Hey Girls, I found out last thursday, that i had a silent miscarriage at 10 weeks. I have decided to wait for a natural miscarriage instead of a d and c. I have been having period pains and started bleeding yesterday but very little at the mo. Can anyone please tell me what to expect. thankyou.

Hi,

First of all so sorry to hear your news. I can totally empathise with you as i had a miscarriage last Sunday. I have pcos and my o/h also has fertility problems so we were about to start icsi when we found out last week we were 8 weeks pregnant. Saw the babies heartbeat and thought it was a miracle... too good to be true as i started to miscarry on Sunday. Been to the hospital again today and not all has gone away and they have said i will be miscarrying for possibly another week.

I found i was in agony on Sunday with bad cramps/period pains, then it has eased throughout the week. I have taken ibuprophen and having hot water bottles regularly throughout the day which has helped. You may find that you bleed heavily and pass large clots.

I wish you all the best

Amanda xx
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i personally think u should see your doctor
i would have a d&c it will only get worse the bleeding and pain

Hi, Sorry to hear of your loss. Same thing happened to me in Dec 2007. I waited 2 weeks and only had spotting. I was admitted to hospital and given drugs to speed things along - it is called 'medically managed'. I passed almost everything about 4 hours later. It was a horrible experience but now I feel on the road to recovery.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I had the same thing happen to me earlier this year, I waited for a natural miscarriage but it didn't happen and every day it didn't happen day I held on to the hope of thinking things may be OK after all. I kept on going back for scans that all said the same thing so eventually I decided to go ahead and have the D&C as I was told my HCG levels were not dropping and possibly wouldn't until 12wks plus, until this happened I wouldn't miscarry. It took away all the ifs, buts and doubts that I was having and put closure to the whole thing. I hope all goes well for you.
Take care
Sue xx

Had a miscarraige the early part of last year. /Wasnt to bad to start with then was in constant pain for 3 days till everything past away, couldnt walk or even talk

hi i no what u r going through cos the exact thing happened to me n i did the exact thing as u but then nothing happened i was in utter pain so i ended having the dnc so if i was u i no its hard but u should have the dnc hope to speak to u soon love keeley xxx

Hi, i had the same 3 yrs ago - silent misscarriage at 10 weeks - didnt find out until 12 weeks, so felt awful, and so so so sad you feel like your worlds been shattered. it took me several months to get over and feel i could 'try again'. like the other lady said - be prepared cos you do see evrything - mine was after a d&c which took over 12 hours of a kind of 'mini labour' it was just awful and when i sent to the loo and knew i was going to 'pass' the baby i saw the whole thing and just screemed (i was in the hospital). please be prepared - i wasnt and it was quite a shock. i also felt the pain was quite bad and ended up having shot of pethidine (as i say i was in hospital). if you want a more private chat just message me back - i remember exactly how painful (emotionally and physicall) it was - to be honest i still think about it - i feel 'cheated' out of my baby maybe i should have had some counselling. i'm thinking about you huney xxx

hi, there are now words to say to you that will ease anythng you are feeling at the moment.
i had a misscarraige in august i was 13 weeks,like you i did not want a d and c.
they did however give me tablets so my uterus would contract.For me it was painful and very upseting.but thet will give you pain releif.
i will also fore warn you that you will see everything and that was a complete shock to me.
if i can be of any help dont hesitate to im me.also if you have any questions they will go more in depth. take care babe and thinking of you xx

I can only say I am very sorry for you and your loss. I cannot help too much because my miscarriage was in the 20th week and this progressed the same as a normal birth of course only a little bit quicker. I will say this though for me it was very important to see my baby by the birth and then say goodbye to him.......

hiya i lost my baby boy,owen at twenty weeks too in september. he had severe heart and lung deformities caused by a fetal hernia. it is so hard to deal with isnt it. what was wrong with your baby? how did you cope with it. i still think about him all the time. he would have due in three weeks. i hope to hear from you! all the best x

I lost my child at 8 and a half weeks in April, she would have been due just 3 days ago on the 29th October. It's hard because I wasn't trying for a baby in fact it was the last thing I wanted because I wanted to finish my studies. I told noone about being pregnant not even my boyfriend. I coped with it myself trying hard to think of what to do. I'd lie at night stroking my stomach and talking to it. I got attached, I didn't want to but I did. Then something snatched it from me, it took it without me having a say in the matter, I was only 16 at the time and was a wreck, I had to go to college the next day. I saw one of my friends and broke down into tears and told her everything and when I told my boyfriend he was cross and felt betrayed I couldn't have told him, we still have trust issues with it, but how do you tell a boy he's going to be a father. I had a natural miscarriage it took a few weeks and was more than uncomfortable, I couldn't bring myself to look at it. I wanted to remember it for how it felt not the way it looked dead, so I don't know whether it was a boy or girl or whether it had eyelids yet, but it will always have a special place in my heart and it something like that would ever happen again I hope to make a couple very happy and have it adopted.
Sorry I got a little carried away.
Em
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