just found out im pregnant..on hogmany! totally alone, only 21, boyfriend already has a baby, movin in my flat next week! could the timing be worse? not been to docs yet, im in shock! sum1 helpx

Hi, you say your boyfriend already has a baby , but you don't say if he knows you are pregnant, or if you are still together.If you are together I would discuss it with him, if not you are in the same situation as me. I found out I was pregnant just after xmas.

Dear xlbabex,

So you are a scottish lass? I am a celt also - irish, but we all have our failings!

The timing probably could not be worse, you will either be faced with post abortion grief, guilt shame and loss early on in your live in relationiship with your boyfriend, or you will be faced with a small demanding gorgeous baby

Of the two, Id go with the baby anytime. You still have nearly 10 months of preparation before the little rugrat arrives. Your bf may push for an abortion, but hold strong. It is not the right thing to do.

I guess it was not what you were expecting, but life sometimes throws these challenges at you - time to swim babes.

Have courage and you can PM me anytime if you want to chat.

Siobhan