Miscarriage - please help

Hey Girls, I found out last thursday, that i had a silent miscarriage at 10 weeks. I have decided to wait for a natural miscarriage instead of a d and c. I have been having period pains and started bleeding yesterday but very little at the mo. Can anyone please tell me what to expect. thankyou.

Iv just found out iv had the same

hey, im new to all this but i am needed some advice or just a pair of ears lol.

my and my partner went for out 12 week dating scan today (fri) and was told by a poorly trained sonographer that my baby had no heartbeat and was the size of an 8week , therefore it had died inside me roughly 8 weeks ago. im absolutly heart broken as i thought everything was going ok as i had morning sickness, sore breasts and was very emotional. i was given options as to what i wanted to do and im going for the medication one on monday and again on wednesday. i know this form is what they use for an abortion but im feeling really guilty with it still being inside me.

thanks for listening

xx

Big hugs

Hi

So sorry to hear about your loss. The same thing happened to me. I went for my 12 week dating scan on 1st Septmber 2009 and was told bluntly by the sonographer that there was no heartbeat. My baby had died at 8 weeks 6 days. I thought I was 11 weeks and 3 days at the scan. Like you, I had no idea. I had all the pregnancy symptoms although the sickness feeling had eased off a bit. It came as such a shock to me, I couldn't believe it.

I too decided to have the medically induced miscarriage. I went to hospital the following saturday to take the first oral tablet and then on the Monday after I spent the day at the hospital for the second part where they inserted four tablets behind my cervix. This started contractions which were very uncomfortable so please be prepared for this. If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to message me. I know exactly how you feel. It has been 2 weeks since my medically induced miscarriage and I am trying to look to the future. I want to try again as soon as possible. I believe that after a medically induced miscarriage you are ok to try again after one cycle.

Sending you big hugs! Will be thinking of you. xxx

I know how you feel!

Hi,
I too miscarried 2 weeks ago. Having spread the good news to all family and some friends, the next morning I was taken to A&E with severe cramps and bleeding. The sonographer told me there was no heartbeat and even asked if we wanted to see the pictures!! It was upsetting enough without seeing my dead baby inside me. I was 11 weeks and 3 days but my baby died at 10 weeks. When I think about it now my boobs were not sore anymore but I just thought that was normal. I guess that was one of the tell tale signs but I didn't know that until now.
I couldn't bear the thought of flushing my baby down the loo so I opted for the surgical removal of the remaing POC as they like to call it. But by the time I went in for it I had already passed everything. Luckily I caught my baby in toilet tissue and took it to the hopsital with me. It might sound a bit grusam but I really didn't want my baby just flushing away down the loo. I saw it's little arms and legs, I was so upset. The hospital told me it will be cremated, this made me feel so much better knowing it will have a proper send off.
I am now staying possitve, it was not meant to be this time. The sooner I get over this the sooner we can start again. No dwelling on it. I have cried and still have my moments but I want to start a family and must think to the future like you say.

To all of you ladies who are going through this - you are not alone. I had no idea just how many women miscarry. Even the nurse that looked after me told me she had one then went on to have two children.....

Stay possitive and don't give up hope. Talk about it, don't bottle it up, it helps to be open and talk about it, it eases the pain and helps you move on. You don't have to forget your baby, you never will, but look forward to the next one and the one after that (if you want more..)

Hugs to you all x x

Hugs to everyone x

I had a miscarriage last October. We had been trying for a family for years and had spent time under infertility clinic but they hadn't done anything for us. Then out of the blue last year we discovered we were pregnant! To say we were excited would have been an understatement!! We told all our family and started making plans. At 11 weeks i had a tiny bleed so i went to the doctor who referred me to the hospital. After a scan we were told that there was no heartbeat and that the baby had died at 8 weeks. It was awful. I decided to have "a natural" miscarriage as i couldn't face the idea of an operation or the tablets. I suffered some major cramps and a very heavy bleed with huge clots - i was so scared. I didn't think i'd ever get over it but with time it became easier.
You can imagine my excitement and terror when the same time of year this year we discover we are pregnant again. Again we were very excited but, after last year, we didn't tell anyone other than my parents whom we'd leaned on during the miscarriage for support. We went off on a holiday last week and had a lovely weekend away then on Saturday afternoon i experienced a small bleed again. I was terrified and rang the hospital who told me there was nothing they could do unless i was passing big clots. I went to my GP on Monday and was referred to the hospital on Tuesday for a scan. I had a big bleed Monday night and, as a result, no sleep - i knew what they were going to say! Again i was told there was no heartbeat. This time i would have been 8 weeks pregnant and i was told it had not grown past 5 weeks and that i had miscarried. They said that they would not do investigations into why this has happened again as i need to have miscarried 3 times before they do this. That was now 3 days ago and i really can't put into words how i am feeling. We decided after the last miscarriage that we would take something positive from the experience as we had never been able to get pregnant before now but this had all happened naturally - now i just don't know how to feel about it all. My husband has been wonderful and i am trying really hard to find a bright side to it all this time but am really struggling. I am now 35 years old and, although my age had never worried me before, i am now feeling really old and feel that the old biological clock is well and truly ticking!!
Well to one and all who have gone through this, hugs to you all - we all know we will get through it xx

Going through the same.

lost mine at 5 weeks. found out i was pegnant at 5.5 but it didnt all come out nsturally till i was 8.5 weeks. started with light bleeding then got very heavy like flooding a night pad every half an hour, i then lost big clots and asaw the fetus then i have like a long heavy period. make sure u keep up to date with docs as i had a nasty infection that im just getting over and have had some horrid mediction.
just relax and take it easym have a good cry.
ive been there hun, its horrid.

Hope it all goes ok for you xxx

Natural missed miscarriage

Hi lovely,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's such a dramatic and devestating time. I totally know how you feel.
I've recently been through the exact same thing and like you decided to go down the route of a natural miscarriage.
I was admitted to hospital last Tuesday, a day before we were due to have our 12 week dating scan as I started having very light spotting and mild period like pain. Had a scan and internal to find out we'd lost the baby around 8-9 weeks.
Like you I opted for the natural way as I didn't want D&C due to the risks of tissue being left behind & also that they could leave a hole in the womb, so that totally freaked me out.
I went on to bleed and have mild period pains until Saturday night, when the pain became unbearable. I had unbearable pain like contractions, they'd die off then come back every minute or so. I'd taken nerofen plus just as they started but they didn't even touch it. This pain lasted for approx 3 - 4 hours, by which I was then taken into hospital.
As soon as I got into hospital I lost a load of blood. It just came away from me like a flush, I couldn't stop it. The pain did subside, once the bleeding heavily started, I guess it was my bodys way of pushing things out. I was then assesed by Dr's and they managed to remove most of the tissue & sack using something that resmebled a smear. I'mnot entirely sure what they used, however it hurt like hell and brought tears to me eyes. After that the pain and bleeding did quieten down, but I was kept in over night to be monitored & ensure I was getting enough fluids into my body as I was loosing a lot. I was discharged yesterday and today things do seem to be settling. I'm still having mild period pains and the bleeding is still taking place, but more period like.
Every women is different so this things may happen completely different with you. However it really was not a nice thing to go through and the pain for me was unberable. Looking back at it now and if it happens again, I would definetely opt for the D&C as emotional it has made me a hell of a lot worse.
Good luck with everything, let me know how it goes. It's not to late to change your mind. My advice would be make sure you have thick pads on hand and strong painkillers, also for peace of mind have someone stay with you so they are there for you when it happens.
Take care xx

My experience

Hi,

First of all so sorry to hear your news. I can totally empathise with you as i had a miscarriage last Sunday. I have pcos and my o/h also has fertility problems so we were about to start icsi when we found out last week we were 8 weeks pregnant. Saw the babies heartbeat and thought it was a miracle... too good to be true as i started to miscarry on Sunday. Been to the hospital again today and not all has gone away and they have said i will be miscarrying for possibly another week.

I found i was in agony on Sunday with bad cramps/period pains, then it has eased throughout the week. I have taken ibuprophen and having hot water bottles regularly throughout the day which has helped. You may find that you bleed heavily and pass large clots.

I wish you all the best

Amanda xx
New member on here!

Goodluck

i personally think u should see your doctor
i would have a d&c it will only get worse the bleeding and pain

Another alternative to d & c

Hi, Sorry to hear of your loss. Same thing happened to me in Dec 2007. I waited 2 weeks and only had spotting. I was admitted to hospital and given drugs to speed things along - it is called 'medically managed'. I passed almost everything about 4 hours later. It was a horrible experience but now I feel on the road to recovery.

Sorry

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I had the same thing happen to me earlier this year, I waited for a natural miscarriage but it didn't happen and every day it didn't happen day I held on to the hope of thinking things may be OK after all. I kept on going back for scans that all said the same thing so eventually I decided to go ahead and have the D&C as I was told my HCG levels were not dropping and possibly wouldn't until 12wks plus, until this happened I wouldn't miscarry. It took away all the ifs, buts and doubts that I was having and put closure to the whole thing. I hope all goes well for you.
Take care
Sue xx

Iscarriage

Had a miscarraige the early part of last year. /Wasnt to bad to start with then was in constant pain for 3 days till everything past away, couldnt walk or even talk

Hi

hi i no what u r going through cos the exact thing happened to me n i did the exact thing as u but then nothing happened i was in utter pain so i ended having the dnc so if i was u i no its hard but u should have the dnc hope to speak to u soon love keeley xxx

Its so hard - i am really sorry

Hi, i had the same 3 yrs ago - silent misscarriage at 10 weeks - didnt find out until 12 weeks, so felt awful, and so so so sad you feel like your worlds been shattered. it took me several months to get over and feel i could 'try again'. like the other lady said - be prepared cos you do see evrything - mine was after a d&c which took over 12 hours of a kind of 'mini labour' it was just awful and when i sent to the loo and knew i was going to 'pass' the baby i saw the whole thing and just screemed (i was in the hospital). please be prepared - i wasnt and it was quite a shock. i also felt the pain was quite bad and ended up having shot of pethidine (as i say i was in hospital). if you want a more private chat just message me back - i remember exactly how painful (emotionally and physicall) it was - to be honest i still think about it - i feel 'cheated' out of my baby maybe i should have had some counselling. i'm thinking about you huney xxx

So very sorry

hi, there are now words to say to you that will ease anythng you are feeling at the moment.
i had a misscarraige in august i was 13 weeks,like you i did not want a d and c.
they did however give me tablets so my uterus would contract.For me it was painful and very upseting.but thet will give you pain releif.
i will also fore warn you that you will see everything and that was a complete shock to me.
if i can be of any help dont hesitate to im me.also if you have any questions they will go more in depth. take care babe and thinking of you xx

Hiya

hiya i lost my baby boy,owen at twenty weeks too in september. he had severe heart and lung deformities caused by a fetal hernia. it is so hard to deal with isnt it. what was wrong with your baby? how did you cope with it. i still think about him all the time. he would have due in three weeks. i hope to hear from you! all the best x

Hi

I lost my child at 8 and a half weeks in April, she would have been due just 3 days ago on the 29th October. It's hard because I wasn't trying for a baby in fact it was the last thing I wanted because I wanted to finish my studies. I told noone about being pregnant not even my boyfriend. I coped with it myself trying hard to think of what to do. I'd lie at night stroking my stomach and talking to it. I got attached, I didn't want to but I did. Then something snatched it from me, it took it without me having a say in the matter, I was only 16 at the time and was a wreck, I had to go to college the next day. I saw one of my friends and broke down into tears and told her everything and when I told my boyfriend he was cross and felt betrayed I couldn't have told him, we still have trust issues with it, but how do you tell a boy he's going to be a father. I had a natural miscarriage it took a few weeks and was more than uncomfortable, I couldn't bring myself to look at it. I wanted to remember it for how it felt not the way it looked dead, so I don't know whether it was a boy or girl or whether it had eyelids yet, but it will always have a special place in my heart and it something like that would ever happen again I hope to make a couple very happy and have it adopted.
Sorry I got a little carried away.
Em
x