hi, im 16 n engaged. me and my fiance (who is 20) would love to try for a baby but i have some worries, like what my parents n family would, if we'll be able to afford it, am i rushing things etc i just need some advice, someone please help!
Many thanks,
Sarah.

hi, im also 16 and partener 20. we tried a few months ago but it didnt happen thankfully! i realise now i cant do it yet, you need money a home thats not frm the council cus thats no sort of life, prefrebly a car etc etc its alot of work and money, do what iv done get a job and some money behind you same with partener.if u wana talk more add me on msn ill send u my addy threw email on here.trust me having a baby now is mad, thankfully i realised in time x

Then listen to your worries. If you are going to try for a baby you need to be totally ready. I am the opposite of the previous poster, I had a boyfriend who wanted marriage and babies when I was a teenager, I knew it wasn't right for me. Me and him didn't have a shared future, and I've done a million other things like travel (only parts of europe, middle east & africa - but that took 2 years solid! The world is just too damn big), played competitive sports, ride competitively, and yes advance in my career (alhtough the 2 year travel hiatus was a big of a hiccup, not to mention using up my savings).

I'm now first time pregnant at 39 - its a bit late in the game I admit, but all seems well with the baby (thank goodness). Also very importantly if my husband and I were to die or be disabled tomorrow, we have money set aside, insurances etc. so that (at least financially) our baby would be taken care of. Its really important to think about the grim things, about what could go wrong, as well as the joy to come.

You only have one life to live, and for most people it will be a long one (after all, nothing is certain) - make the most of it!

If that means early babies, then go for it. If it doesn't - then wait. You don't want to feel resentment for making a choice that isn't right for you - and can never be reversed.

Hi Sarah, this advice is in my opinion, ok. Only you know if you are ready for a baby or not, but you should find out what it is like to have a baby and what is involed before you do, because belive me it is not easy. I was 19 when I had my first I'm 25 now and have 4 boys (and I'm not having any more)I am pleased I had them young but there are lots of things I would love to do like go on holiday and go out for the night with my husband, who is going to look after 4 children for the night?? Anyway, if you want a baby then go for it, if you both want that, then why worry what other people say!!
Good luck
Faye