my husband says ive got no rights in making any desicions in our relationship cause he is the one bringing in the money,he also walks all over me cause he knows im scared he'll leave me.how do i turn the tables on him.im starting work in a few weeks and im going to earn more than him so thats a start...

first of all just because he is bringing in the money that doesnt make him the dominant one in your relationship.
if you appear stronger to him then he will not believe he can walk all over you, if he did threaten to leave you then if you pretend less bothered then it will make him think again and question how much he would lose if he left.
if he is a decent husband he would not put in this position!
well done for getting a job where you will be bringing in more money. . this would be the beginning of him realising what an idiot he has been and to appreciate you more.
try to spend more time together to make him realise why he wanted to marry you in the first place and good luck with your relationship

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I am on my 3rd husband. My first was very self serving it was always me, me, me. he was the one who worked, and earned and, and, and; I supposedly sat at home on my fat a@%e and did nothing. that lasted until I wisened up, so I took my 3 kids and left the b@%d.
My second husband, couldn't do enough for me, as soon as he got the ring on my finder it was, "You belong to me, your kids don't." that relationship lasted until he sugested that I send my kids to live with their father and we move interstate and start again.
My 3rd husband is myu sould mate, it took him 6 months to convince me to try a relationship, now 22 years later, I have 6 kids. We share everything, his whole attitude has been that while he might go ouot into the workforce and earn the money, I stay at home and keep house, cook, and raise the children. Now our youngest 2 are 15 and 17 and are just about finished school, at least the older one is. I have gained a job, but it was only on the condition that "I wanted to." becuase I had enough to do with the house keeping.
Ask your husband this. WHile he is out working, who cooks and cleans, who does his laundry and irons his clothes, who makes his bed so he has a comfortable nights sleep, who beds him and pampers him, who fetches for him, and who wouold do it if you were not there?
If need be, give him a month to think about it on his own. That is what women's refuges are for, to allow battered women to get away from abusive husbands.
What would he do without you? You need to ask yourself that as well. You really don't need to tollerate this rubish in your life, no matter how badly you are treated, you have always been there have you not. Well maybe it is time that he finds out what it is like when you are not there for a while.
When I took off from my first husband it was after a beating that he still reckons I deserved. He, (the wimp) moved into my mothers home because, the poor baby couldn't stand to be living in the house alone, surrounded by memories.
When I returned, it was only out of defeat, thanks to my mother taking him in. He went right back to his former attitude within a fortnight.
Believe me, there are far more deserving men out there, you shouldn't have to put up with this typs of treatment.
Keeping in touch.
WhiteOwl2007

or has he killed it now you have sen the mean nasty side? You go girl! and make sure he shares half of everything..including the housework.Do this job for you, keep some money , have separate accounts, and hope he stays