Ok well my abortion was 2wks ago now, and at the time i wanted to keep the baby, but saw that i couldnt support a 3rd child alone.Since then the ab father has been hounding me, about our relationship, i felt it couldnt carry on as he hadnt been supportive of me wanting to keep the child.He never came to any doctors visits or scans of which i had 5 in total.on the day of the op my friend took me as he wouldnt come with me.It also cost me over $1000 for the op,all of which i paid myself.Now ab father thinks hes done nothing wrong, cant see at all why i feel unsupported.
This past week he has been abusing me by phone and txt, telling me what a horrible person i am, a player, full of crap etc etc....ive tried ignoring, but it just gets worse.I feel like this is the last thing i need, i feel bad enough....yet he doesnt understand.He still wants a relationship with me, even though he never wanted me to have our baby.
Im at my wits end emotionally and mentally now and it all feels too much.Has anyone else experienced the same after an ab and how did you cope?

Hi Kiara,

Whether this man understands it or not, there is always a lot of anger rooted very deeply within any woman who has had an abortion due to duress or lack of support from a partner. I guess any man who forces his woman to abort his own child cant be trusted on a very fundamental level. You know yourself this is no basis for a relationship, so just ignore this looser and trust your instincts. If he cant understand this, then dont make it your problem. Record the instances of abuse, and go to the cops. They might be able to advise you of the next steps, and sometimes are willing to have a little word in his ear...


Keep strong Kiara, for yourself and your children and dont for one minute start to question yourself about the things he is accusing you of. He is a user and an abuser and not a good shoulder for you to cry on right now.

Siobhan XX

I agree, you should leave him and protect yourself and your kids.

He sounds as though he will bring you more misery and stress then you have already endured.

You need time to repair emotionally after an abortion and you need support not pressure.

I hope you get the peace you deserve.

XXX Kelli