i'm so sorry for that post. i was feeling extremely sorry for myself and had had a drink. truth be told i cant even remember writing it.

the reason i was feeling so sorry for myself is that i recently went through my 2nd ectopic pregnancy and as i said i thought i could forget by drinking.

this is no excuse, i dont know what the odds are to having a successful pregnancy after a termination so i shouldn't have spouted of. possibly i was feeling a bit resentful towards you ladies contemplating/having had an abortion when i didn't grow my baby in the right place. i hope this makes sense to you all??

once again, my apologies

....for all the ladies out there contemplating abortion.......what if you cant go on to have a healthy, happy pregnancy after abortion?

what about miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies, or any other complications you can have? will you blame your previous abortions for these?? or will you feel 'lifes a ... ' how will you feel knowing that you've aborted a healthy child when so many people are struggling to have a child?? how will you feel in years to come when you ARE trying for a baby and nothing happens? will you blame your abortion then??

just a thought!!

what people go through when they have an abortion.
Fair enough some people think its horrible and wrong but you can never truely understand unless your in that situation.
I'm 16 and had an abortion when I was 15 and it's not like I'm a heartless murderer at all! because yunno what its tough, especially when your like me and your supposed to forget it ever happened and never speak of it again.
I feel like crap some days yunno and I just wish I had someone to talk to but I don't and it can rip you up inside it really can so please don't because it does get to me knowing there are people that can't have children and everything

i'm so sorry for that post. i was feeling extremely sorry for myself and had had a drink. truth be told i cant even remember writing it.

the reason i was feeling so sorry for myself is that i recently went through my 2nd ectopic pregnancy and as i said i thought i could forget by drinking.

this is no excuse, i dont know what the odds are to having a successful pregnancy after a termination so i shouldn't have spouted of. possibly i was feeling a bit resentful towards you ladies contemplating/having had an abortion when i didn't grow my baby in the right place. i hope this makes sense to you all??

once again, my apologies

you know what... for me and other women on this website we are finding it extremely hard to make such a big decision aswell as the women who have had to go through it. Everyone has a choice of what they want to do any if you red most blogs on here of women who have terminated they have gone on to have beautiful, healthy children.

Personally I think you should leave us all alone. that may be your opinion but on a matter so sensitive... KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!!!

we come on here to talk for help, guidance and advice at a horrible time and have to look at your rubbish, which quite frankly is a waste of your time and ours

and shove it where the sun dont shine!!!!!

hi there

like the lady before me said, complications arising from termination are very rare. and there is little chance that it will affect your fertility at all.

Do you just sit at home and think "hmm.. I know how I can upset some people going through an ordeal.." Would you go on to an alcaholics website and say "aren't you worried that when you quit you'll want another drink?"

What sort of a person are you?

The sad thing is that a lot of women who have trouble conceiving after an abortion WILL blame themselves but this is a misconception that needs to be sorted out, just another way to make women feel guilty about this choice which by the way is really really hard.

I think you should take your "thought" back to the stone you crawled out from under.

PS are YOU contemplating abortion maggail70? If not you need to ask yourself what am i doing here?

for a start peole can and do go on to healthy happy pregnancies after a termination and if they dont get pregnant strait away thats natural. it takes on average for a coupple who are trying two years to concive a child !
why would we be blaming a previous termination for complications? they are not directly linked to each other?!
many people who have not had to have a termination also suffer complications.
who says the child that was aborted was healthy? later complications could develop as in any pregnancy!

so heres a thought for you deciding to have a termination is one of the hardest things we have been through, its not like we are using abortion as a form of birth control, lots of terminations are from woman who use birth control. we all have our reasons! whether it be mental of physical heath or other of either the woman or the baby. if you cant or dont want to understand fine! but dont judge us till you have been in the same situation.woman on this site are looking for help and support so they are able to make a clear choise thats right for them, not to be made to feel guilty

oh well, what a nasty thought you have!

There are women out there that have had more than one abortion and now have 2 or 3 healthy children. Having an abortion carries less risks than giving birth, so before you go on, judging us, please STOP and put yourself in our shoes? Why have we made the decision to have an abortion? It is the most heartbraking thing a woman can do,so please give us a breat and keep your thoughts to yourself.

having an abortion or not having an abortion cant make someone who cant have kids have them so saying that is irrelevent and pointless!

everyone takes what they can do for granted.

women who cant have children, seem to hate the fact that people who can have children, can make a decision not to keep a child.

but people who cant have children take other things for granted too, like , you are on this website reading and writing, using your fingers, sight etc..browsing around, when their are people in the world who cant see/hear/write/ disabled. etc..which stops them doing things you can, and they may think your taking advantage of your abilities, because your not outside using it to its limits, like laying in the grass, watching the sun go down.
its not just about you.