Hi there i had a medical abortion on the 13th and 14th in december 2007 just gone and i no now it was the wrong thing to do i was only 17 at the time and my boyfriend who i have now been with for a year hadnt met my parents so it wasnt the right time but ever since i had the aborion i have regret every moment of it and would love to try again i was just wondering if its ok to start trying again now because i read things and they say there may be complications with the pregnancy or its to soon but its been 5 months since i had it would it be ok or would there be ricks please does any1 no thanks sophie

Hi Sophie, I read your post and felt I had to respond to you.
I too had an abortion when I was quite young, infact it was a week before my 16th birthday. I knew at the time it was the right thing to do even though I had a boyfriend. However afterwards and for quite a while after I felt very very sad. Just looking at babies in their prams made me feel quite upset. In the end it beacme too much for me to cope with on my own. I attended some counciling at my local BPAS. In time I felt much better and was able to get on with my life. I may be wrong but it sounds like that might be how you are feeling. I later went onto university (it was a great laugh), and I am now 33 and married to a very special man with two smashing little boys. I now know that I would not have been ready to cope with a baby in my teenage years. Nothing prepares you for having children, but a few life experiences do help!! You can not replace what is gone, no matter how sad you feel. Please please think carefully about trying again for a baby. Babies are fantastic. Once they are here you will find that YOU will be bottom of the list, and any simple needs you have (even having a wee in peace) becomes very hard. My youngest is five and has started school, and only now am I getting some sort of life back. I hope I have not offended you anyway. Good luck

Hello.
I agree with vix100. Lots of women fall pregnant soon after abortion due to the feeling of loss that they feel and then go on to have another abortion. (i am one of them)
You need to think if another baby is what you really want and do you only want another one because you feel guilty for having had the ab? Think of all the reason you had the ab the first time round. Do they still stand now?
If its just replacement baby feelings, then maybe get yourself a puppy until you truely are ready.