Really need some advice from others. I am 36 years old and have just found out i'm five weeks gone, i've never been pregnant before.
I just feel so confused and my mind is in a total daze, it's like I can't take it in. I've always been a bit of a career woman with my own flat and nice things so always been independant I suppose. My partner of 2 years is as confused as I am. It's like - is this really happening! At this stage I really don't know if it's a good thing or not, am so scared of all the responsibility to come for the next 20 odd years, just so life changing so everyone tells me. And at 36 (soon to be 37) i'm no spring chicken anymore! Just really can't decide on how I feel about all this. Even went to Boots and Mothercare in my lunchhour to see how I felt when wandering round the baby section. Totally bizarre. Is it normal to feel this way? Isn ... normal to be jumping for joy?
Can anyone out there advise me please?

Just wanted to say thanks everyone for all your support and understanding, you have all been really helpful, maybe I am normal after all lol.

Although Netica I must say I have doubts as to whether you could be classed as a 'guru' for pregnant woman when 1. as you say you have never come across this before and 2. you are very quick to highlight the Down Syndrome aspect of things.

Once again, thanks everyone, any further suggestions and help would be most appreciated xxx

I'm just over 5 wks pregnant and although very much planned it's been a shock - since stopping contraception I only had one period before falling pregnant. It's weird but I thought I'd have more time!!! I'm also getting really fed up with being constantly anxious as I'm totally aware of the miscarriage risks. I'm 36 so I'm also worried about the Downs issue but I'm pretty sure Netica is not a "guru" for pregnant women or she'd have done her research - your chances of having a Downs baby are way lower than 1:30 so she's talking complete rubbish.

I've been reassured by friends that feeling resentful is quite normal but they also say it's the best thing they've ever done. Yes, life will change but change is rarely a bad thing - just make sure you have plenty of supportive people around you, especially as your other half is in shock as well.

Best of luck

MissyB

hi, this is something which i have not come across in my line of work! let me start by introducing myself my name is netica and im a computer guru for pregnent woman, i read different stories all the time and then reply back with my honest belief!
first of let me start by saying congratz!
well there are positive things to this and only one negitive!
the best things are:
*your going to be a mum
*your bringing a new light into the world
*your going to be able to hold something so special
and plenty more........................
the only thing i will say to you is relax!
1 in 30 woman have a down sydrom child if there 30 or over!
take everythinfg easily ok dont try do things and dont get stressed!
you will be fine and so will baby my prays are with you!
good luck x x x x x x x x x x x x x

what u got is precious one where u have to relax enjoy .u had alredy lost lots of time in ur profession now it is enough .money is not so imporant whad u had got know .this is the one who will take care of u when ur old enough to share ur feeling and joy of ur own blood which u cant buy of money.i hope u understand .so go through lots of parenting care books how to take care and enjoy ur life ."money little more sleep, more money less sleep "that what so u give ur child proper guidence he will lead u

It takes time to realise what's going to happen. Even though my pregnancy was planned and we were really happy when we found out I was pregnant, we find it hard to actually believe that there's a mini-me growing inside. I'm only 10 weeks pregnant and I don't think 9 months is actually a long time to get ready
I might change my mind in a few months time, but for the moment I think it's good that way because it helps taking things in.
anyway congratulations and good luck.

I am 27 years old and its my first one. I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and over the last month or so it has really sunk in to.

I just dont feel ready for it sometimes and truly wish I could have waited till I was thirty and would have been more sorted out.

I too get freaked out when going round baby shops, it feels like it should be happening to someone else!

Everyone says it should be the happiest time of your life, but I am finding it really overwhelming and worry about how I am going to cope!

It seems like so much to take in!

Everything happens for a reason and we will find our way through this and it will make us stronger.

Hope it all goes well, take care,
Natalie xxx

Don't expect to feel normal - baby stores used to scare me (alot), but everything just happens and it takes quite a while to unfold so it gives you time to adjust. Plus I highly recommend antenatal classes, but this will only be WAY later in your pregnancy.

Good luck. You can do it. I didn't want babies, I just wanted descendants but I tell you what nature works its marvels and now I truly think any baby is the most adorable thing ever. To think I would have spoken these words a year ago I would have told you it would be impossible!

congrats! i had my baby at 37 and it s the BEST thing that has ever happened to us. He is the centre of our lives and we actually wonder what we did before! We still travel and do most things we did .Enjoy the pregnancy and your new bundle of fun! You ll wonder why you ever questioned this at all. RELAX RELAX

Hi.

I'm nearly 34 and im 27 weeks gone.
Had my first baby 11 years ago!

You're bound to be shocked which is why you cant take it in.

Even when a pregnancy is planned you're shocked when that positive result shows up and when it's not planned it's even more of a shock, as i've experienced myself!

Dont be too hard on yourself about the fact you're not jumping for joy, maybe when it sinks in you will be?!

Give yourself a bit of time to get used to the idea that it's really happeniing and then see how you feel about things.

Congratulations by the way! x

Although I have been broody most of my adult life when I achully relaised I was prgnant ( not really trying yet) I sat on the floor and said "Oh ... . I want the baby but it seems like an abstract concept at the monmet (8weeks) i saw the midwife and she was all are you excited - I did not know how to respond.