can anyone give me advice on how to get my 3 year old off her dummy. i've finally got it off her during the day by telling her that the 'birthday fairy'(a new 1 i know lol)took it away with her but she will not go to bed without her dummy. i've tried just putting her to bed without it but she will not go to sleep. any advice will be gratefully received.

i dont know if this will help but what i did was when i knew it was bedtime i would play with my little one until she finally fell asleep on her own..knowing that she werent in her cot. When I would put her in her cot she would cry for the dummy. Then eventually I would put her in her cot. Tried this for a week and now she doesnt ask for the dummy. Then after get her bak to the routine of puttin her to sleep in her bed, reading her story until she finally dozes off. It will work that she will eventually forget about the dummy. I hope this is of some help...good luck.

hey, my littlen is only 7 weeks old but uses a dummy too, i'd like to avoid him sucking his thumb (which he seems to prefer lol). my cousins all used dummies and ho ho collected them when he brought the pressies and they could never have them back. we had to put up with screaming, crying demon children for a while but remember it only takes about 3 days (of hell) to train them so if you be persistant she will learn to sleep without it. I have all the fun to come...keep an eye out for messages from me entitled HELP! good luck x

Can she? I am a soon to be mom, so I am a bit clueless but presumabely at some point she will run out steam and fall asleep?

Or am i over simplifying things....

on your baby. this your 1st? chloe goes to bed and screams....and screams....and screams then gives up and demolishes her bedroom and then screams again until she gets her dummy. the longest i've perserversed is approx 2 hours. i cant stand my lass being so upset! i've also got a 7 month old boy who doesnt have a dummy!!!you learn by your mistakes!!thank you for replying and i hope all goes well for you and your bubba. tc x

Thanks for your support - the reason I'm interested in these forums is I hope I can learn from them - I am starting from a zero base (never really been around babies, and was never really interested in them). I have a feeling I will regret my past lack of interest and will do a lot of "reinventing the wheel"! Anyway its good to see what others are experiencing and hopefully I can leverage that experience too.

Good luck with Chloe - hope you find a solution!

the first few weeks you'll wonder what happened to your life. i was once told that as long as you get out for a walk everyday you feel a lot better. it was good advice! and remember that a new born is hard enough work, housework can wait. everything is a matter of choice and is what works best for you and your family. good luck when the time comes.

as for chloe, i've told her that santa need her dummies and he can only leave her toys if he can have her dummies so we'll see...isn ... strange to bring your children up to be honest and that telling lies is bad but parents lie constantly lol. tc x