Hey this is really hard for you i had an abortion last year june the 5th 06 and im finding it hard to cope i would off had it on new years eve and this year im finding it hard to forgive myself all i keep thinking is my baby would of been a year old i keep crying loads thinking i would have a baby now the only person that knows is my bf and my mate knew and told everyone and now they keep saying there gonna tell my family!! my family dnt belive in abortions so im stuck..... if anyone ever needs a chat im here cuz i cld sure do with a shoulder to cry on..... xxxxxx

Hi Kiles,

I started a new thread as you posted the last one on a fairly busy thread, and you deserve one of your own.

I hear your pain, and know that it is perfectly normal to feel like this after an abortion. Your pain is only made worse by the fact that your bf and friend say they will tattle on you to your family.

I really dont know what is their motivation, but they sound perfectly awful. If you have a closer read of lots of these threads you will see that the decision to abort and the responsibility for the abortion is not just the mothers. Where was your boyfriend and your friend to support you and give you courage to carry this baby when you needed it? Where was the open door from your family to say you can always come to us what ever the problem? You are carrying all the guilt and pain, but it is not only yours to carry.

I bet your boyfriend said something along the lines of 'what ever you decide babes is fine by me'. Every woman in her right mind hears that as 'abort, I dont want the responsibility'. The fathers have a lot to answer for most of the time;

I think you need some post abortion counselling. If you PM me with the town you live near I will look up something for you.

Big Hugs

Siobhan

Hey thanx that means so much to me!!!!i really need some one to talk to!!!! yeah he did say that actually lol!! he just dont understand i dont think when i get upset he is like whts up as if he doesnt know!!! i really wanted my baby... and i feel so guilty to this day !!! some one please help me get through this xxxx

dearest kiles,
i am so sorry for the pain that you are having to deal with, my heart so goes out to you, and to anyone else in your situation. after reading your comments and some of the other comments on the site I am so thankful for what I have and I know that our positions could so easily have been the other way around. I am new to this site, but please know that you are welcome to PM me ANY time you just need a friend or shoulder to cry on. I do pray that the Healer will fix your heart as only He can.
with much love and many prayers
kez
xxx