How do i fight this

I have depression but am not on any prescribed medication for it. I have been taking St John's Wort these last few days. I have taken it bfore and had a bad reaction. I am back on it again, in spite of GPs advice, because I can't cope.

How can I learn to deal with people who seem hellbent on causing an increase in my depression through their total lack of compassion towards anyone who has problems. They churn out their 'tough love' ideas, their self help books and all that but it doesn't help, it just worms it's way under my skin and makes me feel worse.

I am reclusive by nature and unfortunately by deafness which isolates me even more. I don't give my trust easily because I have been hurt too much in the past to trust in more than two or three people. Does life have to be like this.

Sorry, this is a real ramble but my thoughts just won't stay straight.

Angelswatchme

Possible solutions

Hi Angel,
I have just started taking SJW too. I have always tried to distance myself from anyone who has a negative aura about them. I think people who are prone to depression are often 'sensitives' who can detect more within someone than they present on the surface.

The effect of their negativity can indeed be felt right under the skin. I would avoid them as much as is possible, build your strength up by indulging in tasks you enjoy and limiting any future contact. Maybe not altogether if your conscience is affecting you but some people just take advantage of any inches you give them and take a mile.

If you cannot make yourself stronger then try to think of them as being weaker by the things they do. If they were truly strong they wouldn't need to do what they do. It is their own fears and weaknesses and indeed damaged personalities that I believe causes people to behaving in bullying ways.

Try to pity them but know that people can really only help themselves and if they aren't willing to change then all you can do is pat them on the head and move on or just deal with those who can be helped as you would with anyone else who is damaged to that extent.

Walk away

Nothing winds a bully up more than the subject of their attack walking away or ignoring their nastiness. Makes them realise they are really defensless (sp?) weaklings. Trouble is that when we see others being attacked the first reaction is to wade in and help!

LOL can't win!!!!