Pregnant again two months after abortion! please help

i had an abortion on 15th june, it was the worst day of my life. i did it to please my boyfriend and to hold onto our relationship. if i had gone ahead with the pregnancy he wouldve ad nothing more to do with me. he says he loves me but he doesnt want to have children until we are married and have bought a house. on 1st september i found out im 6 weeks pregnant. and he again tells me if i go ahead im going it alone. im so scared because i want this baby and i know im going to end up a singe mum. i dont have many friends so i will be alone during the pregnancy. i really dont want to end up a single mum. but after the 1st abortion my boyfriend wasnt there for me. he was with me every day but wasnt very nice to me, we argued alot and he pulled my hair and pushed me about. i really wanted to die. i love my boyfriend so much, but he is so strongly opinionated and he puts alot of pressure on me. i dont want to abort my baby but i dont want to be alone either. after the first abortion ive been smoking alot of weed to calm me down and im worried about the affect that will have on the baby if i go ahead with the pregnancy. obviously i havent smoked it since i found out im preganant but if it has harmed the baby i couldnt live with myself. i wasnt expecting to be pregnant again especially so soon. i really dont know what to do. my boyfriend made me phone the abortion clinic so my appointment is booked for 8th septemeber, i dont have much time. he is being so cold with me at the moment. i just want him to be there for me. i don understand why he has to be like this, if anyone can give advice please do so.

Hi hun

Im so sorry you have found urself in this situation cant imagine how you must be feelin especially so soon after abortion. On reading your post my 1st thought was you do want this baby deep down..do not let this boyfriend of yours force you into doing the wrong thing again.You are the one who has got 2 live with the consequences not him, you are the one it effects for the rest of ur life.I am not against abortions as I have had 1 at 10wks gone a yr and a half ago...it was looking back the right thing at the time but I do regret it to this day.I have now found myself a single mum to be due on the 5 January (nearly 23 wks gone) and found out at 15 wks and was booked in for abortion but never swallowed the 1st initial pill.I have been under alot of pressure from my mum especially who insisted I have abortion and have had to move in2 my own place which hasnt been easy but things are slowly getting better.My dad has been round quite a few times and I was down having lunch with my mum to day...she just needs time.The dad wanted me to have an abortion as we had only been seeing each other for 3 months until he moved down south to work but to me its what I want not what other people think/want.I know it is going to be hard but I am determind to succeed and be a good mum,im a fighter.Just thought id tell you bit about my situation.Yes it will be scary being a single mum(which is what I think you will end up unless your boyf changes dramatically the way he is pressuring you and making you feel.You can do without this hun.Do you live together??? Have you got family/friends there 4 u at all??? You will be surprised how people will help you out.

As for smoking weed dnt worry about it as long as you have stopped...I was drinkin right up to a found out and smoking and everything fine and way it should be at scan etc.

Dnt go 4 this abortion hun...its sounds like you would only be doing it for him...and that is not right.He needs to get a grip big time.

Anyway im here anytime if you need a friend,take care

Lou x

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Get out of this relationship!!

Hi there. Sorry to hear what you are going through. I remember your posts a few months ago. At the time it sounded like your bf had a lot of mixed feelings but that he was also trying to be there for you and help you through your grief and your awful experience. But when I read your latest post and re-read the old ones, it just seems so obvious that he is bad news. Sorry to be harsh but think about it: he forced you to do something you totally didnt want and even after you obeyed him, he made you feel guilty for even thinking about disobeying him, and one of his biggest concerns was just to have sex again as soon as possible. Now hes getting physically rough with you. I know these situations and its going to get worse, not better, if you stay with him, regardless of whether you abort another pregnancy. You may feel like you love him, but love is blind, and love with the wrong person is dangerous, for your baby, and for you, your physical and mental health. Get out before it gets worse, and start being good to yourself! You are young and obviously smart; you deserve a good life and the things you want, not pain, abuse and pressure. Get some counselling about the options you have for your pregnancy and your future, and advice on how to be good to yourself . Try http://www.careconfidential.com/ for advice on all the things on your mind. Dont worry too much about the weed. If you stopped as soon as you learned you were pregnant, the risk to the child is very small. Will be thinking about you and waiting to hear how you get on. Peace!

Hey hunny

i am so sorry you are going through this but to be honest your BF does not sound like he cares about you and if he is physically hurting you then you really should get away from him and do what you thinks right for you and your baby not him,
i was in a relationship and when i got pregnant my ex BF turned violent to me and at 3 n 1/2 months pregnant he beat me up so bad because i was keeping the baby i ended up miscarrying and i never wil forgive my self for putting my baby through that especially now i have had another 2 mc's and i wish i would have got away from him as i know my partner now would have helped me bring up my baby.
please just think about what you want and do not be pressured to do anything xxx