Surgical abortion

Have been looking at this forum for a while now and am having a surgical abortion at Marie Stopes on tuesday.
Really nervous about it, do not like the idea of it at all and I know i'll be upset but just don't want a child at all. not for years. Just wish i could turn the clock back but you can't can you.

Just interested in hearing from anyone whose done it and their experiences, particularly the marie stopes place.
I know i'll have regrets (but you would have to be made of stone not to huh?) Feel very low today, well since i found out and feel its really has effected me. I am absolutely sure of my decision though and not interested in being talked out of it with respect. Just looking to hear from other girls who have experienced it as I know its not going to be a great experience and could do with some support.

Cheers Girls xoxox

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Thanks girls. Yes it was the right decision for me and seem to have had opportunity after opportunity come my way in just the last week since my termination (things I could not do if I had a baby) which reinforces that what I did was right for me, I am going to have some counselling down the line (not because I think I will be a basket case without it but cos I think its honest and practical to face things instead of burying them)

It was the hardest thing i've ever had to do. My doctor has been wonderful, I was with her this morning for chec and she has been so very kind to me, luckliy I have alot of people 'on my side' which has been very helpful though I dont want to sit and disect what I did endlessly its nice to know people know and make allowances. I like to think I would be compassionate myself in such a situation.
I echo alot of what you say franks, like totally! keep your chin up hun

I have two close friends sisters who i am close to who have also had the proceedure, all be it a few years ago. One already had three children and didnt' want more and the other was very young when it happened. They symphatise with me but don't empathise. They were more glad after their proceedures. They listen but they don't really understand, they didn't see it the way I did as I was very torn, not because I wanted a baby but because it just isn't a nice thing to do, it was part of me and you cant just put back what is there and just say ah well, at least I can't...so the abortion decision is very hard cold bitter road...I do still believe in my heart it was meant to be for me...I had no practical way to take care of a baby, I did not want it more to the point, I am not ready, I wanted my life back and I have it now, it won't be easy but when is life ever easy...I am positive for the future and I will get through

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Hi Rosie Grace,

I had a surgical abortion 5weeks ago now and i think it was the hardest thing i will ever have to do. Like you though, i knew deep down that having a baby wouldn't have been the right choice. I have had days that i just cant do anything as i am so down but this is the kind of thing i expected to happen. Like you said , you cant turn the clock back, not to change your mind or to stop the pregnancy from happening.

To a certain degree i believe everything happens for a reason. In his case, its to make girls/women like yourself and I stronger. Not right away, but eventually....xx

There was 4 days between me finding out and my procedure so i didn't really have too much time to dwell on my decision, but whats done is done, and this was supposed to be like this for me. I just look forward to the day i am told i'm pregnant again and i can smile and cry tears of joy, not sadness...

Hope you are doing ok hun

Love, xxxx

Hi again folks..

Well what can I say.....I had my proceedure yesterday at Marie Stopes and wanted to come on here again to maybe help others who find themselves in the same predicament as me..

I went down with my sister and brother in law both who were very supportive throughout, I went in and waited for maybe 15 minutes and then they took me away to do my scan, the lady who did this was very caring and made it easy as possible, they have the screen behind you so you can't see whats going on. I found out that I was roughly six and half weeks along rather than the suspected 9 or 10 i thought which I dunno why but seem to make it a bit easier. I then signed my consent , they prick your finger with a tiny needle to get a bit of blood to see what type you are (this was nothing not painful) and went back to the waiting room.

We then were taken upstairs to the waiting room for terminations there was other girls waiting there, they all looked a bit scared like me and we ended up all chatting (I agree with the girl who said its like a messed up sleep over in a previous post I read) one girl was 17 and the other lady roughly 30 i'd say. we were taken one by one to prep for the operation then got taken in, I was the last of that group. They were again very kind to me and treated me with dignity and total respect throughout. I was very scared when I went in but there really was no need to be. They asked me if I was sure and I said I was then you sit on an operating table and they put the canula in your arm (this was literally only a tiny prick of a needle very quick). into this they put the anaesthetic (I had the one that puts your right out and I would say thats the best way) they talked to me about where I was from etc just small talk and the nurse held my hand and literally don't remember a thing more until I was in recovery, apparently I was wheeled in a chair but I don't rmeember any of that, when I woke up the recovery nurse brought me a hot drink and biscuits and chatted to me for a bit. She also brought me some pain killers although I didnt really have any pain much just a very slight cramping. Nor did most of the others appart from one lady who had what she described as the feeling of bad period pain.

The other people in were a real cross section of ages, some young girls some mid twenties like me and couple of older women. They then gave us all antibiotics (as a precaution against infection post op) and after a while (maybe an hour) I was walked down by a nurse, they by no means 'chuck you out' though you can stay longer if you need to.

All I can say is it is never a situation that a girl wants to find herself in having said that Marie Stopes were very helpful when I did!

Hope this helps others like me xoxox

It can be the right thing

Hi rosiegrace,

I think it's great you've come back on so soon to share your experience! It is the most frightening thing to go through, and pro-lifers coming on and writing scaremongering posts is no help to anyone!

I had a medical abortion in 2007 and it was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made. I was torn and couldn't decide what I wanted, but I think I always knew deep down that having a baby was not the right thing for me, and would ruin all the things I had planned for the future. I was in my final year of university and would have probably had to have dropped out. My boyfriend wasn't committed and my mum has never had much money so I have no idea how we would have supported a baby. Impossible! It wouldn't have been fair on me, my mum, or the baby!

Two years on and I can honestly say I have accepted and am happy (as much as you can ever be happy about this kind of thing) with my decision. I finished uni and am now doing a masters degree in London. I would have put an end to those opportunities by continuing my pregnancy.

Oh, and a few months after the abortion I found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me! All I can say now is that I'm happy that I can make the most of my life without having to be tied to someone like him. And I look forward to the day I get pregnant with mr right and we can live our happily ever after (though not for a few years yet!!)

For anyone who is confused about having an abortion, it's never going to be an easy decision. There will always be some doubts and perhaps even regrets, but at the end of the day you can move on and make your own decisions about your future. There is life, and happiness, after an abortion.

Hi

won't try to talk you out of it, and I rarely talk about religion on here, but just want you to know that I will be praying for you and your baby. Wish you peace and all the best.