Can some one help me please

I have been trying to figure this out, So far I have july 22nd 2009 for the marriage year, so that would be 31, I am trying to figure out i it is to the man that I am with, who also has wish fullfillment at that time, we were both born in shawnee oklahoma 35.35N 96.93W he was born may 22 1978 at 8:09 or 9:08 am and I was born june 28 1978 1:26pm Please someone help me with this, many thanks