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Please help me i dont know what to do

I am so confused I dont know what to do.I am 10 weeks pregnant that was a complete accident.After my inplant was removed I needed to test my ovaries(doctors decision not mine)so i was placed on the pill.I took it religiously never missed a day and we used condoms.The condom broke so off to the doctor for the morning after pill.I took the pill less than 8 hours after sex and seems it didnt work either.
My hubby doesn't want this baby we already have 2 kids the youngest is 9.We cant afford this baby.My abortion is booked in for next friday but this will be my second appointment.I couldn't go through with it the first time.No one in my family is any help they just keep saying to keep the baby,but they dont know how hard things have been lately.
I can not give my baby up for adoption,that is not an option(and before you all start that there are loyts of ppl wanting babies the world is full of orphans so keep your ... to your self)

I dont know what to do.im worrying myself sick,I cry all the time.I know my hormones are whack thats why Im asking for help.

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Adoption?

Hello,

I was reading what you had wrote and I was just wondering if you had considered adoption? My husband and I are not able to have babies, and we are looking to adopt! So please email me back!

Thanks,
Megan and Brent

Hello!

Hi chick,

I hope you're feeling a little better since your post. You are really struggling with this new little addition to your life, and you must feel completely upside down with emotional upheval. I can only say, that that is a natural response, and one which as a pregnant girl myself (i'm 17 weeks), I know that if someone wanted me to separate myself from my child, growing within me, then I would be absolutely mortified. But not only mortified, I think I would be heartbroken, because I would feel doubly rejected.
I don't know what you will do about this Friday, and i'm not going to say do this, or do that. I just want you to know that I will be thinking about you and your new little one, and that I hope that whatever decision you come to will be the right one for you and your new baby.
Please don't feel negative about bringing your new baby into the world. Life is a really wonderful thing, and children give so much love to their mums.
Thinking of you. All the best xxx

What do you want?

Hello there, sorry to hear about what you are going through. You are right that simple answers like keep the baby or give him/her for adoption are no use. You're in a complicated situation, not a simple one. One thing you haven't said is what YOU want and what YOU think and feel about the decision. We know what hubby says and we know what your family says. What about helpmeplease8? The fact that you didn't feel right going through with it the first time suggests you have some real doubts about the abortion. As I'm sure you know, feelings of deep regret are very common following a termination, more likely for those who had doubts in the first place but also common for those who were sure it was the right thing at the time. And once you do it there's no undo.

Almost nobody regrets keeping their baby. Finances are an issue for almost everyone in the world, married or single, 2 kids or 3 or none. The economy is getting better and by the time the baby arrives, or soon after, you may find yourself in a better situation. The money issue should take a back seat to what you feel in your heart and to what you feel that baby inside you really is. So I won't tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but just advise you to take it slow, do whatever makes you feel calm and at peace ... a long walk, a hot bath ... get your thoughts together to clear your head and make a decision. Yes, <get your thgouths together> is easier said than done, but you sound like a responsible person. Believe in yourself. Let us know how you get on. Wishing you all the best.

Helmeplease8, hangin there.

I have to leave the house now for the day and so I pray about you today and see what comes up. I will be in touch this evening.
Casey



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