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How you doing today?
Hi,
Not sure really what to say, I think it has already all been said!
I can't imagine what the two of you are going through and must be extra hard not having his support and instead having to deal with his depression. I only hope that he manages to pull together when your new baby boy is born! He is a blessing and hopefully will go towards healing some of the pain. I know he will never replace Mya, but hopefully will bring out the loving side of your BF again?
Sending all my love and hugs!
Kat, Avilee (20 months) and 35+5 week bump
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Hi sammie...
...i dont have any advice as i think you've been given loads from the other girls already, but i didnt want to read and run. like alex i was in tears while reading your post and i feel for you so much hun. its stressfull enough coping with being pregnant, but with Mya's anniversary coming close and OH being like he is it must be like over load on your emotions hun. i really hope you can both work through this, maybe its just a hurdle and hopefully you can get over it soon...together! hope your doing ok tonight and dont apologise for saying how you feel, its better to let it out than keep it in and god knows theres plenty of ears....and eyes on here!!!!
take care and chin up...
luv Orla...xxx...
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Oh hunni...
I have been in tears reading what you have written...
I know he is being such an idiot at the moment. I truly think it all relvolves around Mya. How you speak about him and Mya together is beautiful and I really think that is what's causing him to be like this. It's easy to judge him straight off by his behaviour, as I did. But when you look truly into how he is acting, it's clear he is depressed. Only thing is hunni that I know you have many of the same feelings, but you have to put on a brave face.
My OH is very stubborn, and too would act the same. He would be very guarded, and probably not let on how he truly feels. It's hard knowing how to get him to deal with it, after you have said about his background.
Oh Hun I bet you feel so helpless and frustrated?!! I feel like I just wanna shake him, and tell him to wake up and realise what he is doing to his self and you.
From what your saying about him previously being sporty and now being really lazy, he is defo depressed as it is a big sign. Maybe you could get him to look at photo's of how he used look when he was training, and how he looks now? Just a thought.. I know my OH has a thing with his weight and doesn't like putting on weight and if he sees pictures that look like he has put weight on he has to do somthing about it. Longshot I know, but it may just get him motivated?
Oh hun, I do really feel for you both with all that has happened, and I really hope this post comes across how it's meant... 
Keep smiling,
Lv Alex xxx
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Anytime...
I'm glad your feeling a bit better now 
Always here for you, if you want to talk.
xxxx
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Hey
sorry you are going thou all this at this time i think maybe its his way of dealing with the loss of mya if he had a bad life when younger he may find it hard to show how he feels and the ps3 takes his mind of it and the comfort eating some people turn to drink drugs and as you are pregnant now u have to get on with things for the baby i think u should sit him down and say u are hurting to mya was both of yours and u really need his help now you only have 5 weeks left u dont need the stress have u rang for your hip grant there is a number u can ring as all claims are normily done in 4 weeks i was told today when i rang to check mine and the 500 pound is normily 2 -3 weeks give them a ring xxxxx
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Hey sammie
How annoying about your stepdad! grr, you should be top priority girl!! Its hard enough being pregnant.
Does your BF work shifts then? He should be spending all the free time he has with his woman! bloody computer games, I threw my ex's Xbox in the bath when he cheated on me!  made me feel so good. You could do the same and blame it on your hormones! ha ha. Definately get tough my love, you are made of strong stuff, you can do it!!!!
Make sure you have fun with your sister, you need it more than anybody!
Hugs,
Hannah 32+3 pink bumpette xx
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Hello my love
Im so sorry to hear what you are going through. Why is he acting like a child? this really annoys me, you are 8 months pregnant, he should be doing everything to help you, you really need to rest as much as you can in these final weeks.
Hun can you not go and stay with your mum for a while? When he gets back just be really firm and say how knackered you are and how your health is suffering and you need rest and that you are staying away for a while. It doesnt seem fair that YOU have to leave, maybe an ultimatum, either he goes or you do!
Im sorry my love but he is taking the ... he keeps letting you down, he needs to realise how lucky he is to have you, and I feel the only way this is going to happen is if you are not around for a while, I say leave him to fester in his teenage squaller!
Please let us know what you decide to do, if you want to talk we are all here. Dont ever feel like you are moaning cos you are not.
Big Hugs,
Hannah 32+3xx
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You poor woman, what a stressful couple of years and what an in-sensitive git.
It sounds like your other half has an addiction to his PS, it's not just drugs that cause addictions. He should be cherishing you at the moment, being attentive, talking with you about your fears. You really need to sit down and decide what you want from your relationship. At the moment it just sounds like he is giving you stress and unhappiness. You do know that you are more than capable of rearing a child on your own, don't you?? Coming into a clean house (the way you left it) and the likes. It's often easier to be on your own than with a git... That's the conclusion that i came to when i ended my marriage, he was addicted to pc's, chat rooms, games, porn and so on, i never saw him and when i did he wasn't a nice person, he was never around for our children, time wise. He provided well, i wanted for nothing, nice farm house, cars, and the likes but all i wanted was to be loved and to be with someone who wanted to spend time with me and my children. I was very, very lonely and needed a friend as well as a lover. I am so lucky as this is what i have now but i had to take actions in order to get it.
I am so sorry about Mia, really feel for you and you must be re-living so much at the moment.
I really hope you get sorted, throw his PS against the wall or throw him out. You need to get the message across. Don't be scared about what he will do, do things to make your life better. You are the only person who can take the action needed to either sort him out or draw a line ubder the relationship.
Sorry i can't be of much use...
TC and thinking of you,
amanda xx
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Hey Sammie
This isnt the first post ive seen u post about ur OH. Uve got a baby on the way he really needs to be looking after u not the other way about. The way he is acting is so disrespectful and ignorant, how u havent flipped at him by now i dont know. If that happened to me the friend would have been kicked out, the playstation thrown in the cupboard and i wuda dragged OH by the ears to the sofa demand he make me a cup of tea and make sure he didnt leave until we had talked until things resolved and i felt happy again.
I know i dont know u but u seem like a really nice girl and dont deserve this. If there is ever a time for a man to grow up, its when he is going to be a father. My advice to you is put your foot down about how ur living, ur so unhappy u cant go on like this. Make him chat to u, let him know how u really feel and where it will lead if things dont change.
I'm sure he must have his good points too but dont let them cloud u at the moment. Right now unless u both try and sort things out the only way is down and he wont become responsible if he thinks he can just get away with this. He shouldnt have u in tears he shud be the person u turn to for a cuddle.
Get ur tough head on huni and show him u mean it.
Julz xxxx
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Hi Sammie
I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so down, just want to give you a big hug!!
How old is your OH? He's acting like a child and needs to take a look at himself and grow up. He obviously does want to be with you if he moved away from his friends to be with you and that can be hard (I did the same for my husband) but he moved to be with you so he needs to realise that!!!
You have to get him to address the whole situation somehow hun so you can clear the air and feel happy before your baby boy arrives. That damn PlayStation - I don't know how you haven't thrown it out the window by now. You must have the patience of a saint!! (You could always sell it and get a few ££ for baby stuff, lol!!!)
I'm sorry I don't have more advice for you, but just wanted you to know that I shall be thinking of you!
Love Sophie 25+2 xxxx
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Thank you
He's 23 and when we met (he was 20) he was so different - so mature..
The thing is he runs his own business and was doing really well and making loads of ££ for us and now he barely scrapping in minimum wage where he just got himself him a rut...
But im just so shocked with the PS as he always been so into weight training and boxing that sort of thing - he's a muscly man and loves to look good so its so strange seeing him putting on weight and binge eating and not looking after himself and its not like he talks to me if he is down his very stern and strong and hates showing signs of weakness - he was beaten as a child so finds it very hard now to apologies and show affection but he never been this bad before... he's really selfish but he gets that from his dad and how he has been bought up - but im really giving so theres no boundries at all he will jsut keep taking and taking and im exhausted - i want my best friend back...
Thanks for reading all that though lol!!!
xxx
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Hey Hun
I cant beleive your BF is being so out of order. I am not about to stick up for him at all because he should be running around after you treating you like a princess!!!!1
Do you think that with Mya's birthday coming up, and also the anniversary of her paaing that he could possibly be shutting you and new baby out as he finds it easier than dealing with it all?? He should be talking to you but if he had a difficult childhood and finds it hard to show how he is feeling that might be the reason he is acting how he is.
Maybe you could take the fuse out of the plug on the PS, cook a meal and have a sit down and a chat over a nice meal when he gets in?
Big hugs to you hunny!!!!!
Love Zoe, Ellie (16months) and 11week Bean xxx
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Oh dear hun, Can't believe your bf is still acting like this. Could he possibly be acting this way as it is Mya's birthday soon? It's no excuse though as he should be supporting you, I think you really need to sit down and explain how you are feeling and also see what he is feeling. He seems to be putting up some sort of barrier.
On the money front you need to ring up and find out why you haven't had either grant yet, I received mine 11 days after posting. Maybe they haven't received your form or summat.
Hope everything starts to get better for you hun.
Love
Toni, Rhys (16months) and Lily bump (35+5wks) x x x
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I think it has lots to do with Mya - as he used to spend loads of time with me and my family as theres 4 of us (brother and 2 sisters) and i have 4 nephews but since Mya died and i say theres a bbq or something he always says something like "maybe if mya was here" on other words he doesnt like seeing everyone with all the kids and it is hard i struggle and there my family when we went on holiday in june he was really distant to them all and kept booking all these trips to go on...
I know from reading that i should leave him and i am strong enough to do that (usually) but its so different if Mya hadn't of died i would be out the door with her pronto - but he does have his soft side and when he does talk to me i see how much pain he is still in and think if i got myself into that rut that way then i wouldnt want him to leave me! does that make sense?
I dont know maybe im making excuse i know he is really scared about baby maybe he trying to make the time pass - i know he will def be different when baby is here as he was amazing with Mya - would never let her go and always went on how that she was his world and know he has lost her...
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extremely stressed out and down 
with him knocking on door telling BF he needed to get back to london for work - so BF got up as he had work to.... 
lol not really but theres no room at the inn she already has my sister and the other room is my stepdads boys room for when they come over and if i asked to stay in there he would laugh in my face before chucking me out... so i'm not giving up my bed for a sofa although nights are not usually bad as he plays ps til early hours so i actually get to spread eagle which is nice lol!! 
