Buddahbelly

hello im new, and am desparate for some help with my 19 month old boy eddy he will not sleep in his own room and i also have big problems just getting him to settle (usually ending up with me rocking him) i know i am making it worse by doing this but i also have two older lads who never seem to get any attention i have tried just leaving him, reading stories and giving him a teddy but he still screams for hours (hysterically) any suggestions

My way

I have a 9 yr girl. trust me she tried... but I let her cry... and she got the point. but this is what I did since she was about 2 yr old.

Its hard work

Its really hard when you cant get a toddler to go to sleep on their own or even in their own room but its worth persevering with as you will feel better and more relaxed and then everyone will be happy.Its such a strain with several children when you are tired and they all want attention.
I have four children the youngest is 14 months.I have used controlled crying with three of them the first one was totally pampered!I knoew it seems a bit cruel but it really has worked for me and the longest I had to do it was a week but you have to be so strict with it and not give in to the natural feeling of wanting to cuddle and comfort them.Its better for them in the long run as they are more happy with settled sleep.
I used Solve Your Childs Sleep Problems by Dr Richard Ferber.It just helps sometimes to refer to something .
Everyone does things in their own ways but this really worked for me and they dont remember it.Good luck whatever you do.

Does he have daytime naps?

Cut the naps, and use th time to teach him a bit about playing on his won whil you give the others some attention - if they are at school, do it at weekends.
Have you tried a star chart..they do some great ones in WH Smith , and maybe get the big boys on them too to show him the way? He will need convincing that being a big boy has advantages...talk to the others and your man & get them to support his big-ness by lots of praise.
Have you tried geting him to choose a big-boy's teddy, to keep him company..do the others have a room each?
I remember commando vrawling out of my daughter's room , its only a phase, but I am sure you feel like it will go on for ever!
Do you have a set bedtime routine? Does he have a light he can control and a battery music player he can put on to lull hmself back to sleep?
Try one thing at a time...sort the settling....then get your man to leap out of bed & shout & go mad when he comes it - it works!
Best of luck..keep at it!
H