hi this is a strange one but i need some help. my oh has always had sleeping problems first falling asleep thenwhen he finally does he makes noises all night like murmering then when he tries to wake up he cant hes trying move but its like sleep paralysis? cant spell save my life and i have to shake him cuz you can hear him groaning cuz hes trying get my attention and then he awake and hes like thank god and you can see the panic in his face but for the last few weeks hes been kicking his legs about in his sleep which is soooo annoying cuz the quilt comes off. anyways at about 5 this morning i was fast asleep and he punched me in the face i jumped up and asked why he did it his eyes were barely open and he just grunted summat and went back sleep so i got up and went the loo i had a nose bleed and a huge red make over my eyebrow so when id stopped the bleeding i went back into the bed room and he was standing right infront of the window as if looking out and the curtains were closed i shouted him3 times and i was only like 3 feet away but he didnt hear methen he just snapped out of it and was like ok what are we doing so i told him that hed just punched me and he didnt believe it so i showed him the mark and he really thought i was lying but i wasnt. now im worried cuz hes been the docs before an they just say its nothing and cuz im 15 weeks pregnant and what happens if he hurt the baby or one of the kids cuz they are always sneaking in our bed.
but hell not sllep on the sofa and i cant ive got that spd(is it i cant remember) + hes drinking tonight and hes worse when he drinks ive looked on the internet and they say becarefull cuz they cant control themselves so hide dangerous stuff. help what should i do

Heya hun,

what an awful situation, it sounds to me like your OH has issues that he needs to deal with, things like this normally occur when there is huge amounts of stress, the DR was wrong to say there was nothing wrong with him, and i really think he should go and see a different GP.

My Hubby had a similar problem when i was pregnant with my first, i would wake up and he would be pressing down on my stomach, and he punched me in the stomach twice too, i woke him up and he was totally oblivious to the fact he had just done it, when i told him what had happened he was so upset, and told me he would sleep on the sofa, as he didn't want to hurt the baby or me.

I got him to go to the DR and they said that Stress/depression can trigger things like this off and that there must have been something that happened that started it all off, we sat down and i let him talk about everything that was bothering him, and it didnt happen again.

I really think you need to get your OH to see how dangerous the situation is not just for you but for your kids aswell, and please get him to go to the DR again, go with him if you can and make sure he is telling them everything, as you know better than he does the kind of things that happen while he is asleep.

I hope it all gets sorted hun, take care of yourself and your little ones and let us know how it all goes.
Much love always
Leitia & Baby R(28+5)

im not the only one this has happened to. ive been doing a litttle reading upon the internet and am gonna show him later. its strange and i thought it was stress cuz we had finally decided what we were going to do and i was sure he hadnt told me exactly how he was feeling. MEN!! well thanks and ill drag him see his doc on monday.
samxx

Heya Sam,

It is a really scary thing to have to deal with, specially when they are in denial about it like your OH seems to be, but i can safely say that you are not alone in this, if you ever need to talk about it then please feel free to PM me.

take care hun and let me know how it goes at the DR's.
much love always
Leitia & Baby R(28+4)