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Hiya. I would say wait, because of the age but then again I can hardly talk.  lol. The pain isn't anything too bad, and it's the type of pain that doesn't last long. Maybe everyone is different though. Just make sure your boyfriend knows to be gentle.
Now, the pregnant bit. You want to be pregnant at FOURTEEN? Really? Wow. 
You do realize real babies aren't like the toys that stay silent all the time?
You should live your life before even considering a baby, they will take up all of your time and you won't be able to be a kid yourself. Also, you have to think about your boyfriend, would me support you? :/
You really need to talk to someone you trust, and I don't just mean family. I understand that babies are cute and everything, but having one so young is not so smart.
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i was exactly like you i didnt want to loose my virginity because im scared it would hurt. but if your boyfriend loves you he will understand you need a lot of foreplay to get you aroused before sex. But WHY O WHY O WHY do you want to become pregnant at 14? you will ruin your life. i think you really need to talk to some one about this. Maybe a family member that older than you. just some one thats an adult and that you trust. !
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Hi
Hello my user name is dance4999
My personal opinion is you should talk to someone older than yourself someone you can trust and share your thoughts to not an older boy or and older BFF but an adult.....such as teacher, counselor, nurse, maybe not an adult but someone with any info you may need...someone who you can trust not to squeal
Another personal opinion is I wish I would have waited I was 19 when I lost it......I loved being a virgin it made me feel special and different then most girls I knew....It made me feel like I had something that only I could give away.....when it's gone it's gone there' sno turning back.......the man I lost it to was and still is the best man I knew.....he was there after for moral support and loved me dearly actually asked if I would marry him soon after....BUT i was the one who fell out of love with him.....he then died soon after from I still have no clue.....but anyway not many people realize the womens heart can change....just as much as the man's and although I didn't regret I lost it with him...i still wish I would have waited......................
VIRGINITY is the one gift women have that men can never get unless it is given or taken..................
and about having a baby.......................... .did you know how painful birth is, have you seen those videos in school of women screaming it's real. I have never been pregnant but it is common sence and nature that it is the hardest thing a women puts her body through
after the baby or babies (depending if you had one or 5 your first pregnancy)
what about
*food, diapers, school, work, at least 18-19 years of love and attention,
*you will no longer have a social life
*what if you get an STD
* what if you got pregnant again
* if you did have an STD the child would most likely get it to........like in AFRICA where a good 1/3 of children born have AIDS
*the emotional trama you will suffer and the name calling will be constant and fierce it will hurt very bad
*after child birth you might go crazy and kill the kid......POST-PARTUM DEPRESSION....Many women suffer from it.....
*What if he where to leave you.......this sounds nuts to you maybe but if he where to cheat, die, enlist in the army, lose a limb, lose a job, never get a job, you may fall in love with a better man, you might find out later you like girls.....there are so many things that could take him from you.....
look at it this way you are bringing a little you into this world
EXCEPT
you can not walk, talk, eat, go to the bathroom, change your clothes, think for yourself,
that little you will be totally helpless you will have to do everything for it..........EVERYTHING
not one second of one day will it be able to be alone for YEARS
Think about it do you get all your emotional needs met are there some days you want to pull your hair out, cry, yell , scream, throw things, hurt yourself or others,....................YOU WOULDN"T BE ABLE TO DO THAT ANYMORE................YOUR LIFE WOULD BE ABOUT THE BABIES...................AND NOT YOURS......................... ..YOUR LIFE AS YOU KNOW IT SOCIALLY WOULD BE GONE
look up satastics of how much a child cost these days and you will see
most 2 person income families who have careers and are in there 20's or 30's.....they can't always handle it
I know a girl who got pregnant after one time with one guy...a guy who said he couldn't have kids........he skipped states and denied the child........the child looks just like him it's crazy to see someone go through that
there are nursing hotlines through medical insurance
there are 800#'s you could probably find online
you can even go to free clinics around most anywhere you live....like those clinics where they have free pregnancy test. STD screenings, they'll answer any questions freely and without bias or being on one side or another.....places where if you don't want to tell someone and not be afraid of it getting to friends, family, or anyone you don't want to know
I HAVE TO GO..................I WILL TXT LATER
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if your ready go for it! if not tell him your not ready dont be pushed into it
and it doesnt hurt your be sore after but you should be alright the next day
hope you no what your doing though its a big step
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Hey hun
my sister lost her virginity at 14 and i lost mine at 15
and all i am going to say, is you will regret it..
boys dont tend to know what a girl wants at that age and they dont understand about girls feelings,
i regretted my first and my sister did,
and if you are adimant on doing it, then make it something special!!! thats the best advice, i lost mine whilst in a genal and it just made me feel dirty and unwanted.
did you say you did want to be pregnant? i think your a tad to young at the moment hun. bringing a baby up is not the easiest thing.. sleepless nights, 24/7 attention.. it is rewarding and you love your baby of corse. but i think you need to concentrate on school.. and i know it can be a drag... but just think of your future!!
and my first time, really did hurt. its a pain that you can take but it does and it tends to hurt after for a day or so.
just wait... you will know when the time is right..
and if he is trying to get you into bed.. just say to him, i dont think im ready.
if he doesnt understand then he is clearly not worth it
hope it all works out hun
xxxxx
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Take more time or ?
If you are on physical storng and and you are feel do sex then no problem.
And I think if afraid to enter the penis on your vagina then you should practice with sex toys,Vibrators....From
http://www.bekinky.co.uk/
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Take more time or ?
If you are on physical storng and and you are feel do sex then no problem.
And I think if afraid to enter the penis on your vagina then you should practice with sex toys,<a ="http://www.bekinky.co.uk/">Vibrators</a>....It will give the slow and relax painful good sex
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i have one thing to say to you...
DONT DO IT UNTIL YOUR READY!!!
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How does sex fell
dont do it until ure 16 cos ul ruin it and please dont do what he says wait until ure ready and teh key si to be relaxed. i did it at 13 and regret it so much!!!!
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hello
well the first time having sex(if you didnt already) it hurts prettybad and you bleed...but the next times start to feel real good...if you want to keep your virginity thats a good idea cause you are young....and my advice is to do it wen your ready...not wen hes ready..and to wait on having kids...my sisters have kids and not that there bad they hold up everything esspecialy wen your that young..you should finish school first and if you want to go to college and have kids you cant cause your gonna have to get a job to support your kid...and instead of buying clothes and those cute shoes you've wanted you gotta buy diapers and formula...its sux..so i hope that you wait on having kids...
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Rushing
HONEY YOU REALLY DONT WANNA DO THIS THINK..... YOUR YOUNG AND OFCOURSE BOYS WANT TO DO IT ALL THE TIME TRUST ME IM ONE WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE'LL STICK AROUND AFTER YOU LOOSE IT TO HIM PLAY HIM ALITTLE WHILE LONGER AND SEE WHAT HAPS IF YOUR SURE THEN MAKE HIS DAY
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Hi
1st - you should only do it if u feel comfortable
2nd - i was your age when i lost my virginity and so was my X im now 17 and havent got any children...although this only happens if u use ur head and be carefull wif the things u do
3rd - if u think about it its worse cz then it is gna hurt just relax...have him finger u for a while wif at least 3 fingers so that the "hole" opens so its less painful
the 1st time might not be excellent but it WILL get better and better each time 
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Think...
hunny i understand that you really wanna lose it.
but you jus started high school...
ik it happens now girls are getting pregnant at such a young age.
im 17 and im too young to have a kid.
sex does hurt somewhat...
but you have to think losing your virginity is a big deal.
i know some people dont think it is...but it really is there is now way of getting it back.
i mean i lost mine like 4 months ago but i still sorta regret it.
hunny jus think a lot before you have sex.
--lil d
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Its illigal
dont have it for a few years it illegal to have sex before your 16.loose your virginity to him in a few years
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Some real advices
i really don't have much to say about you having sex because i been there....u need 2 look at all these things before you think about planning a child
1)do your parents know
2)is he really gone be there
3)think about who gon keep ypur baby
4)think about a baby coming out that tiny hole...
5)are ya'll ready for a baby and everything that comes with it
6)make sure its love not lust
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Advice
I'm 18 and I know that I really wanted a baby sooo bad when I was your age. I felt like I was totally ready for whatever this child could throw at me. I wanted to be pregnant and I wanted to have sex. I did not. It's completly up to you if you want to have sex, that's your choice, but use contraception. I know what I did for fixing my baby desire was that I got involved in babysitting this certain family every week. I basically just babysat this one child every week for a couple of years. I got to watch this kid grow up (at least from 2-4) and I didn't have to stay up all night and help him if he got sick, I didn't have to deal with him when he was really cranky. I just got to have fun with him and have all the perks of being a parent. Plus I got paid.
Anyways, it's your choice. If you want to have sex thats up to you (it doesn't hurt that much if you're really wet), but don't have a child. If you want a baby and take care of it, see if you can take care of somebody elses child. I'm sure they'd want to have some time off!
-- Fresca
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Sex
it didnt hurt me and i was 13 : |
ii realii regret it
ii have bin that gyal that saiiz stuff lyk:
*wha d fuk is virginty ii dont care
*we all lose it
*its onlii sex
but ii was rong on all three accounts
once yu have sex yu can neva go bak it onlii has 2 touch in side yu and thats yur hole virginity gone yu will never have it again its not like a if you lose a pen or your keys because if it was i wuld have my virginity bak again in a second!!
please if you have any doubts even a tiny little doubt DONT DO IT
but then again if yu want to then go for it it dont hurt if you are wet already and if you pleasure your self or he pleasures you be4 sex as it:
*gets you wet
*breaks you
*turns you on so much you even forget bwt it lool
hope it goes well WEN/IF its does
all my love xx
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Do not do it.
girl do not do it you do not wont to lose your virginity yet and pluse he is to old for you.do it when you get 16.
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hi, it won't hurt the first time, just feel quite tight. And you probably won't bleed if you've broken the hymen which many girls have done, through running, gymnastics, riding, stretching etc.. these people should know that!!
i don't think you should get a baby, I beleive that it helps a lot if you have a relationship, a sexual one at tha first and try living with someone first, most guys don't grow up for ages yet (30's?!) and end up leaving you with the baby with no money, no nights out when you are older and no help. Plus it's not fair to those in full-time work who can't afford a flat and are payin gthe taxes going towards your cheap council house and benefits. Why do you not want to go to uni/college and/or get a job, some skills and go travelling, make friends, have relationships and settle down later? it might depend on how you are brought up and if you're surrounded by common people where life for them consists of nothing.. sorry to say!! use a condom please and go on the pill if you are unsure! Take care
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Wtf
"Im sorry to be sayin this but you are a really silly girl if you want a baby at 14, i mean wouldnt yourather get and job and earn a baby instaed of having a baby thateveryone else pays!! think about this one really seriously, you could b throwing your childhood away!!"
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You posted that you hartless cow.
I fell pregnant at 14
Ive kept my baby
And yes maybe everyone else pays for him
But at the end of the day
Thats what the money is there for
Ive done the best i could for my little boy
Through threats being made by newspapers
Saying that under 16's are too young
To be parents...
And that we get pregnant for the money...
The money from being on the doll
Isnt anywhere near enough for my little boy.
If she wanted a baby she can have one...
She is the one suffering the consiquences not you
So butt out of her life ^^
She needs to find out what its like for herself
rather than some hartless cow
Whos not been though it herself
Sticking her neb in where its not wanted
She asked how does sex feel...
Not moan at me because i want a baby!!
Get a grip and grow up
as you cant comment on something
You havent been though...
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