Scrubber friends...... advice on what to do

well as some may know we have just movedinto our house. yesterday i had a trot to shops and on way home i go past a friends house. not seen them for over a year, (well bumped into them in town but not visited). last time i went to there house it was quite messy, not the very cleanest house and not really what i would live like but it wasnt too concerning. then yesterday when i went, the smell first of all was nausiating, awful!. when i could find i chair i sat down and me and friend was chatting. we got onto subjectof state of house. he always says 'why should i do all tidying & cleaning when she just sits on her a** leaving it for everyone else to do'. the state of the hous was just undecribable. there was rubbish everywhere, a pair of the daughter undies were on a pile of clutter nxt to me with.... lets just say i dont thing she has been taught how to wipe after num 2... all over them. i reallywanted to get out so kinda made it sound like a flying visit. then as i was looking towards the other end of the room i saw a mouse scarper across the floor!!! i just froze. i said i had some decorating to do so had better get moving. OMG!!! i still cant blv how bad there house was.
now to be honest its not the parents that concern me, its there little girl, shes 7, ive know her from being born and i would hate to find out that she got really ill or something. it really was something you would see on kim n aggie how clean is your house, maybe even worse. part of me thinks, just keep out of it, but then like b/f said last night, if i found that liitle girl was ill i would feel guilty for not doing anything about it. because the mother has minor learning difficulties, they had social services keeping an eye on them in past which is why there house wasnt that bad bk then. im not exactly bezzie buddies with them but i dont want to cause problems and i know that if social services got involved theres a chance they would take little girl of them.
sorry for long post, i still cant blv the state of there house, needless to say i will not be visiting again, im no snob but i care a lot about mine and babys health.
just would like your views on the situation and any advice.
thank you ladies
sarah 17+6 xxx

Thanks ladies

well im not saying theyre the type i can just go and tell what to do but i can talk very honest to them, they kinda no pride at all. i think im gunna have a chat with him, (hes easier to talk to than herwith her having problems) and just maybe let him know that i care a lot about that little girl which he knows i do and if he doesnt start providing a better environment for her then something may have to be done. he can be a bit dopy at times and usually needs a kick up the rear.
thanks agin ladies, got a lot on at the mo so im not gunna go out of my way to see him but he live close so ill bump into them at some point and may mention something.
hope u all well
sarah 18+2 xxx

Hi sarah

I know it isn't nice to be in your situation - it's something I've been a part of in the past.

You obviously feel concerned enough to write this post so I'd say that's a good indicator that something is wrong.

If you think she is at risk then you should contact SS. It is unlikely that they'd take her off them - this is something they rarely do. To be honest my experience of SS was terrible, they were crap. This was to do with a family member.

It's not in your control what they do with the information - really that's in the parents hands.

They don't reveal your name if that's what you're concerned about. Also, if they're neglecting the house like that it could be an indicator that they're not doing other things? I don't know.... it's a toughy.

Sam
8+1

Tuff

hey sarah
ah its a tuffy........cant you just pull them up ..or get into a conversation bout it?
i wouldnt like to be you at the min but good luck with what you decide xxxxx.....sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind x
linzi 23+5 bump

Hey,

Hi hun im sorry your in this position its not nice.

I know the idea of calling SS isnt nice but if you feel her child may get ill or is at risk surely whats best for the little girl should come first.
In my experience SS dont take peoples children on a whim and would rather help the parents care for there children properly then take them away.

i dont blame you for not wanting to go back.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

Nic 36+4 blue bump x

Eeek

my pal has had to look after her nephew as her brother and his girlfriends house was so unhygenic they were putting there childs life at risk.
i dont know how bad it was but it must have been bad. they where quite young and they have a social worker who goes around every day.
i think maybe a word with the childs teacher or a neighbour of thiers to see how bad it is to them! this could help.
or maybe you should talk to them about it.
say that it is bad for thier childs health.
it may shock them to change.
gl with this situation but dont let it stres u out in ur situation.
tc kirsty
7+5 xx