Overweight and pregnant...

Hiya all.

I found out i was pregnant 5 weeks ago. Ive been on many a sites to work out how far gone i am and im inbetween 10-11 weeks i think, according to midwife its 10 and the internet its 11! Highly confusing!

Anyway, I had my booking appointment with midwife on the 16th of this month, and as i was complaining of bad crap she sent me to the EPAU they give me an internal and i had a scan a few days later, At the scan they couldnt find the baby, only the pregnancy sac. The sonographer and midwifes were really not helpfull and didnt explain much too me just wrote it in my ante natal book. They mentioned something about the scan being difficult due to adipost. Ive since found out this could be fatty tissue. Ive got another scan on the 3rd of nov, but im really worried as to why if im this far gone they couldnt see the babys heartbeat.

Id love to chat to some other overweight women that are in there early stages of pregnancy and find out how there getting on.

Sorry for rambling on and hope some of you get in touch! By the way, im very overweight (110kg/17st)

Please get in touch
Mikayla

Hi

hi hun hope u don"t mind me asking are u as far gone as u think i thought i was 8 weeks pregnant, i had to go and have a scan as was bleeding the nurses etc were amazing now we they did the scan i had the same problem fat belly basically lol, but what they did was put a camera up inside me to see the baby which was just a blob and i found out i wasn"t even 6 weeks pregnant ,. they then gave me a copy of a letter saying wat hapened with my due date on and if there was any problems might be worth u asking to have the same as me , hope this helps karen xxx

My experience....

Hm...
I suppose weight and wieght loss is different for everyone, but the most imprtant thing you can do at a time like this is anything you can to ensure the safe happy arrival of your baby,, my sister was very overweight also,,and her baby turned to be healthiest baby ive ever,,however i am slim and mine had many problems and complications,,so i belive it relys more on what you are willing to do in order for this baby to be healthy and start doing that rather than worrying about what

I to am very over weight

hiya mikayla,,, i am in same boat as you,, i found out i was pregnant about 4 weeks ago,,, i just knew i was pregnant, baby was not expected, so was a shock to start feeling pregnant when this was not planned,, i have a son noah 20 months old, and put about 6 stone on when i was pregnant with him, which i have still not lost,,, and i also have a son dale who is 20 years old tom,, so some gap huh,, i to had to go for a intenal scan due to cramp and small bleed,,, the sonographer said there was no baby just the sack,, go home and come back in 10 days,, as i was only 5 week pregnant they told me they would not expect to see baby or a heart beat yet till 6/7 week to detect baby and maybe longer to detect heartbeat,,, so i went back 10 days later,, and there was the start of baby,, it was pulsing,, which they tell me is the start of the heart beat, but it was not beating as fast as they would have liked,, but it had only just started to beat , so i think give it chance,,, i have to go back next monday for them to check again,,,i know its hard but if you are not as far on as you think you wont see a heart beat,,, it takes time to develope,, and i dont think being over weight will hurt the baby in any way,, but it does make life for us very uncomfortable,,, i said after my last son i would not get pregnant till i lost a lot of weight, but i have got caught and i am over 16 stone now,, and if im gona pile on the pounds like i did with both my other pregnancys im gona be huge,,, it just makes life so hard carrying all the weight and the baby weight,, im deffo going to try not to put on more than 3 stone max, and i am deffo going to go on a diet after baby comes,, and get this weight off once and for all,,, i hope all goes well at your next scan,,, i know its easy for me to say, but try not to worry, i really think all will be ok,, xxxxx

Shouldnt worry

I am overweight, and i had a scan at 8 weeks (pic on profile) and it was as clear as anything.
had another one today, 12 weeks and 4 days, and its not so clear due to me forgetting to drink my water, and remembering 5 mins before scan
but could see the baby well, and had an amazing scan.
i had been wondering about it all the way through wishing i had done more before but its happening and its all good
dont worry and let us know how its going

Nervous!

Hi All,

I've just found out i'm pregnant and am waiting for my booking appointment. I didn't shed my baby weight after my first child and only recently started seriously dieting. I lost nearly a stone then found out i was pregnant. Maybe i got pregnant because i lost the weight?? Anyway i'm really nervous about the booking appointment as i feel like the midwife may be a bit funny with me about my weight. I weight 15 st 4lb now but according to my BMI i'm obese (which i'm not sure i agree with) I hoped to lose a bit more weight before falling pregnant again but it doesn't always work out to the ideal. I'm nervous about the scans now too... i think it's wrong that some of these health proffesionals think its ok to be rude because you're carrying a little extra weight. Have most people had trouble with their scans because of my weight.

Hi

hello,

i'm overweight like you and even if I didn't have problems with the scans (had the first one at 7+3) few weeks ago when I went to the hospital due to a bit of bleeding they tried to hear the heartbeat of the baby (it was Sunday so the department where they give u a scan was closed!) and the midwife tried several times without hearing anything, my heartbeat was there but the baby one was not...
I was totally in panic and already thinking the worse...they gave me a scan two days after (very long days for me) and the baby is fine...I find it a bit rude they blame your weight for a bad scan....if you want to talk i'm here.

izzy 15+3

Its not them being rude - its true!

Im sorry but ive heard several toimes that scans are ALOT harder if you are overweight - the sound waves (that the scaen uses to create the picture) get weaker the more tissue they have to penetrate.....things get missed or are hrder to read when you are overweight.

Not to mention all the other possible health & pregnany issues you may come across being overweight - the medical people dont say these things to be rude - they are being honest !
Perhaps the ladies on here who find themselves overweight should concentrate on not being so overweight and gettng healthier to support your body during the sresses of pregnany - not puttin it under more pressure being so heavy....??!!

I dont want to start any kind of debates here just trying to put an honest spin on something alot of people in this situation seem to be able to dismiss so easily, as something to be gotten around, rather than facing and tackling/ dealing with

Hi

hi im jo. im 8/9 weeks pregnant and had my booking in with midwife yesterday. came away feeling very despondant. i am being referred to a consultant because of being over weight. i came away feeling fed up and felt worse after reading all the leaflets. especially after reading up on the scan and it saying they may not get a good picture if ur overweight. my first scan is booked for 4 wks time and im feeling really nervous that they wont see anything. after reading ur message i feel even more nervous now.

Hi

Hi i am 12 weeks pregnant today and would just liek to say that i have already put on just over 2 stone and i am 15 stone now. my scan was fine and i didnt drink a massive amount of water either as i forgot to drink it an hour before and drank it 20 minutes before.
However my scan went well and i saw my baby. it was doing cart wheels and sitting on its head upside down. it was very funny and heart warming. and they saw the heart beat fine. so i wouldnt worry
i would say i am overweight (especially now)
and my scan went fine. i dont believe it has anything to do with it. just remember, drink alot of water an hour before your due to have your scan and you'll be fine
hope this helped xxsammyxx

Dont worry

i found out i was pregnant after 3 weeks of concieving and had a bit of a bleed at 6 weeks so went for a scan i had an internal because i am quite over weight and would have been very difficult to get a decent scan. lucky i was fine and at the 12 week scan i could have a normal scan and all was ok. i was given a little advice and told to drink loads of water before my scan to get a clear picture and it worked. i was booked into my next scan at 19 weeks but the midwife then changed it to 21 weeks because i am over weight and as she put it there was more padding to see through. so if you are worried ask for a scan at 21 or 22 weeks insted. but remember DRINK AT LEAST 3 PINTS OF WATER AND DONT WORRY. good luck and let me know how it goes. stephxxx

Overweight and pregnant

hi mikayla. gl wi your pregnancy. i was rather overweight before i fell pregnant with my first. i had no probs wi my scan but i wasnt scanned till i was 12 weeks. if its any consolation about some of your replies!! i ate healthy when i was pregnant and when i had my baby i lost 3 and a half stone of my ORIGINAL weight so i dont know how much i lost in total. unfortunately with my second i've managed to put most of it back on and i cant get it shifted(hes 6 months now). i have a feeling i'm pregnant again so we'll see how this one goes. let us know how your other scan went. tc x

So what did the scan say?

hmmm
its true, that its more of a difficulty to conceive if you're overweight, but that doesn't seem to be the issue here.
you must have had your scan by now. How did it go? I really do hope that everythings ok.
I've had three children plus two miscarriages, so I suppose i can speak of just a little experience I know that being a bit more cuddly than others can cause problem during the pregnancy, but i've never actually heard of it causing problems to scan. I presume there was another reason for them not finding the embryo at your last scan.
I'm not overweight and I'm not pregnant, but i do know that it can be a help to just talk sometimes.
Take good care of yourself

twilight

Grrr overweight & pregnant too much emphasis on it!!

I just wanted to say im 6 months pregnant and i currently weigh 19 stone! I have normal blood pressure & i am eating healthily.Too many people assume big women cant have babies or are selfish as it could cause problems for the baby...its a load of rubbish unless the woman suffers high blood pressure or gestational diabeties.I aim to lose the weight afterwards as i wouldnt dream of dieting whilst pregnant but many people would ask why i didnt lose the weight before hand? well i have spent my life rather on the big side and find it hard to lose weight and when i do it seems to creep back on!Ive had tests for over active thyroid etc and i dont have diabeties so the docs really dont know why im so big as i eat healthily but maybe could exercise more.I just want people to realise not all overweight women cause problems for their babies and we certainly dont cost the NHS more money as is being said on certain websites...it makes me angry as hell.Good luck to all with their pregnancies!

So nervous

i'm about to have my first scan tomorrow and i'm so nervous. I'm overweight and was in the process of going to the gym and losing weight, then i find out i'm pregnant. i'm lucky as at the moment i'm okay with high BP, but it's still early days, but people saying that it's dangerous etc don't really help. Being pregnant isn't the easiest thing in the world whether you are overweight or not. two of my friends have both had children, are not overweight and have found being pregnant one of the hardest things in the world. i'm determined to eat as well as I can, and still go to the gym, even if it's for half an hour walk - better than sitting at home doing nothing for 9 months!
but reading your message makes me happy that there are people in the same situation as me. Congratulations on the baby, and I hope your pregnancy goes really smoothly!

Don,t be nervous

by now you,ve probably had your scan hope everything went well for you,i was the same ,worried that they would say the same to me, i lost two stone to get preggers.i am now 25 weeks.I was fretting about high bp putting on too much weight looking at everyone else.The truth is we are all different no 2 pregnancies are the same i had all my bloods taken at 20wks no problems i don,t have high bp,i have only put on 8.5 pounds so far and i haven,t been exactly good in that department.i,m lucky so far so good.
All i can say is just cause we,re overweight does,nt mean to say we can,t have a great 9 months just like some of the skinny minnies out there

...not the best time

Now is not the best time to go on a diet. Are you mad? Its a no brainer you're gonna gain weight. If someone is overweight then they are just supposed to gain less weight then someone who is of average weight or skinny.

I'm overweight and I just got pregnant. I wish I had lost more weight beforehand - but now weight is the last thing on my mind. I'm more concerned about eating healthy - and lots of nutrients so that my baby gets all it needs to be healthy. I'll worry about losing my extra weight AFTER the baby is born.

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Er, Thanx for your not so helpful advice!

Bad advice

i agree she didnt offer any good advice what was the point in replying, glad to see other people on here who are not just skinny, i am trying for a baby with my fiance i am also overweight by a few stone, it doesnt necessarily mean i am unhealthy and yes i wish i could lose some weight before i conceive but its not the end of the world i will stick to a healthy diet if i conceive (i am trying to eat healthily now too )

Sorry...

Sorry, it says in my post that i was complaining of bad crap, this was actually meant to mean bad cramp. How embarrasing!!!

Dont worry wait what they say

hi there i was in the exactly the same situation but i was only five weeks i ad an internal and a acan and they could not see the baby they tell u not to worry and u still do un fortunatly i was un lucky and ad a silent misscarriage but look on the bright side u may be fine u mite not be but you can always try again its not then end of the world just enjoy and relax