Sorry I should have made it clearer. I'm due to have the pill abortion and all I've read is horror stories so I'm panicing slightly.

But congratulations on the new baby

Hi.

In 2 weeks I'm due to have a medical abortion. I've been reading experiences of these and now I'm absolutely terrified about the actual procedure. I was just wondering if anyone can answer afew questions for me about it?

Is it really as painful as people say?
How long does the pain last?
Will the blood loss be enough to make me ill?
How long will it actually last?
How many days will I bleed for after?
I've read that the fear of it is worse than the actual procedure. True?
Any other advice?

I wasn't given any choice about how it's going to be done and now I'm wondering if I would prefer the surgical one but it's probably too late to arrange that (By the end of this month I wont be in the country anymore it really cant wait)

Please don't give me a lecture about my decision. Yes I am 100% sure about this and no-one is forcing me into it. At the time I was on the pill but I couldn't take as I was anit-biotics, the condom split and the morning after pill failed, so please no lectures about contraception either. I will be 8 weeks pregnant when it happens.

THANKYOU
xxxx

I had a medical abortion last year and i was 7 weeks along.
I will try my best to answer your questions from my own experience:
Does it hurt?? To be honest physically it doesnt. Its not much worse than a bad period.
How long does the pain last? For me it was only a few hours physically, but even if you know that this is the right thing to do, which i did, it will still be emotionally painful which is only natural.
Will the blood loss make you ill? It didnt me, and i was fine the next day doing my day to day tasks. Its just a little messy to begin with as its very heavy.
How long will it last? For me it lasted a few weeks with on off bleeding after this.
How long will you bleed after? It depends on how far along you are when you have it done. I was 7 weeks and bled heavy for a day or so, and then it was like a normal period and then 2 weeks after spotting alot i bled heavy again for a few days.
Is the fear worse?? I would say yes, and also coming to term with it as well. Because even if it is 100% the best thing to do, you will still feel a loss. I think thats one thing most pro lifers dont understand. WE are not HORRIBLE people who make a decision to have an abortion lightly, its still very painful for us.
If you want me to go into detail on what happens just send me a private message and i will do my best to explain everything.
Good luck.

Hi there,

If it helps, i'll give you the benefit of my own experience.
I'm a guy and was in a situation a while back where we thought my girlfriend was pregnant. I felt 100% sure that abortion was the only way to go and I doubt anyone could have changed my mind.
At the last minute, my girlfriend decided that she wasn't going to take the tablet. There wasn't much I could do. Now, a few years down the line, I'm so glad that she didn't take that tablet as it would have been the one thing that would have ruined my life with guilt and regret.
What I'm trying to say, is that although you know abortion is the right thing for you, it can turn out later that it wasn't, and by then it's too late, leaving you the rest of your life to wonder 'what if'.
You have plans for the future, so did I, but bear in mind the long term consequences of abortion.
There is a life inside you, and although it might be the last thing you want right now, your feelings change with time and it can turn into the one person you couldn't live without.
i hope i haven't given you the lecture that you didn't want, but I saw big similarities between how i felt and how you're feeling now and wanted to give you a look at what could happen in the future if you aborted.

All the best

Ben

To be honest you can't say "but I saw big similarities between how i felt and how you're feeling now" because..
1. I have not put about how I'm feeling about the pregnancy (and for your information I KNOW it's the right thing to do) I've only said what I'm thinking about the actual procedure.

2. You will never be pregnant so you have NO IDEA how i feel no matter how much you think you do. Your a pro-life MAN - you will never understand the decisions that some woman have to make.

3. That's great for you but obviously your girlfriend was already having doubts about doing it. I'm not. Therefore it's a totally different situation. You have no idea about my life, the father or anything that is going through my head right now.

4.Please tell me how your experience has anything to do with what I have asked?

Your making huge assumptions about how i feel or my life and I cant understand how your getting any of that from what I have wrote, yes i have put im scared. Scared about the procedure not about my decision.

This topic isn't about whether I'm doing the right or wrong thing so yes I do see it as a lecture as your trying to make me thing "oh god!!" and change my mind and be eternally grateful for you for saving me from a lifetime of crippling guilt (which by the way not everyone feels, not everyone sees it as a mistake as everyone is different). I havent asked for your opinion on what i am doing and my choice will never affect you. I know you see it as giving advice about the whole situation because the IDEA of abortion was in your head for afew weeks. But how would you have felt when you were "100% sure" if a load of pro-lifers started saying all this to you. I haven't come on here for pro-lifers to try and "give advice" about what is best for me as you don't know anything about me, i know exactly what i'm doing. Yeah maybe I will regret it but that's a risk I'll have to take.

Sorry if that seems harsh but before trying to give out any advice or jump to conclusions about me you should really stop and think and understand that other peoples situations are not the same as yours.

Sorry to everyone else having to read that, I'm not normally that argumentative So any advice or experiences of the actual procedure will be very welcome.

Hi, i had a madical abortion last august due to the baby not growing properly, i was 8 weeks at the time.
first of all its not painful at all.
i hardley bled, only lightly for a few days,
i went into hospital in the morning and was home by 2pm

What they do is take you to a bed, you have to take all your clothes of and put a gown on, then they will get you to sign the forms, and ask you one last time if your sure about doing this, they then place two pesseries inside your vagina to open up your cervix, there is no going back when they have done this, you then have to wait an hour for them to work your not allowed to get up or anything but they have magazines ect for you to read,
when its your turn you walk down to the operating theatre, then they put you to sleep, next thing you know its all over,( i woke up crying)
then you get wheeled back on the ward, have a slice of toast and a cup of tea then after an hour ( you have to wait an hour afterwards) you are allowed to go home,
its quick and painless, but i felt like i was on a conveyer belt with the rest of the ladies in an abortion factory,
the physical pain is nothing, its the emotional pain afterwards that hurts, even if you know what your doing is right it still will hurt sometimes ( i dont regret it due to the abnormalities and im currently 6 months pregnant with a healthy baby)

Sorry I should have made it clearer. I'm due to have the pill abortion and all I've read is horror stories so I'm panicing slightly.

But congratulations on the new baby