Please help!!!

hello, i have been with my boyfriend for just over 4years, and this time last year i had an abortion i was 19 and it came as a big shock and i thought i was doing the right thing as my boyfriend didn't want the baby we stayed together but i think about what it would of been like to have kept the baby, i have recently found out i'm nearly 6weeks pregnant and i told my boyfriend who wasnt as shocked and is being so supportive but again he doesn't want the baby again, my family said they are going to support me by me keeping the baby, but i'm booked into have another abortion tomorrow as it's what my boyfriend wants, i feel so ashamed, i want this baby more than anything. please help!!!

The subject of my reply was supposed to be don't rush

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Don'

hey there. What everybody said is right - don't rush into this! and though
your bf's feelings are important, so are yours and the rest of your family.
And anyway, this time it sounds like he might come round and want to keep
the baby if you guys take some time to think about it. But either way, even
if he doesn't, you have said how much you want this baby. Don't ignore your
own deepest feelings. The physical risks, and especially the emotional
risks, feelings of regret and low self-esteem, are known to be worse for a
lot of people who have multiple abortions. The past is past and no one is
going to judge you for that, but here's your chance to be true to yourself
and your child!

Think about it. Wish you the best no matter what. Peace!

Been there done that

Its the pits I am sure you know that.
My dear you want the baby, therefore you shall have your baby, I am a fairy godmother and I can magic you to your best dream. I wish.
I will let you into a secret: men do not want babies. However, men do not want their babies to be destroyed either. Let me know how you are doing. Please cancel the appointment and get on with buying some new outfits cos you are going to need them soon. He will very quickly get used to the idea and feel very proud. You should feel proud too, you have new life inside you, how wonderful, scary but wonderful, the best thing that ever happens to a woman is happening to you. Be in touch.
Casey

Forgive error

post twice in error, please forgive

Me too

I got an error several times and then I was afraid I had posted multiple times, but it turned out it was ok except for the title being cut off. I think something is wrong with the site. Anyway, Tinkerbell, ignore all the technical difficulties and please let us know how you are doing! Peace.

Been there done that

Its the pits I am sure you know that.
My dear you want the baby, therefore you shall have your baby, I am a fairy godmother and I can magic you to your best dream. I wish.
I will let you into a secret: men do not want babies. However, men do not want their babies to be destroyed either. Let me know how you are doing. Please cancel the appointment and get on with buying some new outfits cos you are going to need them soon. He will very quickly get used to the idea and feel very proud. You should feel proud too, you have new life inside you, how wonderful, scary but wonderful, the best thing that ever happens to a woman is happening to you. Be in touch.
Casey

I wrote you a private message!

Keep your baby!
No mother regrets to have left her child alive! but many regret the contrary.

Bye.

At least wait...

Don't go for the abortion tomorrow. You mustn't do it unless you feel sure or it will really damage you. At least wait for a week or so and talk to your boyfriend about how much you want this baby. His views have to be taken into account because a baby would be his responsibility too, but he needs to understand how bad this would be for you if you had this abortion now. If he refuses to let you keep it then I don't know what to say. Maybe you should consider being a single mum, but he will still have to financially support you both. Either way, you need to talk to him about it, and don't have the abortion tomorrow. You still have a couple more weeks before you'd need a surgical abortion, so you have time to think it through.
I hope things work out!
xLollyx

Walk out any time

Hi You can cancel your appointment or walk out of the abortion clinic any time. Girls do this every day of the week. Give yourself some space to think. Everyone in there knows what a big decision this is, so dont put yourself under more pressure by thinking you have to go through with the abortion tomorrow because you have the appointment.

Come back on here tomorrow and tell us how you are doing.

Big hugs
Siobhan