I had a medical termination, because that was the only option offered to me. My mother had a surgical termination when I was four. From both mine and her experiences, if you decide to have a termination, we recommend that if you have the option ask for a surgical termination.

Medical - the only physical pain I experienced was something like a terrible period pain. Some women experience nausea and vomiting, but I'm not sure how common that is. Most women also have to stay in hospital overnight, but I was lucky and it was over quicker than normal. The pain is mainly emotional, as you do experience passing the foetus and depending on how far on you are, you may or may not be able to see it. I was 13 weeks and I could see it, so for me, I was traumatised. I was angry that the doctor did not tell me that the foetus would be so fully formed. Maybe I should have researched, but it's not something I wanted to face at the time.

Surgical - (from what my mum said) you are asleep during the operation. She said she felt pain for a few weeks after, but she did not experience seeing the foetus, which is why I wish I had been offered this instead. Obviously, either way it is still a traumatic experience, but if it is for the best, then you know you are doing the right thing.

I hope this helps... keep your chin up.

I am so sorry for asking this, but I have just found out that I am pregnant and do not know anyone who has had an abortion beofre.

Can someone please tell me if it hurts when the procedure is being done? will I feel any pain??

I still havent made my decision on what to do yet, but the prospect of this is absolutely terrifying me!

Thankyou so much x x x

a medical abortion and this was painful, its like really really bad period pains and I was sick a couple of times aswell, also its very uncomfortable. I don't know if everyone gets as bad as that all I know is I was the worst one in the hospital on that day.

But I'm glad I did it this way instead because in a way it makes me feel less guilty I think because of the horrible things you see about surgical abortions but yeah you might be able to see the foteus in a medical abortion and that can be awful.
Its really up to you.
If you do decide to have an abortion then I really do wish you luck and hope everything goes ok for you.

I had mine just under two weeks ago and it hurts a lot both physically and emotionally. Make sure you kno what your doin before you do it.

babyblue x x

Hi there,

I'm a guy so I can't tell you if an abortion causes you any physical pain or not, but I can tell you that it does cause a lot of emotional pain.
A while ago, we thought that my girlfriend was pregnant and went to abort, but at the last minute, she said that she didn't want to take the tablet that would kill the baby.
I know how scary an unplanned pregnancy can be and understand why you're thinking about abortion, but I promise you that it's not the right way to go.
I felt like you probably do - that I couldn't have a baby - that it wasn't the right time and felt that abortion was the only way to go. But now, a few years down the line, I'm so glad that my girlfriend didn't take that tablet.
If she had, it would have been something that I would have regretted forever. The panic and fear of realising that your pregnant can make it almost impossible to think clearly and make a good decision, but the problem with that, is when that panic leaves you after an abortion, suddenly the reality of what's happened hits you with real clarity, and that can affect you forever.
Looking back, from my experience, the only advice that I can give you, is to think of what is actually happening inside you. Like anything in life, don't focus on the negatives because that doesn't help, but remember that your baby inside of you is real and alive. It's unique and no matter how many children you have in the future, you can never replace that child. It already knows if it's a boy or a girl, if it'll have dark or light hair, blue or brown eyes etc and in a few months time you'll get to meet her.
You can get extra financial support, and if you're studying, colleges are very flexible nowadays and can actually help you arrange child care.
If you give this baby a chance, you can hold your head high knowing that you've given your baby the chance to live and share it's life with you.
I truly hope that this helps you and that you're ok

God bless

Ben

i agree i would say surgical is better. i had a medical one about 7 years ago now, i dont regret it as i was only 17 at the time and i wouldnt have waht i have now.

I was about 12 - 13 weeks also and got period like pain. IThe nurse later told me it was contractions as they give you a tablet to make you go into labour. this lasted for a couple of hours until the baby passed. I also was surprised how well it was formed, it had all its fingers and toes and this was quite a traumatic experience. it will stay with me forever.

I wish i had known the full extent of what an abortion involved. i didnt know i would have to be admitted to hospital and stay all day.

maybe you should speak to your doctor and explain how you feel. no-one can make your mind up for you it has to be your choice. good luck to you whatever your decision x

I had a medical termination, because that was the only option offered to me. My mother had a surgical termination when I was four. From both mine and her experiences, if you decide to have a termination, we recommend that if you have the option ask for a surgical termination.

Medical - the only physical pain I experienced was something like a terrible period pain. Some women experience nausea and vomiting, but I'm not sure how common that is. Most women also have to stay in hospital overnight, but I was lucky and it was over quicker than normal. The pain is mainly emotional, as you do experience passing the foetus and depending on how far on you are, you may or may not be able to see it. I was 13 weeks and I could see it, so for me, I was traumatised. I was angry that the doctor did not tell me that the foetus would be so fully formed. Maybe I should have researched, but it's not something I wanted to face at the time.

Surgical - (from what my mum said) you are asleep during the operation. She said she felt pain for a few weeks after, but she did not experience seeing the foetus, which is why I wish I had been offered this instead. Obviously, either way it is still a traumatic experience, but if it is for the best, then you know you are doing the right thing.

I hope this helps... keep your chin up.

It really depends on what procedure you choose. Medical or Surigal. Both will be emotionally painful.
I have had both procedures so if you do decide to go ahead with a termination then please feel free to send me a message and i will let you know what happens as best i can.