just sat with my sister going over her pregancies, geez am i worried now.
she's had 4, first born she was really ill and her heart stopped, blood pressure rocketed, and a c section performed, other children she had have been born breech or oblique, she suffered pregnancy previa and has had a few blood transfusions, she also lost triplets at 19 weeks ( naturally concieved) she also suffered pelvic separation and 3 of the children were born 6 weeks premature but all over 7lb.
my mother was really ill after the birth of me, and im worried incase something happens to me, my sister has told me to book into a good hospital with a great neaonatal unit incase anything goes wrong during my birth, not due until august, what worries me is i hada miscarraige 15 year ago, any one else got a bad family history?

Hi, I'm 29 (v nearly 30 - boo!) and was first pregnant at 27yrs. I lost that baby and also misscarried one after that too. I now have a healthy son (whos 2) and am pregnant again (12 weeks), and worry non-stop. My mum had a normal 1st delivery but then the baby died days after birth, my aunty lost one of her 3 sons in early childhood (heart probs) and high blod pressure and angina run almost automatically in our family. I worry constantly, and when was in labour with my little boy i was scared i might die! this sounds silly but at the 'transitional stage' (between 1st and 2nd stages of labour) you just feel very very strange. I had to ask the midwives and my husband to leave the room for a minute until i felt ready to go ahead! I think everyone deals with preg and labour differently and knowing your familys problems can only help you be aware. Rest assured though (my best friends a midwife) that its VERY rare these days for babies to die after birth - medical knowledge is such that you are in very very safe hands. I feel much more informed and happier this time round (still scared about birth though!)

Good luck - you'll be fine and so will your baby x x

Hi, firstly congratulations on your pregnancy.

I've just found out im pregnant, due middle of September and im also in my early 30's.

Sorry to hear about your sister and mum, its only natural for you to worry and especially now you've heard all that & im sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage.
Talk to your mid-wife/doctor and tell them everything you have written above, they should be able to give you more information to help put your mind at rest or to keep an extra close eye on you.

Easier said than done but please try not to worry, its not good for you or the baby. Make that appointment and talk your worries through.

Good Luck x

cheers for the advice, i've written the history down and got the midwife on the 22nd jan, so they will be able to know whats best.