Hi ladies

Me and my boyfriend have only been in a relationship for 6 months..we were very close friends for a year before we got together.
I fell pregnant very quickly which was a shock as i tried for 9 years with my ex husband and couldnt get pregnant so i was delighted, shocked and amazed when i became pregnant so soon.
We decided it would be best for my boyfriend to move in with me which i love but i have recently started becoming a bit suspicious and i need some advice.

My boyfriend and hes sister have always been close and thats fine, i would never want to change that,
He goes to visit hes sister once a week but insisits on sleeping at her house when he does, she only lives a couple of miles from me so i dont understand why he needs to stay over? i have now started thinking that maybe hes cheating on me and is not really at hes sisters..am i going mad? am i over reacting?
Surley if we are living together theres no reson for him to be stying over night somewhr else? if she lived miles and miles away i could understand.

He stayed there last night and now i feel really upset and couldnt sleep because he never let me know that he wasnt coming home.

Couldnt it be pregnancy hormones making me feel this way? xx

Hiya

Congrats on the newly addtion.

Personally I do not think you are mad or para...
I would go crazy if my fella stayed over ANYWHERE without letting me know. Now you guys have to start thinking about somebody else who's going to be the most important part of ya lives, he needs to be wee bit more considerate to your feelings and be more responsible.

I may sound harsh but I have a good relationship with my bloke mainly becasue we talk about everything. Have you discussed your feelings with your partner?
If not do so and he must try to understand your concerns, like you said there isn't a reason for him to stay over at his sisters unless he's drinking.

Hi there,

What you need to do is say exactly to him what you put in this post.

Every woman has the right to know where their man is, and if he loves you he will understand. You are pregnant with his child after all.

Hormones can make you more paranoid but stop blaming yourself and start asking questions. You deserve only the best especially now.

So chin up, be brave and let us know how it goes.

Big Hugs & Best Wishes,
Natalie xxx

Hi.

I have to agree with the other two on this one.

Stop being worried that it's your hormones making you feel this way. Pregnant or not you dont deserve to be made to feel this way.

Tell him you dont mind him visiting his sister but ask him if he wouldnt mind coming home instead of staying over.

Let us know how it goes x

Thankyou all for your replys, i have no one else to talk to about this as my friends would go balistic because hes let me down several times in the past.
I tried to explain to him yesterday that i dont understand why he needs to stay over night but he completly dismissed what i said. I have tried to contact him today as i have not heard from him since last night and he wont answer my calls or texts..

xx

Cant believe he is treating you like this!

You should be his top priority right now, now himself!

He shouldnt be dismissing what you say either.

You deserve better than this, the baby deserves better than this.

Big Hugs,
Natalie xxx

Being pregnant with his baby is immaterial in this case. The fact is, he is being selfish and taking you for granted.

We all believe what we want to and I am sure that you don't want to think the worst of him, but what he is doing is unforgiveable. If his "sister" is exactly what she is, then why haven't you met her after being friends/partners for a year and a half? Do you have any kind of relationship with his parents? Try slipping her name into conversation and see what their reaction is.

If he is genuine, he will understand your concern. The very fact that he dismisses you and then ignores you makes alarm bells ring with me.

Your hormones will be all over the place but as I said, if you weren't pregnant you would still have the right to be upset.

Think of the baby. Try to keep calm and relax but be strong and get to the bottom of things.

Keep us all informed?
Lx