2nd time mummy! terrified to tell my mother!

Hey mums!

So, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and absolutely terrified to tell my mother that I am pregnant again. I first fell pregnant at 18 from a one night stand. I faced up to my responsibilities, kept the baby and now have a very handsome little boy who is 19 months old.

I was seeing a guy a few weeks ago but felt something was different, he was very busy working and I'm not used to coming 2nd to work, so we broke up. A few days ago I discovered that I am pregnant and it was the biggest shock. I was happy, but the shock surpassed everything. I even considered an abortion just so I didnt have to tell my mom.

The first time I told her, I was a coward and did it through a text. She hit the roof but eventually got over it. But I'm a single mum of 1, and will be a single mum of 2 and I know that I will never hear the end of it. She to, was a single mum of 2 kids when she was younger, which will make her moan at me even more because she knows how hard it was etc.

I'm 20 years old and will be 21 when new baby is born. I have a job, my own place and my son doesnt want for nothing. I have no intentions of quitting my job to be a stay at home mum till they both start school as I have only just got back to work, and financially, I am much better off being in work than not.

I am just so scared to tell her, and have no idea how to tell her that I am pregnant and will be a single mum with 2 kids. (the dad will be involved, but technically i will still be a single mum). I am still in shock myself and am absolutely terrified to tell her...

Sorry for the ramble,...

Hiya

well my situation is not the same at all. im 11 weeks pregnant with my 1st, im in a very happy relationship with the father, we live together and although we live in a flat we are on look out for a house. both our parents were over the moon, to be honest thay had been hinting on it for a while so not the same at all.
forgive me if i sound harsh towards your mother but with all due respect this is your baby your choice, like the other lady said you seem stable and very able to provide for your little boy. i could understand if you were like 13/14 but youre a grown adult. i understand its hard to tell a parent especially if youre unsure of the reaction but maybe say something like....mum i know you may not be too pleased but i have made my choice, im pg and im going to keep it. surely if she can see you are doing well with youre little boy she will know you can manage. is there any other member of the family you could tell, maybe youre father, bro sis etc.. who would be supportive for you.
good luck and i hope i havnt come across harsh, my apologies if i have.
tc
sarah 11+2 bean

Hey hun...

Well I had kinda a similar situation, as I too was absoloutely terrified about telling my mom this time round.

I got pregnant with my first daughter when I was 19, and I was still living at home! I have however been with my partner for nearly 4 years. My mom went absoloutely mad! She would constantly cause arguements, so bad that it made me ill! It got that bad that I moved out to my boyfriends parents house. My mom was not happy about it but she had pretty much drove me out. We brought our own house and moved in 8 weeks before I had our daughter. My mom did come round to it when she was born, like they all do I suppose.

We have had our ups and down's and we split for nearly a year in 2007. However were back together now and stronger than ever.

So we tried for this baby for over 18 months, and when I found out I was petrified to tell my parents again because of how my mom reacted last time. Although I am 25 now, and I am with the same partner, so not really the same circumstances as you.

Anyways we went round told them and they were totally ok with it??!! I was amazed, I was in tears cos of how much it had stressed me out. But all was ok, mom was a bit funny and asked if we had any plans to marry, and my dad told her to shut up lol! We said that we would do it in our own time, not just because we had children.

Maybe you could ask the baby's father to go with you to tell her, as then she might see that you have some support from him (and probably also won't go so mad lol). If not then maybe you could take a friend with you, I told my mom on my own first time, and got her true reaction, but this time I had my partner and my daughter so she couldn't really say much... think that was probably the best way lol!!

You seem very stable, and mature and if it is what you want then go for it. No one can make your decisions for you your a grown woman, so stay strong, and make it clear that it doesn't matter what she says it's your choice.

Sorry for the long reply lol

Good Luck hunni!!

Lv Alex, Megan (5) and surprise bump that will be here in 14 days!!!! xx

Hi, hun

Hi! I'm a young mother, too, but not quite the same situation at all. I'm 23, have a 4 1/2 month old (Risa) and am currently expecting my second baby with my husband, Brogan. I know, close together, right?

Anyway, you need to tell your mother, just so you can get that stress over with and maybe she will help you. God knows you'll need it dealing with a 19-month-old and being pregnant! Make sure to emphasize that the dad will be involved with the child, even if you two aren't still together. She loves you, and even though she'll be mad at first, she'll come around. Anyway, you are doing so well for yourself now! Oh, and if you can, stay working as long as possible! Maybe when the baby comes and you want to go back to work after maternity leave, your mom will even watch the baby for you (or whoever does that now with your son)?

Good luck, and let me know how it goes. Oh, and do it face-to-face or at least over the phone (NOT text) this time 'round, sweetie! Hang in there, hun, you'll be fine!

Love,

Janine, Risa (4.5 months), and 8-wk Surprise Bump!