I am 39 in two weeks and I am pregnant with my second child, I lost my job (I still don't have a job, My partner had left me, he came back when he found out I had lost my job, then a few weeks down the line told me he had met someone else, but wanted to be with me. Its been hard and now I find I am pregnant. Neither of us wanted another child but no I find myself in this situation with no financial security, not a stable relationship and an awful decision to make.

Hi tjc

Everything seems really bleak right now, but you can get help. At your age this is probably the last chance you will get to be a mother again, so please dont destroy it.

In an ideal world, every baby would be born into a stable home with a loving mother and father and have financial security, and even a pony. Of course we dont live in an ideal world, but in the end a baby needs the loving arms of his or her mother, and that you can provide. I mean how broken and messed up is your first child because of your unstable relationship? I bet not at all. Kids are so resilliant, we could learn a thing or two from them. Why should your second child be different?

There is help out there for the asking. Depending on which counrty you live in there are state benefits, education grants, child minding grants, psychological support. Ok it wont be the high life, but this baby will be worth the financial hassle. The most important thing is to be strong for your big child and your unborn child and for yourself.

Have you spoken to a pro-life crisis pregnancy counsellor? This might be the first step. I can help you find one if you want.

Take care dear woman.

Love
Siobhan