Try a different strategy...
Your going about it the wrong way. Guilt never truly
motivates a person, rather the guilt we feel makes us think of what a big failure we are, giving more energy to the very thing we're trying to eliminate from our lives. The motivation must come from within or he will not quit smoking. In addition to your guilt trip, he could very well be beating himself up about it, thus giving even more energy to his negative behavior. He needs to treat himself like his own best freind and reprogram his own negative self talk. If you really want to help your brother, lift him up don't tear him down. You might try saying things like - I know it's hard but I believe in you. I know you have what it takes to make the changes you desire for yourself and I'll do whatever I can to love snd support you in your endeavor. And maybe if he doesn't do so already suggest he smoke outside until he can release his negative behavior.
Another vital step in quitting any bad habit is to replace it with a new positive habit. Establish a new positive habit before you even attempt to eliminate the negative habit. (It only takes 21 days to establish a new habit.) I have a great habit busting program that I am using right now (for smoking as well) by Lee Milteer. She's coached CEO's and the like all over the world and she really knows her stuff. If you want I could send it to you for download. I hope this helps.
Peace and Blessings to you.
| 
