Hi Guys

Don't even know where to start. After what was a lovely day, my partner and I had a huge row. At 12 weeks pregnant, I'm moody and weepy and really frustrated that he doesn't understand and also doesn't appear to be helping out too much. As a result I said some things I didn't mean. Now he's left, said he can't forgive me but still wants to be involved when the baby comes along.

I'm totally devastated, really worried about the baby because of how I am and really angry and upset that my partner could do this to me especially since I am carrying our baby which we planned together. I have apologised for my comments and asked him to come back but he refuses.

I can't believe that when I should be so happy that I am now facing life as a single parent. I never wanted this but I will cope and I am having this baby, I love it so much already.

My partner is making out everything is my fault and states I have ruined his life. I have no idea what to do now and how I will cope with a full time job, a mortgage to pay and a baby on the way.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

Do seem to have difficulty realising that perhaps we need cuddling for hours on end just because and if we want to cry for no reason it is actually normal and we should get cuddles for that too and all the massages we want and the support no matter what. BUT:As they are not the pregnant one i think it is difficult for them to understand and feel we are being out of minds and unreasonable etc etc. We are well in our right to voice our feelings worries opinions and anything we want we are going through probably the biggest thing we ever will go through.
I hope that he comes around to realise what you mean to him. How long have you been together if you don't mind me asking? It is good that you are happy and loving your baby already. It can be a very emotional time and I think my partner and I have been going through the biggest challenge in staying together as my hormones have gone Awol.Let me know how you get on. Believe in yourself!

Hey there!
I know what you are going through. I have been with my man for a year and we are engaged too. Our relationship was perfect until I got pregnant and it went all down hill from there. I am 13 weeks pregnant and LOVE it so much but meeting my partners needs is not there. Since I have been pregnant I don't want to cuddle, kiss, hold hands , hug anything that has to do with being physical is out of the question,and specially SEX that is the very last thing on my mind. At first he was handling really well and now not so good. He knew that my body was changing and I was going through the change with horomones abd he was fine with that but now it has lasted almost over a month and he is really annoyed. We fight all the time about him saying you are neglecting me and my needs and it's not fair, my answer to that is LIFE isn't fair and to bear with me over time things will change. I can't help what I feel and I know it sucks for him but he needs to be patient and to wait until things turn around on the upside. Girl just talk to your man and sit him down and give him all the facts. Go on the internet, go to the library get books anything that has to do with you going through a change with your feelings and how it affects you being pregnant because that is what I did with my fiancee and it did help for him to understand what I was going through. He just thought that I was using this pregnancy for an excuse to not show him how much I love him or to not meet his needs if you know what I mean. A man and a women are suppose to be there through thick and thin and if he can't be there for you emotionally, physically and spiritually than I know he is not a true man. No disrespect for you or him but it really upsets me to hear that someone can do that to anyone, I mean leave you high and dry.
I hope everything goes well and hope he turns around and grows up and face the music. Also don't let him give you all the blame because you cannot help what you feel!

Take care
Kimberly

Hi Guys
Just to say thanks. We managed to sort our differences and it turns out he had no intention of 'actually' leaving ( although he did )! He says that he has found the first trimester very hard and that my mood swings have been horrendous. Whilst this is true I pointed out that he really needed to try and understand how I felt as it isn't exactly pleasant for me either and threats, walking out and being generally unpleasant do nothing to help me feel loved, secure and stable emotionally! Afterall I am the one going through this! There's been apologies all round and he has done his best to make it up to me although I think it takes longer for us girls to feel secure again whereas the men folk think you can snap right back to the way things were.

I'm nearly 14 weeks and thankfully out of my first trimester which I can honestly say I have not enjoyed. there is hope as I do feel far less moody and emotional, the nausea is passing and I feel less tired. At last there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am hoping I can now start to enjoy my pregnancy with my partners support.

Anyone else struggling with the stresses and strains of the first trimester and not having the most understanding partner I feel for you, it does get better. Hang in there!

Donna