Hi
i am new to this, but i need some advice, i have recently found out that i am pregnant, i am really scared and confused,I cant have this child but i dont think i can go through with a abortion its not right, i have always been against them and never thought i would be having one

can some help??

Sweet lady,
you are so much stronger than you think or ever could imagine that you could be, and there is nothing that will show this to you more than being a mommy to the beautiful baby that is formed and growing inside of you. being a mom is definately not easy, but once you have held your beautiful baby in your arms there is nothing you wouldn't do for your child.
I don't know what difficult situations you are facing right now and as a lot of women on this site have stated, none of us can pretend to. but do you think that aborting your new little angel will help or improve those situations?? probably not, but I know that having that gorgeous person in your life will robably help and inspire you to climb whatever mountains are in your way!!
I am not here to push or pull you in one direction or the other I would just simply like to encourage you to think about all sides of this situation and also consider the long term.I'm sure you'll make a super mommy
thinking of you!!

I am just at the beggining of this, i took a sample to the doctor on monday and he said it would be a week before i have to go back to discuss an abortion, my feelings and emotions are mixed right now, i keep crying thinking about it, i dont know what to do.

Hello there,

I was just wondering what makes you feel that you couldn't have this baby? Abortions are not right for some people but sometimes other options are even worse.

I have been through and abortion and had 2 children so I have been at both side of the coin.

To have a child is hard, reqarding but so very hard. Having an abortion is easy, but it sometimes leaves scares (emotionally) that can stay with you for a long time.

I hope you get the support you desire. XXX

you're scared and confused, what you don't need to hear is that abortion is genocide. she's entitled to her opinion but saying this to you while you're so vulnerable is unhelpful. me, i have never terminated a pregnancy, have suffered a miscarriage last year and i am currently trying to conceive, but i am lucky in my situation. no matter what you do, think about the implications of both choices because their consequences are life long. talk to someone who knows you and loves you.
take care sweetie
Jo
xxx

Just wanted to say its easy for people to judge until they are in the situation, just think about it and am sure you will make the right choice for YOU and not anyone else. I was against them and thought id never even consider it but its the right choice for me.

Abortion is not right, that is what your heart is telling you, and it is true. It is a statement that makes some women on this forum very angry and something that very few people are willing to admit, but it is so unjust to the unborn, it is the modern day genocide.

So taking it from there, you are still scared and worried and pregnant, so where can you turn?. Well there are many likeminded people that dedicate their time and efforts to help women like you who find themselves in crisis pregnancies. This is where I would start. Please please PM me with the town where you live closest to and I will do my best to put you in touch with someone who can give you practical help, so that you know about all of your choices from adoption to fostering to social welfare entitlements which would help you to keep this child.

Try not to worry too much. The road ahead is certainly bumpy, but you will be able to cope with this pregnancy, and it will make you a stronger person. You are not on your own hun, I would love to give you whatever support I can.

Siobhan

Hi, it's sad to hear that u going thro' a tough time.my friend was the same as you, she never thought that she would be in that situation. it's easy to judge on what we would and wouldn't do, but until we're actually there it's a whole different story. you need support from your close friends and family and your gp who will give you advice. you and only you will have to think why you can't go through with the pregnancy and what your options are. my friend was 6 weeks when she had a termination, it was horrible for her, she had no stable home, no money, no family, she was foreign so would've got no help from govt, her bf was only new, i remember how hard it was for her. she did it and even though she feels it was the right decision she's still sad that she had to do it. i don't know if i'm helping or not, either way it's your choice. take care
jo
xxx

How u doing? I know exactly how you are feeling right now. We are both in the same boat.

How long have you known for??? You are bound to be scared and confused believe me I am aswell. Its going to be one of the most difficult decisions we have both ever made but you will get through it. Have you been able to speak to any close friends/family as of yet??? They will help you through this. How has the babys father taken the news?? Only you can make this decision and I know abortion isnt going to be easy if that is what you decided on.

Can I ask why you cant keep this little 1?? To me Im struggling because I have not been with my boyfriend that long...just 3 months. He has been so good with everything.

Iv got till Monday to decided,when ill go back to my GP an we'll take it from there.

Feel free to Private message me if you want to talk babe.

Keep your chin up xxx