im 15 weeks today and am supposed to be going have the first pill for a medical abortion at dinner time and its killing me i had a scan on tuesday to check how far i was and bubs started moving during the scan, ive felt him shifting before but this is non stop movement and its been nearly constant since even my bf can feel it. i really dont want another baby im only 23 and have 2 already but the thought of me taking that tablet to kill it i dont think i can do it but when i think right ill keep it something is screaming no that this is all wrong and i only need to be strong for a few days and it will be all behind me. but i know its going to rip me apart ive been told ill prob see it but try not to look but ive been on the internet and had 2 others i know how far its developed and im really spazzing. everyone says we are doing the right thing to get rid cuz its just not practical and that we already have one of each so we aint going to get anyting different.
i know im young and your all prob thinking well dont open your legs but ive been with my oh who is 30 for 6 years so its not like im sleeping around and another thing is being on benefits im due to go uni in september and my partner looks after the other 2 while im at coll so hes said he can easily look after a new born baby + i can just do the course on an afternoon for the first year and cuz im at uni i wont get benefits ill get working tax credits which isnt as bad as income support but i want my kids to have more than bare minimum but then again is it not best to do that while they are young cuz they wont notice and my other 2 are so happy so why can i not have it? but his family and everyone i know (even a devote catholic)said maybe abortion would be best and that i should be living my life and working towards a future for the kids i have now not adding extras to the clan.
sorry its so long and if any one could reply and help me figure out how im feeling ive gotta leave at 12 so PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPLLLLLLLLLLLLEE EEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAASS-SSSSSSSSS SEEEEEEEEEEEEEE help me!!

my baby girl total shock but shes frigging gawjus and im soooooo glad i didnt do it she is 1 million percent perfect

ive just read all this and am crying now cos im so pleased you made the right decision (for you that is)! im realy pleased that you are happy and hope you are all doing brilliantly, and am laughing cos you thought it was a boy back then and it wasnt!!!! he he. xxxxx

Hi Sammy,

Congratulations from the bottom of my heart! You are a star and your daughter will be one too, no doubt with a super mama like you.

Love
Siobhan

she is absolutly gawjus shes been in hosp for 2 days due to a blood problem called coombs + but shes doing better still no name and she was def ment to be my ds birthday is 17th july and dd is 7th june now this ones is 27th may so i have may june july and 7, 17, 27 and with the kids being called toby and lydia my oh thinks we should call this one something begining with c so tlc but i hate all c names that ive found lol

just wanted say do whats right for you dont listen to another person everyone that dounbted my decision has come round and cant believe how cute she is.

be strong xx its worth it in the end

Hello "Help"... First of all I realize this goes back to last month but I was wondering if you went though with taking the pill to terminate? I also want you to know I so feel your pain, you have no idea (I am 5 weeks along). I actually have three children (ages 4,7, and 11) and I am 38 years old, my sugnificant other that I have been with for seven years is going to be 47. We have weighed things and us too have come to the conclusion that it my not be the right thing to do but it is the best thing to do concidering our currcumstances. I actually have an appointment on Tusday to start the pill process as well. I am lost and confused and know I need to go though with this. I would love your input especially if you went though with it.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I wish you all the best and what ever your decission is or was I am sure it was best for you and your life.

i didnt go thru with it it may have been the 'right' thing to do but baby started moving during the scan and didnt stop for 2 days so i couldnt do it although i do think if he hadnt of done it i would of.
kids are hard work no matter what age you are and thats the reason i terminated my last pregnancy 2 years ago and this was just a shock. i really didnt want more children but due to blod problems i couldnt take any hormonal contraception the coil kept dropping out and they wont sterilise me cuz of my age so i get annoyed all this on the news about young mums on benefits popping out kids- ive begged to be sterilised and alls they say is no you may want more kids.
my oh didnt want another baby hes nearly 31 and with me being 23 i wanted to start uni but we will have to adjust i just feel sorry for bubs hes gonna have to go in nursery while im at uni where as my other 2 were cared for by either me or my oh and had the one to one care this one is getting strangers and im still struggling now i get depression while pregnant and really doubt if i can do it again but i just couldnt take that tablet.
sorryfor rabbiting on i just still try and convince myself it was the right choice.

Ultimately, I think the only answer that is right is what you think, no matter what your friends say, or what pro-life people say. If you can't have an abortion and feel ok about it, then you shouldn't have it. But if you don't think you can take care of another child and want to end the pregnancy, do that for yourself. It sounds like you made the right decision by not taking the pill, just because that's what you felt best about.
Best wishes! Hope you find out what's best for you.

Dear Sammy,

I only checked the messages this evening, I am sorry I did not check in sooner. How are you? Did you take the pill?

Hugs
Siobhan

no i couldnt do it, im sure the baby knew what was happening cuz twice i was supposed have the app and the kids were to ill for me to go but i got an emergency app and went they did a scan and he started moving the moment i got in there and wouldnt stop, in the end i couldnt do it, but i couldnt decide yesterday i hate letting people down and hate it when people think im stupid so i started spazzing. now im in hiding cuz i dont want the confrontation off people. i feel awful but its a baby at he obviously wants to be here,(im sure its a boy) if worse comes to worse there is always adoption but ive coped before and im sure ill do it again... i just want and easy life though. kids!
how are you are you ok

Hi Sammy,

I am really fine, so glad that you decided to keep your baby. I am actually crying with relief here at the computer, and I was thinking about your situation and praying for you this morning and last night. I also pictured a boy when I was praying for you, so we have at least a 50% chance of being right there!

I have heard from counsellors at crisis pregnancy centers in America that babies really put on a show on the ultrasound when their mother is not sure about keeping them, so maybe it was no coincidence that your baby was doing the sommersalts for your benifit. This is really a strong one, and will be a treasure for you. You are so brave!

I would love to be all the support I can be for you, you can send me a private message anytime and I can call you back at your home if you want to chat or let off some steam. I was really shocked when you said your devout Catholic friend was in favour of you aborting. That is like a devout muslim tucking into bacon and eggs! Im sorry but it does not add up!.

Anywho dont worry about what other people think. You chose life for your little one, and that is what matters. In your case I would not even discuss it with the people who wanted you to abort. Its your decision and that is final. Feminists have been fighting so long and hard for the choice to say yes to an abortion, but I think they should change their tatics and start fighting for the right to say NO!.

So relieved, take care and big hugs.

Siobhan

you have already been a great support for me and i cant thank you enough for everything youve said, you really have talked sence and i just want to say thanks. but its just the begining and im sure il have more wobbles along the way(its just the way i am)
i know my friend shes always at church and constantly quoting bit here and there always saying she prays for me then she said maybe abortion is best i nearly choked cuz in all the years ive know her shes never ever said that its the right thing and moved heaven and earth to help people sort them selves out so i wasshocked and thought if she thinks im doing wrong by having another i must be, but she knows everything about my life and all the stuff ive been thru so im sure it was her just looking out for me.
right im shattered i need sleep my oh has always had a sleep disorder but its stepping up a notch now so its getting hard work.
well speak to you soon hun and i think theres someone else that needs you. so go work your magic.he he he
xx samxx