Yeaaaahhh, (thats me cheering). What a great decision!. You will soon be out of the difficult first 3 months of your pregnancy, and will coast along for about 4 or 5 months till you get very big and then you will waddle along until the big day.

Fab.

So even though England got off to a bad start with the six nations, you have something much better to look forward to!!!. (Im guessing you are British, may be wrong there)

XXXX

Siobhan

Hi im 21 years of age, i have a good job and a very active socal life, im 8 weeks gone and a cupple of days ago i found out my partner was also with someone else and on the same day i found out i was pregnent, i have told my mum and have since kicked my man into touch, but now i am faced with the what shall i do? can i cope on my own at such a young age? do i keep or not? my head is ruleing me at the min and its saying that i have got plenty of time and syuff but my hearts also saying that its part of me and i could love it to bits, has anyone been in this situation??
please help
Emmaxx

I fell pregnant at 21 and kept the Baby .. He is four now and watching Toy Story in his School Uniform with his Sister who is two.

I was lucky enough to have a really supportive partner. However, and this might come across a bit odd .. When I decided to keep the baby I took him out of the equation all together.

My questions were about myself and if I were mentally strong enough to cope with the pressure? Did I have a good family to support me (not just money and babysitting)? And did I feel that I was ready to have my life changed dramatically?

A year previous to this I fell pregnant and was certainly not in a position to have a baby and deal with all the crap that comes with .. So much love!

I do know that if you do get rid of it I would advise to do so as soon as possible. You know if it is right for you or not!

We also know that Gaelfish (and others, sorry to use you as an example) would never abort .. however .. if you do you would not be the first and you won't be the last.

What ever you decide, or if you still need to talk it through PM me. XXX

As didds86 has said, you need to really think about what's best for you. You can read about abortion and pro life etc,but its 'YOU' that has to live with your choice. Please don't get swayed by anyone you gives such advice. At the end of the day, you are the one going through this.

I am not pro abortion by any means, it is a very emotional and stressful time, and you will think about that baby you terminated in the future (as i do), but at that time for me, and situation i was in, it was the best decision....but you need to ask yourself, do and want this baby and really care for him/her as you would want to? I know its not ideal that you boyfriend is not there supporting you (so sorry for what he has put you through)....but on the other side of the coin there are plenty of great single mums out there.

I can't tell you what to do (as i'm sure you don't want me to!), so take lots of time to think about this through.

Thinking of you xxx

1 thing i just have to point out no ofeence (gleafish you are very one sided)so what ever you decide make sure its right for you.
im the same age as you and pretty much was in the same situation as you when i had my termination. and like you i thought alot about the impact on my life as i suffed from depression and panic attacks and had just started getting my life together again at the time, and personaly for me at the time i just couldnt have a baby,the prospect was too daungting i dont regret what ive done(im not heartless) because it was the right choice for me.
what ever your decesion or situation babe you always know the answer deep down anyway and dont lett any one sway you into something you dont want to do.
best of luck babe xxx

as for gleafish comment

Abortion also brings immesurable hearache and trouble to the mother.

this statement isnt always true. there are also many stated cases where termination has helped many people from harming themself further.

i dont want to be onesided myself i just thought i should point it out

have it and love it to bits. If you read the last posting of the 51 year old woman who sounds like she regrets her abortion over 20 years ago, I would not wish the same for you. You realise that the baby is part of yourself. Not only this though, the baby is also a person in its own right, and although his or her rights are not recognised by law in your country, on a human level you have to acknowledge that he or she is innocent of any crime and entitled to the right to life.

So much for the baby. Abortion also brings immesurable hearache and trouble to the mother. I would encourage you to look at the website

http://www.abortionfacts.com/life_or_choice/pro_ch-oice.asp

If you hold any of the opinions below, you need to look at this website:

.......The fetus is not a human, just a mass of tissue
.......Abortion is safer than childbirth.
.......Abortion is Safe
.......Every child should be a wanted child.
.......The number of abortions is relatively small.
.......Nobody has the right to impose their morals on me.
.......A woman should be able to control her own body.
.......Abortion must be kept legal, especially for all the rape and incest pregnancies.
.......If abortion is outlawed women will be forced to go to back-alley abortion clinics.
.......Aborting unwanted children reduces the number of abused children.
.......We need to remember that we are overpopulating the planet.
.............................. .....


At least inform youself fully. I would not want you to find out any information after the abortion which would make you regret your decision when it would be too late.

Sorry about the situation with your boyfriend, that must be very hard to cope with along with the unplanned pregnancy. PM if you want more support

hugs

Siobhan

Thank you all for your veiws i have since decided to keep the baby and i am going to give it 150% i have cut my ex out of the equasison and im oing to try my best
Emmaxxx

Yeaaaahhh, (thats me cheering). What a great decision!. You will soon be out of the difficult first 3 months of your pregnancy, and will coast along for about 4 or 5 months till you get very big and then you will waddle along until the big day.

Fab.

So even though England got off to a bad start with the six nations, you have something much better to look forward to!!!. (Im guessing you are British, may be wrong there)

XXXX

Siobhan