I am faced with the option of abortion im scared and need advice

I am 20 years old I have a beautiftul little girl 14mths old. I fell in love as soon as I touched my stomuch when I found out I was expecting her. Now I am faced with finding out I am pregnant again. I am with an amazing guy but we are looking at this pregnancy in different views. I am scared to have another baby at this time so soon he brought up the option of abortion, reason being he is in the military and getting stationed possibly in less then 2 weeks and financial aspects. Its not the military leave that scares me I can handle that but I cant seem to bring myself to have an abortion, Im already in love with this baby and I dont think I will ever be able to pick myself up if I have an abortion. I know I can have soooo much love for this baby. When I look at my little girl that I have It will hurt me so bad. I think I will regret it and always wonder what he/she would have looked like if It had been a boy or girl, name. If I had, had an abortion I wouldnt have my angel that I have today and I dont think I can live with that. Please help me with this situation, all moms I could really use It I can barely type without crying, thankyou Ciara

Is it really an option?

Hi--I felt so sad when I read what you wrote, how could abortion possibly be an option for someone who loves the baby inside them? The answer is- IT'S NOT!! Sometimes in life we are faced with situations that are not ideal but none the less there they are waiting to be figured out. In my life I have come to find that alot of the time although I may not see it at the time it's these very situations that end up having the most profound and special meaning later in life. A child is a wonderful gift no matter what the current situation is that your facing-there is nothing better or more rewarding than the love your child gives you and you in return give them. No amount of money or diamonds or gold can even compare to how rich you are if you have nothing more in this world than just that! Think and be honest with yourself when you do-At the end of your life If given the chance to reflect on what was the most important thing to you what would it be? Would it be your house or car or job- maybe money jewelry parties friends clothes? Or do you think it would be the love of your children? I am a mother as are you and because I have experienced it I know what matters most and it IS my babies!! I am having my 5th and I'm 27-I have had my moments when I really questioned what the hell I was thinking! Then I look at my kids and I KNOW instantly I know-I would rather not have a house not have a man never have another nice outfit or pair of shoes or piece of jewelry than to chosen for any single one of them not to be here! I try to match up my children to the times in life when it was hard in so many ways and I found out I was pregnant again and thought the exact same thing you are- how can I handle this? What IF? Now picture your precious child disappearing right in front of you-because that's what abortion is. It's taking away the life of your own child at your hand. All the smiles and tears and I love you and first step and first everything-no future no life no love....All because it's not easy and could be harder still-and that is the value of the life of your own child. You already know deep inside you it's wrong for you and that's why you asked in the way you did. You want the baby and the reassurance from your guy-so tell him how you feel and why-and also tell him that for someone else abortion may be an option however for you it absolutely is NOT! Trust me no matter how hard things may ever be they can never even come close to being half as hard as knowing you chose to kill your baby, and you will live with knowing forever. Your circumstances in life can and always will change from good to bad to better or worse and the one thing in this world that makes all the craziness worth going through is love-and there is no better greater or more pure than the love of a child. I really hope you make the right the right choice!! Good luck to you and your family, and congratulations on the baby--you may not see it now for whatever reason but it is a great and amazing thing and someone should have spent more time telling you that and encouraging your happiness and helping you see that your fears are normal but pail in comparison to the joy should be feeling.

Please consider keeping it.

Honestly, I has no idea how much an abortion can mess you up mentally. If you already feel like you'd regret it, you're probably right. Your wee girl deserves a happy mum and it sounds like having this baby would make you happy. The main reason I went through with my abortion was for financial reasons, and I now just feel like the most selfish horrible person in the world.
I find it so hard to look my boyfriend in the eye these days, i just see all the love I took out of the world in going through with it. It really isnt worth risking this, so please please think about keeping yours.

You already know you're a good mum, and I'm sure your wee girl will be a great big sister too.

I really hope it works out however is best for you all, sending you massive hugs.

Love the baby and let her live

Please my dear ciaraaria, go ahead and have your baby, your daughter will have her brother/sister and your man will love you all when he comes home from his diffifcult situation in the military. So much better to return to living and not guilt and depression. Ask your man to support you and encourage you as you go through this pregnancy, it could well be his son you are carrying. Tell him you need his support and not alternative suggestions to having a live baby.
Casey

You already have your answers.

Hi,

Sorry your first response in from a dad and not a mum.

I can only speak from my own personal experience on this and it is not the same for everyone. When my girl friend fell preganant, we looked at all sorts of pro's and cons of finances, housing, careers, the state of the relationship etc. But in the cold light of day after the termination it all stood for nothing relative to the loss ,guilt and pain that we felt.

I have read nothing in your post that indicates that you actually want this termination. Except for your young age, you seem to happy with your life and your partner.

I think if you have doubts, and how you describe your feelings about your pregnancy, you will probably regret a termination. Go ahead and have your baby and I am sure you will find a way to cope with the little things in life like finances.

Good luck.