My medical termination story..

I had my medical termination yesterday and I thought I would write down my experience incase it helps anyone in the future.

I had to be at the hospital for 9am yesterday, I had hardly slept the night before and was so nervous about it!
At around 9.30am, a nurse inserted 4 small tablets into my vagina, this was fine and I hardly felt a thing.

I was then shown to my bed, I was able to keep my own clothes on and I just sat in the chair next to the bed and read my book.
Nothing really happened then for a few hours until about 11.30am when I started to get bad pains, like period pains. I tried to ignore them but they got quite bad and I started to shake so I called for the nurse and she gave me 2 pain killers which kicked in pretty much straight away and I was just left with a dull ache.
At 12.30pm, they came around and asked if I wanted any lunch, have to be honest and say that I was starving by this point so I had cottage pie and then sponge pudding with custard!
Shortly after lunch, I started bleeding, it wasn't as horrific as I was execting, it was just like a period. I went to the toilet and this is when I felt 2 clots 'plop' into the toilet. I didn't look, I just put the seat down and called for the nurse. She looked and said it was hard to tell if it was the embryo as I was very early (only 6-7 weeks pregnant) so it would only be tiny. In my heart, I really think that was it though

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I went back to my chair and just read my book until my fiance came to pick me up at 3pm.

Last night, I bled but only like a period and I have had some dull aches but nothing as bad as I was expecting.

I wanted to write my story down because it really wasn't as bad as I was expecting, I had read so many horror stories about what would happen and how much blood I would lose and how much pain I would be in etc etc but it was honestly fine, not pleasant but not a horror story like I was expecting!!

I feel ok today, physically I am fine but I do feel very emotional and weepy today. Saying that, I don't regret my decision as I know it was for the right reasons.

Good luck to anyone else going through this difficult time xx

Advice appreciated

I had a medical termination a week ago. I have yet to find out if it was successful, but I was hoping that someone here could advise me.

I was about 6-7 weeks pregnant when I had the treatment. The procedure was fairly simple, though painful. I felt nothing after the first tablet, and I had the 4 inserted the day after. I had vomiting as a side effect and started bleeding approximately an hour after. Within the next 2 hours, the pain got bad and I felt cramping, I passed a lot of blood and about 4 substantial blood clots. The bleeding slowed, and although I am still bleeding now it's minimal, and becoming like the end of a period. My abdomen feels tender but not 'painful', and this feeling has virtually disappeared. I wondered if anyone could give me advice? I'm petrified it hasn't worked, though I'm sure I'm over reacting. I experienced morning sickness and loss of appetite when pregnant, and virtually the day after these symptoms stopped. I haven't had any signs of pregnancy since. Does this sound right to anyone who has had a successful medical termination?

Thanks

Medical termination + experience

I wanted to add to the 'positive' experiences of medical termination. I had a medical termination 3 weeks ago. I found out that I was 15 weeks pregnant to an abusive partner, I couldn't believe it, it took me to have 5 pregnancy tests before it would sink in as I had a period! Anyway - I had just managed to get out of an extrememly abusive relationship with a pending court case which incidentally he was tried and found not guilty! As you can imagine I had a lot on my plate, I have had an abortion before (surgical) and it really screwed me up, purely because I was in a secure relationship but my partner didn't want to keep it and I beat myself up for not being stronger and putting my foot down, I hated him so much for what I saw was him bullying me into something I didn't want to do that I had to end our relationship. So after that expereince as you can imagine, I was terrified of having to go through it all again and I actually fainted when i was told that I had to have a medical termination, my thinking behind it that at least with a surgical you are in and out and don't have to 'experience' it. I found it hard to read the literature on it as I found it so upsetting and it scared me, however evrything that is written in the NHS literature is true, your ination makes it out to be worse than it is.

I apologise for the background waffle, I just wanted to set the scene. The week before the appointment I felt like the living dead, I was walking around in a trance. I went and took the first lot of oral tablets 2 days before the day of the appointment and I had a long chat with the nurse I was so scared about the whole thing that I was having nightmares, the night before I seemed to brace my self for the enevitable. I went to hospital for 8.30am (mum and dad in tow) I had a room to myself and was told I could get changed into my pyjamas. About 9.30am a nurse came and inserted the first lot of tablets along with an antibiotic and a painkiller. It was then a waiting game, I started to feel a bit of pain (period cramps) about 12pm and then at half 12 a nurse came with another dose of pills about half an hour later in the middle of a scrabble game, I was in pain (felt like someone was squeezing my insides). Lunch was served but I couldn't eat anything and about 1.30pm I was rolling around on the bed in agony. The pain was like nothing I had felt before and i got myself a bit stressed out, I finally calmed myself and slept for about 10mins after which I woke in agony, it was like someone was squeezing my insides really hard, I went to stand up and felt a whoosh (waters breaking) and just made it to the loo before everything came out. The pain went completely and I realised I was hungry - 5 minutes later I am sitting up in bed, laughing and joking and eating a magnum ice cream. They had to monitor the bleeding just to make sure all the placenta was out and I got to go home at 7pm. I have had light bleeding for 2 weeks now but thats it. No pangs of guilt and no feeling of emptiness like I had after the surgical, I think because I experienced the whole process, i didn't wake up feeling empty.

I think in my case, I felt liuke a huge weight had been taken off my shoulders and I was able to get on with my life at 30 years old I am a little upset that I wasn't able to keep this one but I know I made the right decision for everyone. The thing I was worried about the termination was 1) seeing the foetus - you just don't look, it's that simple, you can't accidently see it and to be honest there wouldn't be much to see as it is in a little sack. 2) feeling it come out - it didn't feel like I imagined it would, I thought it would feel wierd but it feels completely natural. 3) The pain - I was really worried about the pain but the body is an amazing thing and I was only in real pain for about 15 mins and intense pain for a minute, I didn't get any painkillers apart from the first lot and just when i thought I couldn't take it, it all came out. Honestly once you go through it, you will look back and say 'what was I worried about'. Hope this helps

You are lucky!

I don't want to scare anyone who is going to have a medical termination, but I thought that I'd share my experience too, it wasn't quite as straightforward! I was planning to have mine at home, so the pills were inserted into me and I was told to wait 30mins before going home for the rest of it for any side effects. I then felt very sick and went to find a nurse when I collapsed in the corridor. My blood pressure dropped and I had to be put on a drip. They figured I'd had a bad reaction to the pills cus even though I'd had the painkillers the pain and sickness was unbearable so they removed the pills. At this point I was worried that they may not have the desired effect, and that I'd have to start over, but the pills are apparently very strong so after a couple of hours when I started to feel the symptoms again (pain, sickness) I knew what was happening, sure enough as i was vomiting I started bleeding and after that I got better pretty quickly. After a few routine tests I was allowed home to have a nice hot bath. I felt fine after that, minimal bleeding for a week or so and no pain. It wasn't an ideal experience but I came out of it ok. As I said this isnt meant to scare ppl, just make you see that even though I wasnt so lucky I was still ok relatively quickly.

Thankyou so much!

Hi. thankyou for sharing your story i am having a medical abortion next week

and i am so scared.. im 17 and i kow its the right thing to do.

All iv heard that its going to be really painful and i'l loose alot blood. i also heard it was painful when the tablets are inserted into your vagina.

You've made me feel much better now.

Good luck in the future. xxx

Debbie354 and others considering medical abortion

Anon29, its been awhile since your original post, but glad to hear your experience wasnt so bad except for sadness afterwards.

Debbie354 and others considering medical abortion, just want to say that some ladies are lucky (feels strange to use that term but you know what I mean) and some have a really bad emotional and/or physical experience (pain, bleeding, violent nausea and worse) after medical abortion. Check out http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/18/national/18abort.html in the New York Times regarding women who have died from the abortion pill After these incidents, the procedures were supposed to be changed, at least in the US, but not all clinics made the changes. Anyway its still the same drug as it was then, so the risks are the same. Also, Im sure you know about the emotional impacts many women have after abortion; you can see a lot of the stories on this forum, like the recent discussions on Gutted and Feeling horrible and the post by purplespark down toward th bottom of "So confused over what decision to make... Not sure what your situation is, but are you sure this is your only option? You also might wanna check out http://www.pregnancy.org.uk (or call them at 0800 028 2228) you can get the facts about ALL your choices (yes including various kinds of abortions including the risks) and counseling if you need it. Also, you will always find supportive listeners and advice on this forum from people who have had all kinds of experiences including mothers younger than you who've kept their baby and been happy and successful! Best wishes to you whatever the future holds, and hope to hear for you. Peace!--

Thankyou x

Hello,

Thankyou so much for sharing your story, it's people like you that make me feel a little better about my own situation.

I had a medical abortion about 4 weeks ago now when I was 7 weeks gone, even though I know it was for the best I've struggled a bit and have had to have some counselling. But your story gave me a bit of hope! It's definetly about realising that what we did was the right thing to do.

I was especially emotional the first few days but it's just your hormones, it'll ease off as they settle back down.

All the best for the future and well done for being so brave xxx