Surgical abortion

Hi,
I just need to write at few things here about how i'm feeling since i had a surgical abortion last Thrusday.
I didn't find out i was pregnant until a few weeks ago, i missed my period but put it down to stress as i was under quite a bit due to work for the last few months, well it turned out that i was 12 weeks gone and as i wasnt having any sickest i was a bit shocked.
I made up my mind pretty quick that this was what i was going to do. I'm single and come from a very catholic family in Ireland, and knew that this would be one of the worst things to every have to tell them.
I havent told anyone about this and isolated closed friend as they would know something was wrong and didnt feel i could tell them as of yet.
So i rang up Marie Stops clinic a few days later and got a appointment for thrusday last. I arranged travel to Manchester and made the lonely journey by myself. I got to the clinic a nearly hour before my appointment, (9.30) and even do i was early got seen straight away. I had my consultation and had a scan, (found to be 16wks), blood test, genenal health question. I was then sent to the waiting room, where in another 2-3 minutes was called by another nurse to go to the treatment room. Here i was given tablets for the cervix to relax. I then had to wait for 2 hours before treatment. As i was waiting other girls were coming out from having there treatment. This was hard to watch as i knew this would be me in a few hours.
I was feeling a few cramps , mild period pains.
Then i was called, got changed and ready for surgary. i opted for general ant, as i coudnt bear to hear what was going on, and i think it would be the best option. This was over in a few minutes and next thing i was been brought back into the treatment room. I was feeling grand with no pain. I got tea and biscuits to relax and recover. I started to bleed quite heavily, and had low blood pressure so had to stay a bit longer, Still i had no pain or cramping or sickest. I got antobotics and got out of the clinic by 3pm feeling fine.
i had to travel back to the airport best way to get taxi straight away and relax, because it takes a lot out of you.
as i went back into the city and got the train out, and started to bleed again.I got home at 10pm, too long of a day. so i think it would have been best to stay the night in hotel.
Today i'm feeling ok.still abit of bleeding, and cramping but nothing severe. I still haven told anyone about what i done. I just need to tell someone as i need to get it out of my system, all through this from finding out i was pregant i havent had any emotion whatsoever. I haven even cried, it's just building up inside me, waiting for the day.
I hope this experienc helps other in figuring out what they want to do. And i think surgical is the best option.
Miind went on for longer as i was 16 weeks pregant.

Hi berns

Hi,
I am also from Ireland, and had to travel to england alone. I felt very lonely afterwards and wished that i hadnt gone by myself. My parents are not very religious but they dont believe abortion is right so i couldnt tell them. I organised it through the well woman centre and i think their services are brilliant. I would advice you to go to some councelling sessions as it really helped me.
Hope your ok!
All the best,
Ellie X

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I would agree with you saying the surgical option is the best. It's over and done with in a matter of hours.

From what I read on here the medical abortion can be a hideous experience.

Well done to you for coping so well. I've been there myself and it's difficult. It'll get better and as long as you know you've made the right decision, it'll be fine in the end.

Re surgical abortion

Hi berns1980,

How are you feeling 3 days after?

I am going to be going through the surgical procedure myself in a few days.

Take care xxxx

Hi

Hi Scarletgirl,
I'm feeling good, Not much pain or cramping at all. I could have been just lucky with this. Eveyones procedure would be different do.
I hope your ok and it's what you want,
Let me know how you get on and hope all goes well. will be thinking of you
Berns

Why

dont't go there. The death experience is not at all good.
casey

Re why?

Casey

Im going there because I feel that this option is better than the quality of life I could offer the baby. I am not mentaly at a stage to be a good mother. I am suffering from severe depression and I do not feel that is right to inflict that on a baby. I don't even know if I could go through the whole pregnancy and consider adoption.

Hanging on

Hi berns 1980
Reading your story brings it all back. Thanks for sharing and any more you want to say will be welcome.
Take care
Casey

I understand

Hi
I have just read your story. I come from a catholic family too and am in Northern Ireland where abortion is also illegal so I understand what you have gone through. I think this forum is great to help people be able to share emotions without risk of being judged. But It's a shame you have no one you can talk to it would really help you to just pour your heart out to someone who will be there for you.
At least your experience was physically not too traumatic.
I wish you all the very best
xxxxxxxxxx

Thanks

Thanks for your comment. This forum is great as it gives personal experienes, I came onto it just days before i went over to the uk and it put my mind at ease, as what would happen.
I'm going to talk to my friend this evening so i hope she can understands. Atleast i will be able to talk about it then.
thanks again
berns