippant at times perhaps the co codamol is having a calming effect. In total i have been bleeding for a total of 9 days and sick of the sight and smell of it, bloomin hell i have been rambling but it has helped writing this even if i have bored u all to sleep. take care everyone and my thoughts are with everyone who is going through this too xx

2nd miscarriage

Hi I'm new to this site but have been reading a few of your stories and its nice to know that I'm not alone. I had my first miscarriage at the beginning of this year and bleeding lasted for about 8 wks! Beginning of September discovered I was pregnant again but when I was about 4wks had a very heavy bleed one night which settled down very quickly so went to EPU and had a scan and was expecting to hear that I'd had another miscarriage but was told that they had found a heartbeat and that I was nearly 7 wks. Had a scan booked for a couple of weeks later just to make sure that everything was OK. Had a bit of a discharge after this scan but they had seen some blood on the scan so just thought it was still OK. I had my second scan today thinking everything would be fine baby. They told us that the baby had no heartbeat so can't believe its happened again as I was still feeling pregnant and they said the size of the baby was about 7.5wks and I should have been 9wks now. So now I need to decide whether to let nature take its course or to have a ERPC and the thought of beng put under really frightens me but then the thought of the heavy bleeding and passing clots and not knowing when this will happen is a worry. Feeling very confused at the moment.xx

2nd miscarriage

So sorry that u have had to go thru this again, i am still bleeding 2 weeks from wen this all started, but now looking back think i would have opted for a d and c, i think u still bleed afterwards but still a bit traumatised by the amount of pain and size of the blood clots i was passing by letting nature take its course. Whichever course of treatment u choose neither is gonna be easy, big hug coming your way,
take care hun xxxxx

Me 2

Hi,
I am currently still bleeding after nearly 2 n half weeks and keep wondering when it will stop.
This is my 2nd misscarriage in the last 4months. And the nhs are usless.
I had a scan when i 1st started bleeding all looked ok so told me to go home and rest and booked me another appointment for a week later. 4 days i spent in limbo land praying that all would be ok. I finally lost my baby on the 2nd oct, phoned the epu and they didnt want to know me. Was told to stay at home and wait until the wed to be seen. Spending the weekend with the pain and grief.
When i did go up there and had another scan it showed that i still had my womb lining. I was offered nothing! Told to let it pass, well over a week later im still having bleeding and now wondering if there is something wrong??
And because ive got a lil boy already i have to go through this all again before they will do any checks on me to see if anything is wrong.
Sorry for going on but havent really spoken much about it as most people dont know what to say to you.
Thanks emma x

Me 2

hiya emma, i know they say let nature take its course, but this totally sucks!!!!. I had lots of clots and painful cramping until thursday morning until i had passed the sac well i think that was was it was, as it looked quite different to what i had been passing, now wondering whether junior came out on the sunday after all The cramps have gone, but still bleeding and expect to be for a little while longer as had my follow up scan this morning and they have said my uterus walls have thinned down but i still have a lot of fluid. It seems unless u get a temperature or a smelly discharge all this is perfectly normal, i just want to be able to move on but whilst i am bleedin it is just a constant reminder, please dont apologise, i have spoken to my friend also my boss but because she had a miscarriage which she was back into work after a few days i sure she thinks im just dragging this out, plus the classic kick in the teeth,"well u wernt sure if u wanted him at first anyway" ....Thanks for nothing!! I hope u feel better soon, i have no medical experience so not sure wot to say about whether the lining still being there is normal, but hey, neither does the nhs by the sounds of it !!
Take care hun xxx

Hey hunny

you are not rambeling thats what we are here for to listen and try to help i am so sorry you had yo go through this feeling like you do is normal but maybe go to your docs and tell him your problems he may refer you to a counciller as for the bleeding i bled for 4 weeks and was horrible, but glad you did something to remeber your little baby.
i have had 3 mc's and only just got over them i will never forget though and you wont either.
xxxx

Getting there one day at a time

Thanks for your kind words, i am tempted to try and speak to someone as i feel in limbo at the mo, my gut instinct is to try again for another baby asap, but as he wasnt planned in the first place, im sure my hubby thinks that things should just carry on as before and continue with the plans we had before all this happened, in fact he even mentioned having the snip, tact was never his strong point!!! xxxx

Snap!

it so comforting to read your experience coz exactly the same has happened to me. i have had no help from the nhs since i had my miscarriage confirmed on monday and was told to go home rest take paracetmol for the pain and to come back next monday to see if its all gone.Paracetamol didn't touch the sides like you i thought my insides were gonna come out i have never experienced this before and could of done with a little reassurance from the nhs. i have 3 children already all by c section and have never gone into labour but i presume tha pains i experience were like labour because now since passing what i did today my belly feels tender and like i've just had a baby.my emotions are all over the place.i feel like i'm going crazy.

Snap

hiya thanks for your reply, no you are going crazy, our hormones r gonna play mind games with us for a while yet i think. Yes the pains were a bit like contractions but except with no happy ending. i could have done without having to go back for a scan today to tell me i was now empty . . .Great shall i open a bottle of bubbly to celebrate that fact!!! Sorry ... mode has reared its ugly head again. Take care xxx