i work and im not single,also partener works.thanks

"New here, in need of advice "

Hi, firstly i hope no one minds me being here only im looking for some advice, me and my partener have decided we wanta baby. im only 16 and i know this will raise a few eyebrows lol. we were trying a few months ago but nothing came of it so weve decided 2 wait until next year till i can drive an that. Has anyone else had a baby at 17? is so how did you find it? i know babies arnet cute and cuddly forever they grow into children but i love babies and children and iv had alot of experiance with them admitedly not as much as someone with there own baby but still no one does until you have your own, im sorry if this offends anyone or anything but i really would like to hear others experiances, thanks

BUT I THINK IF YOU ARE SERIOUSLY CONSIDERING A BABY AT 16/17 THEN YOU ARE PATHETIC!!!!!!!!!!!!

GET A LIFE FIRST AND WHETHER YOU SAY YOU WORK OR NOT I CANT IMAGINE MANY EMPLOYERS PAYING A 16 YEAR OLD CHILD A WAGE THAT WOULD SUFFICIENTLY COVER THE COST OF BRINGING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD AND THEIR FUTURE.

ALSO IF YOU SO DESPERATELY WANT A CHILD WHY DID YOU GIVE UP AFTER A FEW MONTHS AND THEN THINK OH HANG ON A MINUTE I THINK I SHOULD LEARN HOW TO DRIVE FIRST!!!

REALITY CHECK... YOU WONT BE ABLE TO AFFORD TO RUN A CAR ANYWAY IF YOU HAVE A BABY AT 16/17 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am 20 i have 2 boys and i lost a baby last year i am now carrying and i am 3 and a half months i did find it heard at first not being able to do wot all other people my age was doing but i think it is the best thing i have ever done i am now having driving lessons and on my way to passin so it isnt heard with chaldren its fun and i love it so if you want chaldren then go for it lol

I have two children one when i was 17 and another at 18. Im 24yrs old now im pregnant for the third time, i would say "wait" im enjoying my third pregnancy twice as much. Me and my partner struggled for years bringing up the children clothing, feeding, bills but we are in a much better sitution money wise then back then. If you are ready fine but dont rush into things that you cant turn back.

Good Luck
Rachel

My advice, as a pregnant married teen with a degree, is to WAIT! PLEASE WAIT! I finished college in 3 years and immediately married my high school sweetheart and now i have 4 months pregnant. Yes, it is a wonderful think but you haven't even finished high school! I may not even be ready for this, i do not recommend trying to get pregnant.
how will you pay for your baby?
a crib?
formula?
a house?
medical bills?
everything else?

come to your senses- you have your whole life to have children, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.

i've been trying since i was 16 too. im 17 now and believe that i may be pregnant.. it not how young you are its if you beleive you are phisically ready for a child.. i live with my boyfriend and have a full time job and believe im ready. i would definatley sit down with yor boyfriend and weigh out the pro's and con's of having a baby.. must tell you though that they do break your pocket.. it's not what anyone else thinks though
...hope this helps

hugs xx

trying to conceive at 16 years old is pure insanity. what is the rush??? don't be a fool. what kind of job can you and your bf have that can support a baby the way it should be supported?? i have one son and one on the way. i am 31 years old. its the hardest thing i have ever done. it is stressful. i love my family and i wouldnt change it for the world but at 16 you are NOT ready. and that is a fact...

some people are meant to be mommies!!!! and some are meant to wait. do what your heart tells you to do. ask god for reassurance. that's what i did. i got married when i was 18 to my wonderful hasband and everyone told us to wait!!! wait... and wait somemore bf having children, but god told us differently. he blessed us with a baby girl on my birthday!!!! april 9th... : ) and now we're having our sencond. as long as you can support your baby and give him or her : ) lots and lots of love a patience then i think it's ok. although sometimes i wonder about what things would be like if we took a different route, but then i see my baby and i remember the true meaning of LIFE!

some people think 16- 17 is WAY too young and i agree in some cases but others think late twenties early thirties is TOO OLD!! HAHA. people dissagree and others agree, that's just life. hang in there and maybe wait until you're 18 so you're technically an adult... haha ; )

gob bless

i have always known i wanted 2 b a mum since i was knee high to a donkey. anyone askd me what i was going to be when i was older A MUMMY! thanks xxx

Just a comment on your post - most single girls of 16 will not be in a possition to support a baby without help... its not a great position to be in, and could become really desperate.

i work and im not single,also partener works.thanks

When I said most single girls of 16 are not in a position to support a child, I mean just that - not that anyone is lazy or not trying or dont have potential - just that for most people of that age it is not yet a reality.

A woman needs to think about, first of all, independence. I have always approached work and money in a way where I could take care of myself (and children) financially, and I continue to do so even though I am now married. I have seen too many broken marriages and relationships, (some due to divorce, some due to tragedies like death or illness). There is nothign certain in this world. A person needs to think about insurance, retirement, the future.

I started working from my first part time job at the age of 13, but I don't think I am the exception when I say all I needed or worried about was spending / car money as a teen! You may be way more mature than the average - but even then you just haven't yet had enough time to build much financial security, education or work experience that will keep you going till your children are educated and you are old.

I'm not saying its not possible, millions do it, or that you can't do it with a child from an early age - just that is tends to be a whole lot harder, thats all. Some people are so determined they work 2 or 3 jobs, never take vacation, never travel, make do without any luxuries and raise fine children. But they will never say it is easy!

If you had no help at all and had to feed, clothe, house, educate and take care of the health needs of both yourself and your baby, tomorrow and for the next 20+ years (as well as have some fun along the way) - could you do it? Perhaps you could, but I don't think you would disagree if I were to say that most 16 year olds are just not there yet. Which was my point.

Of course, if you or your family are independently wealthy then you don't have to worry about the same things I do and the rules are probably very different

Hi,
I had my first child at 16 and missed out on so many things and opportunities. Just wait, time goes by so fast. You'll be in your 20's before you know it.GOOD LUCK!

im 17 and im 24 weeks pregnant although iv had a very good pregnancy so far i would have to say to u are u sure this is what u want my pregnacy wasnt planned and me and the father have only just started talking again due to him being in shock. all im saying is can u soport the baby can u give the baby all that u would want to give it i mean i no i cant but it was too late 4 me lol i dont think 4 a minit i would change me being pregnant for the world tho. im happy yet im still in love with chris the father and he doesnt want me. write back id like to chat emma xxx

if u have msn let me no ur addy n ill add u xxx

Hi i am 19 now but i got pregnant with my daughter when i was only 15 and had her two day after my 16 birthday.Its been very hard! Now i am 19 and 31 weeks pregnant with my second.Being a mother makes you grow up really fast so kiss your teenage years goodbye.I also think trying to get pregnant is stupid!I could see if it accidently happend to you but trying!Don't rush to be a mom enjoy your teenage years!How many of us wish we could of?lol!

I am 39 and pregnant for the first time. All is going well, and while I wish I had fallen pregnant a few years earlier (one disadvantage to waiting), I don't regret the many years of life and activities I would not have enjoyed if I had to take on the responsibilities of motherhood at a young age. My career has done well, I have travelled the world, and even ended up meeting someone in another country and now live there. I have had so many experiences its like I've lived 3 lives already. No one can change the past - you can only influence the future. Think hard about your aspirations - motherhood is a worthwhile goal, but it is likely not your only one. You have years of life ahead of you - you don't have to (and probably shouldn't!!) wait as long as me - but don't rush!
Best of luck and enjoy the 60+ years ahead of you.

Hi, I'm seventeen and have four adorable baby girls that just turned 3 weeks, yes me and my bf are getting married in may. I love my girls and the support that everyone is giving me....at least I just graduated this year and had them on July 16th. My bf has a good job($25/hour) and we have everything that we need because my daddy is rich, so meand my bf and the babies are living in the guest house. My mom got me a nanny(and her help of course!) so that in a few months I can take some courses at the college in townbut still be with my babies, I wouldn't give my girls up for anything, but I would've liked to be at least 20 when i had them.

I'm gonna let you Make your own desicion -but can you support them financially?, do you have a job? You said you can't drive yet, might not be the best desicion..There is also that chanc eof you bf leaving-which in many cases happens when the kid actually comes......think about it(please)

~Madelyn

I had my son when i was 16 although i love him more than life itself and i wouldnt change him for the world,it was bloody hard work,when my friends were off out partying and enjoying themselves i was at home with a baby smelly nappies heaps of washing covered in baby sick etc etc.Eventually me and my friends drifted apart and i never saw them.When my son was 2 we found out he was seriously ill and wouldn't live past the age of 16 his father left us.This seems to be blokes all over they cant seem to accept resposibility for their actions,once you are pregnant or after youve had a baby your whole relationship changes,men are used to having your attention and affection 24/7 but once you have a child all your time love and attention is on them and men dont like it thats why 9 times out of ten they leave.
please dont put yourself in the same position myself and many others have done its not nice and its hard work doing it on your own.
Make the most of your life while you can go out enjoy yourself see the world etc then think about having kids.If you dont do all you want to do you will regret it one day.

Hi Happy Me,
I have read your letter and the responses, I am 36 years old and have 2 children, 17 and 14...I was 18 when I got pregnant and thought I knew it all. I love my children to absolute bits and would never change anything but wonder what THEIR lives would be like had I been older and more financially stable. I understnd whole heartedly where you are coming from and not only see what my daughter is going through right now but remember how I wanted to be a young mom too.
Please, let me tell you, it is not easy. I never graduated school and am now a mom of two, working full time and going to school part time...at no time in your child's life, no matter how old they are will they want you to be away from them this much. When kids dont have their parent(s) around they can start to rebel and get into situations that are dangerous for them.
Please, take it from a perfect stranger and a young mom, wait until you have finished school and are able to start a life for yourself, if you dont have your own life it will be that much harder to make the life your child deserves...children are our future.
Take care -
My thoughts are with you

i beg u wait. i had my first at 16 and i love my son to bits but it ruined my life,it stops you doing all the stuff you should be doing at your age. im 23 now and ive just had a baby girl 7 months ago and now i know im only just ready for it. please get in contact. not being patronising but if u have one the man rarely hangs about mine didnt and im not bitter believe!!