Me and vino

I just want to know that im not alone

For 3 years ive been a single mum!!!! Dealing with stress of everyday life with a bottle of wine in that time i was getting worse drinking 2 bottle a night!!! Some day times and even dare i say it some morning !!!

Then 8 months ago i met my partner who i love very much. I started to drink less as i was happy and i still am. but we both depend too much on drink are weekends are beer and wine a nd cigerrettes its like we live for that!!!!

I have to admit i cant rem the last time i didnt drink on a night maybe because i dont see my partner through the week but saying that we do then at weekend
He says that i change sometimes when i drink and i admitt i sometimes change either get mad or upset then im so sorry and cant rem how i have behaved and he sometimes cant!!!!!

My partner smokes wacky aswell which makes him paranoid and sometimes upset

Im so confused what to do!!!!

To get help?
To say im not happy?
To say sometimes i love vino over other things!!!!!!

Is there anyone out there feeling the same

AXXX

Hey

Hiya,

I can relate in that my boyfriend and i started to just get into the habit of drinking and smoking and it became 'normal'. We had a few horrible unecessary arguments whilst drunk and weekends were spent drunk or hungover.

I started to feel unhappy with situation and myself for doing it. We decided one weekend to plan something else. We had a day trip and went rowing and zorbing (being in a giant inflable ball rolling down hill, so much fun! was terrified tho, good job didnt have a full bladder we went for a romantic dinner without alcohol and were so worn out from the day that we went to bed quite early! woke up sober and happy.

Try break the pattern one weeknd I reckon, plan something different as your release. Do something romantic together in a different place to try break the psychological associations between the weekend and just drinking.

I think only you can answer if your drinking to escape from any kind of unhappiness or if you might want to talk it through with someone. Having a t total weekend will probably help you put that in perspective and assess what you need.

Dont feel bad though, life is bloody tough, especially as a mum! and alcohol is a too easy way sometimes of relaxing but after a while it can become the opposite as it increases anxiety and affects your moods.

If your partner is getting paranoid and upset on that sometimes then its time to stop, psychologically and psychiatrically he will struggle if he continues. I've seen it with a lot of friends and they've just had to call it a day with it.

Let me know how you are and feel free to PM me


Nadia

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Hi nadia

Thank you for your great reply!!!!

Im going to try that good advice this weekend!!! Hard to contemplate no vino though. Going to plan a relaxing weekend just thinking what we can do!!! your weekend sounded action planned.

Maybe a shop shop might help!!! Doesnt it always!!!

I know that week nights are the hardest not to be tempted to reach for the bottle!!!

Thank you for replying

Alicia

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