Hi everyone...


I just wanted to say I am having a huge reality check and I think I need talking down from the ledge!!!

Oh my god, I am going to have a baby on Sunday... like this Sunday, as in 4 days time!!

How am I supposed to do that?? I dont want to now... I've changed my mind it's too hard I dont want to do it!!!

I have no idea what labour feels like and I am not relishing the idea to find out AND after all of that I'll have a lil human that people expect me to just take home, know how to look after it and start being a parent!!!

I think I'm having a stroke!!

Obviously I am not insane and I knew this time was coming, but for the past 8 months or so it'd always seemed like such a long way left to go... but it's just dawned on me in all of its horrifying glory that I am supposed to be someones mother in a few days time!!

Oh my god... I cant focus...everything all of a sudden feels absolutely terrifying and I feel so unprepared and I am not sure if I can do it... I feel like a failure already.. oh god!!!

PLEASE tell me this has happened to you when it was your first time??

That was a bit scary, like a panic attack or something!!

Breathe!!!

Well thats my neurosis for now!!

Hope everyone is doing well!

Take care
Aimee & Bump 40wks today
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My god...if it wasnt for this forum I would be found sitting in a darkened corner, rocking gently, clutching a breast pump and weeping into a babygrow...

Thanks for all your posts, it has made me feel so much better... and I can totally understand trying to flee the hospital!

I think I've just about managed to calm down, have made some plans for the next couple days so I'm not just sitting around waiting for this huge scary thing to happen!!

Again thanks for all of your support, it has meant so much to me and I cant wait to be able to let you all know how it goes!

Loads of love

Aimee
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Heya Aimee babes,

i was exactly the same as you specially with my first, i was all nice and calm my waters broke and there was no pain and everything was fine then i woke up the next morning in full blown ready to push labour and i freaked, i told the MW i was going home and that i didn't want to do it any more...the same thing happened with my 2nd and my 3rd i remember with my 3rd i actually tried climbing off the bed as his head was crowning screaming that i had to go home as i wasn't ready.

I wont lie to you it will hurt...BUT!!! (and trust me on this one please) once you see your little one for the first time the pain goes, it is a really bizarre thing but as soon as the baby is out there is no pain, it must be a rush of hormones or something im not sure but it's true, by the next morning you will be feeling bruised and a bit sore but the pain of labour really doesn't linger afterwards.

personally i would be more concerned if you wern't worried about it, it shows that you are preparing yourself mentally for one of the hardest jobs in the world, and trust me when it comes to being expected to know how to look after your little one, no one expects you to know everything, but over time you will learn what your baby's needs are and what each cry means.

take care chick we are all here for you and we will all be thinking of you on Sunday.
much love always
Leitia & Baby R(29+1)

been there myself i was pooping it with my first. then i went over due and that made me worse so ibegged for a swep and i got one at 8 days over dinner time by 5 i was really uncomfortable and by 8 my friend asked if maybe i could be in labour it didnt even occur to me the pains id been having were labour so i rang my mw and she said it sounded like this was it and so i started panicing again. in the hosp about 8 hours later full of pethadine and gas and air i noticed the window was open only and inch or 2 but i was sure it was enough and if i could just get the hell out of there id be fine afterall the pain only got worse since id got in the damn place so i sat there inbetween pains trying to figure out if id brought my umberella with my it was p****in it down and thundering and lightening. i swear i was going nuts. but the gap was too small i could barely fit my hand thru, i soon started to push and he was born at 7.55 am the next morning i had a bath then when i came back in the room he was in the cot and there was no one else i was like OKAY and had a wander over a peeped in the cot and then backed off incase someone came in then i was like dur hes my baby then i was like ill just pick him up but i couldnt quite get him he was too big and so i thort no if i break him that wouldnt be good so i sat on the bed for a bit after 10 mins i peeked back in the cot and then after another 10 the midwife came in to move us. i didnt know what i was allowed do. anyways on the ward it was obvious i had to look after him so i figured out how breast feed him and change him and by the time i went home at dinner the next day i was fine. its just such a shock. its like yeah hes mine but hes not in me anymore so errrr. it was soooo funny looking back and with my daughter i just had her no pain relief and went home 4 hours after. its crazy.
so dont worry everyone gets freaked out with their first just if your gonna climb out of a window check its on the ground floor.

I was exactly the same as you and I'm sure I will be again with this baby when the time draws nearer. I had never really liked kids that much and had had nothing to do with any kids or babies ever but it really all did seem to come naturally, you just kinda grow with your baby and learn as you go on and as for the labour you just cope with each bit as it happens, it wasn't as bad as I'd imagined. My midwife with my first baby told me that when a baby is born so is a mother and it's true, you will be fine when it actually happens - enjoy every minute, my little boy is 2 now and it seems like yesterday I was like you are now.
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dont stress chick you will be suprised how much will come naturaly to you!

i had my first baby at 16 not an ideal age and i was crapping as they sed baby never came home with an how to look after manual haha but as soon as i got him home my fears subsided.

all the best hun for sunday xx shell& bean

Bless you Aimee! I'm sure i will be the same as you! I have just been having a conversation with a lady at work about making up bottles and sterilising the bottles, putting them in the fridge or room temperature and i must say.....help i'm confused!!

I dont know how to bath a baby, hold a baby properly so how the hell am i gonna know how to look after it!! I think i need to buy a book!!

I also think that i will 'give up' if the labour goes on too long, if i get tired when i exercise i always give up, i'm such a woss! I have also had moments where i want to change my mind....but its too late now!!

Good luck on Sunday and please keep us posted to how you get along!

Lots of love

donna (26 weeks)
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well just to let you know YOUR BEING TOTALLY NORMAL! i'd be slightly worried if you didn't have any doubts, you will be fine they won't let you leave until you knwo what your doing you will have ample care and help if you don't think your doing something right and basically listen to your gut feeling cause 99% of the time your right!!! you will be fine on sunday! i think it happenes to everyone no matter how many they have had i had it 1st and second time round! * HUGE hugs* and good luck xxxx