What do i say........

hey ladies,

I dont know who else to talk to about this. A friend of mine found out she was pregnant 7 wks before me and was due in Feb, she went into labour yesterday and gave birth to her daughter at 10.55am who weighed 1lb 4ozs!!! At the moment she is doing fine and is at Addenbrookes Neonatal Unit in Cambridge! I found out on Facebook this morning when the dad posted that she had been born at 24wks, and I have messaged them on there and on mobiles to let them know we are thinking of them and that if there is anything they need to just let us know. What else can I say or do to help them at this time? I have read that babies born at 24wks have a 50% chance of survival!!!! It must be so hard for them!!! Its her 1st and he has twins from previous relationship.

Do we send them a card of Congratulations or a Thinking of you card or a teddy or something or nothing at all?

Sorry to ramble ladies but I am a bit shocked and although I have heard of babies being born at this stage and some survuving and some sadly not, but you never know of it happening so close to home!!!

If anyone has been in their position or knows of someone who has been in there position I would be happy to hear about it so I can pass on hopeful happy stories to them. I just dont know what to say or do

Love Zoe, Ellie (17months) and 17wks Bean xxx

Hi there

Hi, i sent a reply last night but for some reason it would not let me post it...

Anyway, my Dad was born at 26 weeks and is 68 now. We went to dinner with a chap in his 40's on Saturday who was born at 24 weeks weighing 1lb 4oz. He is a GP now! Not bad for back then!

I would send them a card and teddy or clothes. Even though their baby is early they will still be proud as punch and totally in love. It will make them feel more positive about things if people celebrate the birth of their baby instead of staying away.

Stay positive for them and i wish them and baby all the best!


TC amanda x

Thank you!!!!!

Thanks ladies for your replies - stillwaiting for more news from them.

I will get a small teddy and a card and get it to them as soon as I can.

You've been great - Kirsti thank you so much for telling me your story

Love Zoe, Ellie(17months) and 17+1wk bean xxx

Hey

hey chick,
my little cousin came along at 24 weeks weighing 1lb 11 ozs needed support with breathing for a while but came through the very best.

hopefully all will be well and id def send a card to let her know that theyre in your thoughts i think it would hurt more if u didnt.


lou and 17 week bubs heartburn killing me

Hey zoe,

my stepson was born at 28 weeks but was still only just over a pound in weight, he's 12 now and you'd never know he had such a bad start, he's a bundle of trouble! I would send a thinking of you card and a little teddy, don't see how it can hurt and like Kirsty says definitely pass on all the positive stories you can, know it would boost me to hear them in your friends situation. From what OH has told me scbu can be an awful lonely place and it must feel like the rest of the world doesn't care while you're going through hell so the more people they know are thinking of them the better. I think it's lovely that you care enough to want to do something to help and I'm sure they will feel the same, might be worth offering practical support, meals, lifts to and from hospital, any essential errands that need running cos they're life will be totally on hold, OH said that's what he could have done with when Jake was born and no-one really offered at the time. Sending lots of love and fighting spirit their way, let us know if you get any updates I'll be worrying now!

Lotsa love,
Clare (visiting from B&T) xxxx

Hello hun.

Hiya.

Well firstly you have posted in the right place as I had my baby at 24 weeks exactly when I was 16 years old. So I'll try give you some advice going by my experience!
My waters broke at 24 wk and I went into labour and had the most beautiful baby girl. She was born weighing 1lb 1oz!! She was small enough to fit in the palm of my hand and her feet were as long as my little finger! Docs warned me she had 50% chance of survival, but she got stronger and stronger! She was in neonatal care for 5 weeks and 4 days then was allowed to come home
She is now a big, strong, beautiful, thriving 3 year old and looking at her development and weight/height etc, you would not be able to tell she was born 16 weeks premature!
The technology they have nowadays is absolutly amazing. The amount of prem babies in that ward was so shocking and upsetting, but every single one survived and went on to be strong healthy babys! ( I still keep in touch with all the parents that were on my ward ) It was amazing how they pulled through.
Your friends baby is strong! They're alot tougher than you think.. They have to deal with sooo much when they're born full term so their bodies are prepared for it, built for fighting!
I won't lie, it was the most stressful and most upsetting time in my entire life, seeing my baby girl all wired up to the machines and relying on oxygen, but I didn't lose faith in her - not once. She pulled through, and so will your friends baby! I got by with help from my friends and family, without them I wouldn't of coped!!

As for cards etc, just send her one to say you are thinking of her. I really appreiciated the support I got off friends and family, so just be there for her. A card is better than nothing and it's the thought that counts hunny. So I am sure she will appreciate a little teddy or something.
Please tell her my story, as when I was in that SCBU ward, I would of loved for someone to tell me my baby had a chance! It will give her hope and faith and the inspiration to keep on fighting for her baby girl. Please send her all my love in the world. I'm sure things will turn out just fine though, she has a brilliant chance and is in the best place possible.
Come on baby girl you can do it!
Let us know how she gets on hun. I'm thinking of her, I know exactly how she feels.

Lots of love and hugs
Kirsty, Daisy (3) and 37+3 yellow bump.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Blimey!!

what a terrible thing i hope everything works out ok for them!! poor little baby and mummy!!

well im a bit stumped with that one maybe best to leave it for a few days and see what happens????? you have said you are thinking of them so maybe leave it at that for now??

ems xxxxx