I phoned the midwife woman yesterday to say that I was really worried about the fact that I have only seen a midwife once and that blood tests and a scan are so late. All she had to say was 'that's fine, call back in 7 weeks to book another appointment with a midwife. I'll be 21/22 weeks by then and it will only be the second time I've seen the midwife. I'm feeling really neglected, don't know anyone else that has basically just been left! I'm feeling very angry at other people too.. I went into mothercare the other day to look at the size of different pushchairs and was shocked at the amount of stares I got.. you couldn't even tell that I was pregnant because of the top I was wearing but I just wanted to shout at everyone. I am 19, will be almost 20 by the time the baby is born but I look a bit younger than my age. This does not mean that people have the right to stare at me or give me dirty looks when I walk past them! I got out of there as quickly as I could and I certainly won't be going back. It really upset me, I would never be that rude to someone. I know that when people think of teenage mothers they usually think of some silly little stupid girl, probably didn't pass any exams, has no qualifications and is going to rely on benefits for the rest of her life but that certainly isn't me. ARGH. I'm sorry about this long post but I just needed to have a rant.

i'm 16 and the amount of looks i get! i'm 24weeks pregnant still working n trying my best being a single mum. ppl just give ya the evils cos of wat u said about benefits. I'll never be that way, and you won't either so chin up x

i went to the hospital the other day cos iv been having a few problems, the nurse was going through the obs forms that they always fill in, she was asking me about contracepive that i was using before i was pregnant, when i told her that i hadn't because it was planned she gave me such a dissaproving look, she asked me my marital status and date of birth...i'm 23 and dont think that is particularly young to become a mother but she was just so off with me and made me feel really uncomfortable. i was really cross when i came away that she had made me feel like that...whaat right do people have to judge anyone...sorry im ranting on now!!!
as for your midwife im sure you should have seen her more than once, im 18 wks and have seen mine 4 times and been for a scan. good luck with everything and keep smiling, as long as you're happy thats all that matters! xxx

Hi,

You've come to the right place to have a rant, everyone is so helpful and understanding on here, i've met some people who i'd actually call friends now.

Some people are so judgemental, like the people in mothercare! I shoudn't let it get to you, although hard with hormones everywhere!!!!...........just try to ignore them and dont let judgemental people upset. I'm sure you'll be a great mum.

As for the midwife appointment....that seems a long way off!
How far are you now and have you a date through for a scan yet? x

I think you are totally within your rights to get upset, especially being pregnant. Honestly do not worry about what people think, generally their oppinions do not matter.

I keep finding myself getting angry or upset over everything at the moment. I know I am certainly more sensitive now though.

It is quite late on the midwife though, I thought you see them at 12 weeks for your booking appointment and then every 4 weeks after that. Why don't you call your doctors. Do you know what your area is like for healthcare in pregnancy? How far are you at the moment?

All the best
Lex
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Sorry it's taken me so long to get back on here. I called a member of the community midwives team and she said oh that's fine. I really don't think it's fine that after all of this time I've only had my blood pressure taken. I'm going to be 17 weeks tomorrow, and the appointment is a week after that so I'm not going to bother talking to anyone else about it now, I doubt there's anything they can do about it at this point. I'm unsure about waiting times but there's really not much that can be done at this point.

Hi

I've only just read your message, but just wanted to reassure you. Age often has little to do with your ability as a mum - my own mum was nearly 29 and had been married for ten years with a seven year old when she had me - she still wasn't maternal, and isn't even maternal now, with a pregnant daughter and two grandsons (my sister's two). And at the opposite end, I know a girl who is my age with three kids, had her first at 16, faced all the comments and frowns and is, quite honestly, the most natural mum I could think of. Her kids think the world of her, and have all the love they could need - and they all look after each other (no mean feat with three kids, full stop!) So you ignore the stares, and prove them wrong. Everyone doubts themselves, it's natural, don't feel bad. As for the midwives, when you get in to see someone next week ask them WHY it's taken so long - and you could look into the complaints procedure at your hospital or GP surgery. There must be NHS targets for them to meet - and they cannot be meeting them. I had seen my MW three times by your stage, and they're not providing the service they should - they are not volunteers, they are PAID to do a job.

Good luck - for you and bump!

K x