I came to this site a couple of weeks before my abortion , and I had someone offering to buy a baby and also someone asking me to pospone the op so that they could try and talk me out of it. Most women on here know what they want and just want advice and support not some pro lifer preaching to them. Its hard enough as it is.

I have just exploded and can't take any more .... I have seen yet another lady being bombarded with messages about how her choice to abort is wrong.

Can I just point out that this site should not be about putting YOUR point across regardless of if you are pro life or pro killing the world.

This site is about helping and supporting women. Yes they do ask for advice and people like Gaelfish are very insightful and know how to obtain lots of information however, if a lady chooses an abortion then it is not up to a pro lifer to persuade her to keep the baby or to put them up for adoption.

To choose to abort is a hard task, never taken lightly.

Please do not feel that you have to preach and feel some sort of holiness that you have saved yet another life and are going to heaven because of it because for all you know you have just wrecked the life of a beautiful young women.

No one on here knows the full and real story of any of the girls asking for help.

Please can we respect each other and not use shock tactics or harsh words that we think will get the reaction we want.

Abortion is a fact of life that has to be dealt with. Can we all be adults and deal with it sensitively .. if you can't or feel to strongly to be nice about it please leave this site alone and look somewhere else for your fix.

Some of us want to help people in the here and now.

I think that no matter what side of the fence we are on, we are not here to put our opinion onto ladies who need our support. the ladies who do so probably have the best of intentions but i don't think it's fair or helpful.
take care everybody
jo

I came to this site a couple of weeks before my abortion , and I had someone offering to buy a baby and also someone asking me to pospone the op so that they could try and talk me out of it. Most women on here know what they want and just want advice and support not some pro lifer preaching to them. Its hard enough as it is.

I think some of the messages and sites are VERY harsh. It is such a tough decision to make and each woman goes through a lot of emotions and has to make a massive life changing decision which is best for HER! We have been given the right to choose and abortion in this country and we do not have to fight for that right when we have the choice to make.

A lot of people will never know what it is like to make these decisions UNLESS they are put into that situation themselves and very often, their views change.

I had an abortion at just 17. I was extremely upset about a month after it happened and beat myself up about then thought, you know what, only I can change the way I feel. So I did, and made the most of my choice by travelling, often alone, set up a business which again involved lots of travel, partied hard, relax and got to know more about myself and the world. I KNOW i made the right choice. My current partner thought that he was anti abortion and once even asked directly if I thought it was like murder!! And said he could never do it. But guess what...now when we found out I was pregnant, he was 99.9% certain we should have a termination!!

I've spoke to a few girls on here over private message and all seem to recieve these nasty PMs which I personally ignore, and the links. I do my own research and decide what's best for me.

This time, I have at the last minute decided to keep the baby but NOT AT ALL because of these people - and not because I think abortion is wrong. It is very right for some women in their own personal situations and beleive that a place like this forum, but free of any harsh comments and instead support and commuincation is very helpful.

The statistics used about women suffering from depression after may infact be lower if they weren't made out to feel like bad people.

i agree with you on this subject! i found this site just a week befor i went for my termination and also got messages telling me to keep my baby or how i could have it adoped, which honestly for me at the time would have been harder.


Do pro liferes not think of the affects of adoption on the woman either? to know you have a child some where regardless wether we wanted on not, and what happens if we reunite with that child? wouldnt that be just as emotional? personaly i think that thats insensitve.


like ive said before i dont disagree with pro lifers i just dont understand the concept. in the uk 2 doctors have to sign a form for a termination and they both have to agree that it will be depremental to the mothers health either mentaly of physicly, so i dont understand how it can be pro life when its taking away from someone elses!

i come on this site now to try and give unbias view and help otheres in this situation with support and comfort

didds86 XXX

I had my termaination this morning, when i logged on here i had 8 messages from a women begging me not to do it, she had sent lots of limks for me to look at, telling me it is wrong to abort. She even wantede me to put off my appointment so she could speak to me. I had already made up my mind when i joined here i just needed a little comfort not lectures on what i was doing. Disscusiing your opinion is fine but that is taking it too far. I will only stay a memeber here to chat to other women who need a non bias bit of support and can only hope in the future people can lay off women who are thinking of terminating, we know is a hard choice and have put alot of thought into it!!!

Hi Ami,

It is horrible isn ... .. all this bickering when all you want is other people to say "hey, it's alright".

The reason you went through with the termination is of no consequence now. That is something that you decided was best for you and that is all that matters.

After mine I felt like being quiet and just sat there reading, being peaceful.

I hope you are feeling peaceful.

x Kelli x

p.s. Shelly ... I doubt it too but we have to keep trying for the sake of all the girls who visit ... what a horrible state of affairs .. trying to persuade people to be nice and considerate.

Yeah im ok, just chilling, have to go back tomorrow for the over pill, My daughter is with her dad so ive got some time on my own to relax. Like i said the only reason i will still visit here is to try and stick up for the other women. the eamils i got made me more upset than actually having the abortion, some people are heartless. I got one asking to buy my baby then one saying i was being investigated for baby trafficing, its madness!

I doubt it will stop the nastyness, but i just hope that women will still come on this site and get the much needed support they need........without being judged and being told what to do, by others trying to use the shock tactic and having no real experience of abortion or medical insight