Hi everyone,

I miscarried last Aug at 8 wks. It started with continuous bleeding which got heavier, the early scan showed baby had not developed past 4 wks. I was told to let my body expel everything naturally.

Ouch... The bleeding became heavier, thick clots and almost purple in colour. The pain was so bad I was taken to A&E, I was in for 3 days. It took a few wks for bleeding to stop and the tenderness to subside, but it did and I finally began to deal with the loss, I'd lost my baby my plans, my hopes. It was hard, I felt like a failure as a woman.

Those feeling did subside, I picked myself up and chose to give myself some time before trying again.

I'm now 5 weeks preganant, I have had a brown discharge from day one. No pain, nothing heavy but it's still worrying. I've spoken to the nurse who says to take it easy and keep hydrated. I'm hoping this isnt a sign that history is repeating itself.

My heart goes out to all of you, keep strong, keep focussed remember that anything worth it (and we all know this is), is worth waiting for.

I'll keep you posted. Good Luck.

Sarah.xxxx

i really hope everything is ok and that you make sure you get yourself checked out again if you are worried.
i had a missed miscarriage last november and it really is a terrible time, i seemed to push it to the back of my mind at first but then had my ups and downs over the last few months.
my husband and i did start trying again but as nothing was happening i decided to go back on the pill because i was getting sressed and worked up.
we'll probably start trying again next year.
anyway take care and look after yourself.

Thank you for your reply. A miscarriage really is one of the worst experiences you can have. When I had mine last year, although the doctors kept trying to reassure me that "it's alright, it wasnt a baby, just a bunch of cells" I felt the loss, and anger towards them because mentally, that little bunch of cells is the new future you have planned, it's your baby.

After I was physically better my partner and I went to the beach and threw two white roses into the sea to say goodbye. It helped the healing process for both of us.

You're right to give it time, you'll know when you feel ready. We tried right away last year, I felt like a failure when nothing happened. When we tried this year, it just happened, 1st time!! My bleeding has stopped now, i'm just trying not to think about all the things that could go wrong, it makes you crazy.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Take care.

Sarah. x

what a lovely way to say goodbye, to be honest i think i've only just really said goodbye. i went up to visit my family the day that i would have been due and took a little butterfly plaque up to my nans grave and that seemed to be the closure that i needed and it just felt the right thing to do. can still be hard though.
really pleased everything is ok now just look after yourself.
take care.

I know its hard, I also miscarried last Nov at 11 weeks, I kept thinking what I had done wrong & why me etc....
I'm now nearly 24 weeks pregnant after just 2 periods following my miscarriage. I have worried most of the start of this pregnancy, even after my first scan ! I'm just beginning to stop worrying now, now I am feeling my baby kick, it seems real now.
Just take it easy & believe me the first 3 months will probably seem to go on forever, but you can make it through, I am living proof.
All the best & keep us posted on your progress. Cath x

Hi,

It isnt good news at the moment. I've started bleeding much more heavily, had the odd clot there and there too. No pains, just a little uncomfortable.

I'm gutted, my partner and family keep saying it may not mean anything and I should stay positive. I dont think I want too though because I'm convinced it will end in another disappointment.

I'm so cross with my body it's unbelievable. I'll let you know how it progresses.

Sarah. xx