hey guys,

i m about 12 weeks pregnant now and i am feeling very emotional. i just feel so down and depressed and i really dunno what to do. Got my first scan next week and i really worried in case their is something wrong. Because i had a heart defect when i was born i have to have extra tests and heart scans to make sure everything is ok. My condition could be inherited and i keep thinking that if the baby has it it ll be my fault.

i feel so lonely as well at the moment i feel like i have no one to turn to. Don't get me wrong my partner is great and he listens but he doesn't really listen to what i am saying he just puts it down to my hormones. My mum and dad live 30mins away and even though it ain't that far, all my family live down there and i just feel so isolated from them all as i have none of my family up here. all my friends live there too. I m the only one of my mates to be actually pregnant or have a child and i feel i am missing out on a lot as they all go out clubbin and drinkin and out for meals etc... and i just think i cant afford to go out even to the cinema as i have a baby on the way.

work is going crap and i go into work and just hide away as i really don't wanna talk to anybody as in my workplace your business is everybody's business. i m sick of people asking me whats wrong and if i am ok as i am blatantly not and no one even seems to want to know just being friendly.

and now writing this i feel really guilty as it makes me seem like i don't want this baby and i really do its the best thing that has ever happened to me. I just feel so low and I really want a way out this depression to be my old self.

sorry this is so long i just had to get it off my chest

thanks guys
Hayley x

Hia hayley
Dont feel lone that is exactly what sites like this r for. I am now 9 weeks pregnant and it was unplanned as i was on the pill and have only been with my partner 6 months, only known a week so its all abit mad and scary!!! Partners being amazing but we really havnt been together long enough for me to throw all my hormone, worries... on to him. Feeling very scared at the mo , have had nightmares of miscarriages every night, constantly get hot flushes to the point sweat is dripping off my back and all i want to do is sleep all day every day, already feel the size of a house and dont want to go out as i look so spotty and hideous- it's safe to say im not exactly glowing!!!! Anyway that's me and all my moaning crap, as for u dont feel alone just try to remember its all hormones and will all be worth it when u hold your beautiful baby in your arms and when u she him/ her smile at u for the very first time, i mean how strange s it to think there is a miniature person inside u right now that u created!!!!! I know what u mean about going out im a party girl and as i havnt told anyone yet every weekend ive had endless invites- "sorry another headache!". i also work as cabin crew for ba and have been grounded and not aloud to fly, dont get me wrong im very lucky to be being paid to do nothing but i miss my job, meeting new people and hate sitting on my bum all day at home trying not to spend money!!!!! Hope this message makes makes u feel there are other out there and dosnt bring u down more with me and my moanin ways!!!
Annie
x

I am so totally with you. I posted on here yesterday as my partner and I had a huge blow out and it resulted in him walking out. It was basically to do with the fact that I am totally over emotional and irrational at the moment and to be honest I do think I've very difficult to live with. I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have really felt that my partner has not understood how I'm feeling at all and takes little time to truly listen. Yesterday was awful and whilst we have resolved things and talked about each others feelings it feels kind of wierd and I'm still not sure he understands how scarey all this is for me.

There is a book which was recommended to me which is called 'The Blokes Guide to pregnancy' it's really good, quite humourous but makes all the right points for us ladies and I'm hoping will help my partner to understand a little more.

I had my scan last week and had huge anxieties about my baby but everything was fine and it was very reassuring. I hope it will help put your mind at rest.

I don't know how old you are but rest assured you will make new friends when you have this baby and there will be plenty of other people your age out there in the same situation and feeling the way you do. Ask your midwife to put you in touch with local groups.

I can't believe that I am on here spouting words of wisdom as I have found the first 3 months of pregnancy emotionally incredibly difficult, it's a big deal for our partners to cope with but a huge change for us ladies so please don't be too hard on yourself and know that you are not alone.

I wish you all the luck in the world.
Donna.

hii my name is danielle and im 18 years old. I am 37 weeks now and i can go at any moment. I know exactly how your feeling. When I became pregnant I was shocked but very happy. See me and my boyfriend lost a baby when I was 23 weeks pregnant and I feel that I was blessed with this one. When you talk about your friends being far away so are mine. I talk to them on the phone all the time but its not the same as being able to just go to their house and hang out and just talk . Also hearing them tell you about their weekends and going out clubbin and stuff and what they did can make you really feel down. My self esteem was so high and now that I have a big tummy I feel like an oaf lol but hey not even 3 more weeks to go and I'll get my body back. I look at it this way .. after this baby I will not be able to go clubbin all the time but maybe once a month I can have a night out and isnt it more fun when you do it once in a while instead of every weekend ? A baby is so much more rewarding then always being drunk you know ? Getting drunk all the time gets played out. Your body will be back after baby comes out and your self esteem will boost back up. And this depression stage will pass .. I promise. Once you see your baby on the scanscreen and feel your baby kicking around in there .. you will fall so in love! Message me back ! lOve danielle xO

hey,

first of all i bet you can't wait to have your baby, your so close! Do you know what you are having? I am sorry to hear about losing your baby I can't imagine what that feels like.

I talk to my friends at least a couple of times a week but its not the same as being their with them in person to talk to and just chill out with!

I know after i have had the baby i will be able to drink and stuff but its not about doing it. To be honest i wasn't a big drinker before i fell pregnant. It's just that being so young, thats what my mates want to do, thats all they wanna do and i just feel on the sidelines! its like when i suggest something else, it like i said an utterly disgusting word!lol i know they are not intentionally doing it, but its what they wanna do. I can't wait for the baby to arrive and it is so much more worthwhile than gettin drunk, all it is, is i feel left out with my friends thats all.If given the option to get drunk, i wudn't anyway, pregnant or not.

I can't wait to see the baby on the screen.I think it will be more real then and it will hit me more i m still in shock to be honest!lol

Thanks for you reply! How are you feeling at the moment? Do you have any names yet?

Love Haylez xxx

Hey,

Reading your message was really scarey for me, only because everything you said in your letter was exactly how I am feeling!
I am 13 weeks pregnant and feel emotional just like you. I have my ups and my downs almost everyday, and I sometimes feel like I am all alone. Today I decided to check out some sites on being pregnant and came across this one and you are my first person I came across and read your blog and got pretty emotioal reading it.
You really touch me because we share the same things.
When you started talking about your partner it was like you described my fiancee to teh T and that was scarey. hahahahaha. He is always saying baby I LOVE YOU but it is just your horomones. I just want to get up and slap him half the time because he tries to understand but he really doesn't.
My mother and father live 8 hours away so I have his side of the family in the same city as us and it's just not the same support as if you get it from you mom.
I can go on and on, on how I feel but maybe i will wait for another time I either talk to you or something.
Anytime you want to talk I am here!
Send me a message whenever I will be here for acouple of hours looking into this site.

Kimberly

hey,
it was such a relief to receive your post i really thought i was the only one who felt like this! Don't you just hate the phrase 'it's just your hormones'! My partner keeps saying it to me too and it is driving me mad (even though it is most likely true). I came to the conclusion that it must be all men who are like that listen but don't really listen to what your saying.


I can't imagine what it feels like for your parents to be that far away mine one live 30mins away and i miss them like hell at the mo. My dad works away so I only get to see him like every 2 weeks for a few hours! You right no matter what your partner says it doesnt seem like the same support you get from your parents. i wake up some days feeling down and just really want to talk to my mam, even if it about something stupid like shopping or cleaning my house!lol

So how are you feeling? And how is your pregnancy going?

take care of yourself and likewise, i am here anytime you wanna chat

Haylez xxx

hiya everyone,
was just reading your posts i feel the same as all of you i am nearly 31 wks n sum days i just sit n cry n i h8 not bein able to go out clubbin and just meet up with m8s but i tell u wot all these feelings r worth it i have a 13month old baby and he is the most important ting to me in the world even when i do get invited out i dont want to i would rather b at home with him he is my world and when i get emotional i just look at hes cute face and i no its worth while i am only 20 and bein a mum is betta then goin out clubbin trust me! so when your all feelin emotional just tink of your lil person goin inside of you and that will mke you smile! gd luck with all your pregancys!