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Do you ever feel..

So alone at times, even when there are loads of people around you?..at the moment i just feel so so low and un-needed in anyone's life. i just dont think im an important part or needed anywhere at the moment..i feel like im only wanted when other people are bored or have thier problems..but if i eer have problems all i get is oooh ul be ok u know...and thats it....what use is that to me?..im so supportive to other people and i do so much but never get anything back...its not like im asking them to chop their hand off or anythng...just a little bit more thought and respect.....something people are lacking in me at the moment...i just dont think people care..."it's ONLY steph, she won't mind" etc....well i do!!, and everytime i try explain it's like im invisible!!...i've never felt so miserable and invisible in my entire life....i just dont know what to do anymore...

I think we all get that...

hi steph!! goodness i thought id better get on this even if i cant think of anything productive...here you are feeling all alone and no answer yet!!! you know so many times ive heard people say oh dont worry its glynda shes right..(once heard as i was flying through the air headfirst towards a tree!!!)and usually i am right...but maybe you and i are just not the sort of people to appear to need any help...i know there are only a handful of people who know my vulnerabilities....and they know they will die if they tell!!! seriously though one of my good friends said to me recently(this in the midst of my dearest dearest dads funeral, a huge bushfire on my doorstep, my marriage going kaput) that if i had a meltdown she would know it was really time to give up!!! people really just dont know what to do when lifes copers arent coping!!so what do we do??? ive learnt to tell people that i need them...and just what i need from them...and they are great about it...so please put that smile back in place and get out there and be yourself-support those who you can but really think hard about what you need to be happy-then go out and get it!!!ok ive woffled enough-just please do lots of things that make you smile...big squeeze xx

Trying hard to smile

thanks for the advice, very much appreciated. i still feel real low today...and its the eve of my birthday, so i shouldnt reallyt be feeling like this. i just cant relax at the moment, doesent feel like im allowed to! i know EVERYONE goes through these life experiences/challenges but its as if im not being given a break, and im so so tired and fed up...i just dont know what to do, and worst of all im going through this alone and theres absolutely nothing i can do about it..

Happy birthday steph!!xx

youre not alone darls...none of us are...so whats actually happening in your life? talk to us-it does help...believe me i know about life throwing one thing after another at you!! hey by the way theres no law says we have to be bright and smiley just coz its our birthday...they are sometimes an anti-climax anyway!!!but i really hope you went out and had fun-tell us all about it ok?? we all have times like this and you will get through it too-you will ok?? youre a survivor like me xx

Trying hard 2 smile

hi there steph my name is steve i hope ur feelin better i wanted to say that i sometimes feel realy low and lonley im always with someone u know like mates and wen im not with them i feel lonley and sorrounded by 4 walls so i go on pc and talk through msn but that doesnt make u feel any better but i try not to let thigs like this bother me but it does lol but on the upside of things laughter is the joy of life and like u said before jus take sometime out. 4 u time and it may do u gud or even go on a holidy let ur hair down ur also young and beautiful so u have know worries there jus get ur self out and enjoy it and if ur a busy body try not 2 cram too much into ur schedule therefore over workin ur self i hope this helps i jus wanted 2 say ur not alnoe and seek happines through loved ones and friends thats my secret

Thank you for all your kind words

it confuses me how i can feel so alone when there are many people around me even. i honestly am starting to think - not being [paranoid or anything - but i don't think a lot of people care about me very much. they put no effort into trying to be nice to me or get to know me, ppl are nicer to nastier people than they are to me, and im nice! im so confused ast the moment, i just cannot seem to get it right. i know im a bit shy/quiet but ive really treied etc, now it's up to other people, im done trying. i always seem to be the one putting all the work and effort in, and im fed up with it.

Even total strangers care..

hi steph dont go thinking nobody cares...hey i dont even know you...we probably will never meet...but i do care. i know its hard...this year has been the toughest of my life-and some bits dont look like getting better in a hurry!! even so i keep pushing myself out there with a silly big grin on my face...a nd you know what?? most of the time i even fool myself!!! im happy because i choose to be...im not waiting for "something" to make me happy!! so dont give up on anything just yet-smile with me ok?? big squeeze to you xx

Hey steph!!

steph you need to get yourself off to a doctor..ok?? when you just cant kick these really down feeling and youre crying all the time-its time for a check up!! please do it we all need help sometimes and it sounds like you do now..so give yourself a big squeeze from me and go and get an appointment xx