I recently found out that I am six weeks pregnant. The father is not my husband that I am separated from. I have been stupid to not have used contraception and now I have to face the consequences. I will probably have a termination as all the reasons are there for it. I don't know if I should tell the father as he is a recovering addict and I fear that he's not strong enough in his recovery. Am I being selfish in not letting him take part in the decision? Please help, I am so confused and scared.

Hi, im ariana.

I know you dont know me but i saw your bullieten and i felt like giving my opinion see if it helps or not :].


Your not being selfish because sincerly your still confused on wether to tell him or not. so you care.

Not telling him is good on one point because it wont stress him even more since hes going through what you put down.

But then again not telling him can affect you and him allot.

Since he is the father he still has a right to know. I know it would be hard to tell him but its better if he know then later on him finding out you had an abortion with his baby, you know?


Im suffering as well right now. Im 16 and im pregnant. all i hear is get an abortion. but im not for abortion..I used to do drugs before and so did my boyfriend..ive stoped it for good. but i know if i would have this child the baby could come out with some kind of a problem. i dont know what to do..i need sum advice as well and i think im 1 month n half pregnant. so jus like you i could use some advice as well.

- Ariana :/

this is a tricky situation you've got.
are you in a relationship?. do you both want commitment?, are you ready to be a mum? can you live with yourself having an abortion.

if you are in a relationship, and it is steady, then, he definitely has a right to know. if it is a case of a fling, that's never going to work, or the fact that he couldn't give a dam, then it's more your decision, although he is the father either way, so tread carefully.

now, about you living with the consequences!!
it is not just a simple trip to the hospital, have the abortion, and get on with things. it is very emotional, believe me!!
you may think i'm trying to influence you, but i just want you to be aware that it's not a nice experience, and has so much emotional trauma attached. if you are in a relationship with this guy, i feel that he will know something is troubling you.
if you pour your heart out to him after the event, how would he take it????
just think about my comments please, it really should be a decision for the two of you if you believe you have a future together. it will only come between you later on, trust me on this.
hope i've not been to harsh, keep me posted.
good luck sweetheart xxxxxxxxxxxxx